Why do people run from their responsibilities? Who is to blame?

Why do people run from their responsibilities? Who is to blame?
Why do people run from their responsibilities? Who is to blame?
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Sukhdeep Singh

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Passionate about playing with words. Sukhdeep is a Post Graduate in Finance. Besides penning down ideas, he is an expert online marketing consultant and a speaker.

“Not my job. It’s not me. Not my fault. None of my business. I am not the culprit. Oh! I did this because I thought so.” No one wants to take the responsibility of his own actions.

“We all are becoming means and tricky and whenever given a chance, we all want to run away from the things.” Don’t we? We talk a lot about teamwork, team spirit, the homely environment at work, family at work, fun at work, but should you ask your colleague to help you at a certain point – “Hey! Can you check this for me?” And, the proposed reply is going to be ,“Sorry! But, you are knocking the wrong door. Not my cup of tea. You should better ask someone else.” Why do people run from their responsibilities? Who is to blame?

We all want to run away; run away from the responsibilities. Senior team members complain a lot about this “non-serious attitude” of their co-workers. Without any shadow of a doubt, it is becoming self-interest and there is no such thing called – company interest. Senior managements are very much serious about this and they all want a solution to this. But, no one is interested in the reasons.

Before we can understand this concept in detail, we must make ourselves clear about the term – responsibility. Actually, responsibility consists of two components; one is taking responsibility and the second is accepting responsibility. By taking responsibility, I mean – taking responsibilities of your personal behaviors about and consequences of the same. And, accepting responsibility means going a step further from self and helping others. Both of these components are directly related to your character and portray you as a person among others you have encounters with.

Be it taking responsibilities or accepting responsibilities; these two components play a major role in your life. What choices you are going to make in your life depend on upon these two components. You may have a temporary escape by not accepting your responsibilities on any said occasion, but in long-run, it is you, who is going to suffer. The more you run away from the duties, the more duties run away from you and one day, you will be relieved of all duties, thus, work less and moneyless. Believe it or not, it is going to have a devastating effect on your personality.

Running away from your problems or responsibilities is a race that you will never win.

Now, let us understand, why do people, duck responsibilities. Quite logically, people run away from responsibilities because of many reasons like laziness, fear of failure or embarrassment, work overload, stress in their life, biased treatments, illogical comparisons, denial of honoring after a person takes a responsibility, or last, but not the least, tricky behavior of others in some cases. “My attitude depends on how you treat me,” they say. Oh yes! Responsibility, authority, and accountability must flow in the same direction and with the same pace for everyone. Be it personal life or professional, should you fail to maintain the balance, you can expect people running away from responsibilities. However, be it any reason, you cannot succeed in life unless you behave responsibly. It shares a serious connection with emotional competency.

In addition to benefits, stress plays an important role here. Performance under stress always deteriorates. No doubt, you can push the limits of anyone by forcing him to his limits for a few occasions. But, remember, once he reaches his limits, he is going to either going to skip from responsibility or he will give up the seriousness required. “You can bend something to an extent and after that point, it is going to break,” they say. Keep a closer eye on that point. Should you see yourself or your team member approaching that boiling point, introduce some healthy mediation.

So, what can be done to make people not run away from the responsibilities? Is there any way out? Do you think implementing strict policies or harsh penalties can make people learn their responsibility? No, not at all. It is not about penalizing, but benefiting. We need to understand that no one will ever take anything seriously if there is nothing in that for him. In simpler terms, you won’t be doing anything unless you have a benefit out of it. So, to infuse the sense of responsibility in any person concerned, (though not possible in every case), you need to talk about the circumstances that are turning him into an irresponsible personality. Sort those insecurities to the extent possible, provide support and then see them turning things for you.

Take responsibility and initiative for yourself. Stop blaming your circumstances on what you are able to change.