7 Things You Lose When You Keep Saying Sorry

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The Disadvantages of Saying Sorry All The Time
The Disadvantages of Saying Sorry All The Time
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Sukhdeep Singh

Sukhdeep Singh

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Passionate about playing with words. Sukhdeep is a Post Graduate in Finance. Besides penning down ideas, he is an expert online marketing consultant and a speaker.

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  1. Directly impact your reputation.
  2. it presents you like a loser.
  3. People are never going to take you seriously.

Is there anything bad in saying ‘sorry’ over and again? Well, most of us believe that using this one word turns you into a humble person. But, the reality is somewhat different.

When I say ‘sorry,’ I am simply confessing my wrongdoings. Not many us know that when you keep using this one word as a helping verb, you are supposed to lose a lot of things. You are purposely submitting a wrong image of yours. Let me tell you about 7 things you lose when you keep saying sorry for no good reason.

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1Confidence

The first thing you lose is confidence.

Let’s say you have to deliver a presentation and you have already dedicated your one hundred percent for the same. But, then you start the presentation with an apology. This is the moment when you allow people to doubt your findings. In other words, you are going to lose confidence.

It is like doubting on your own work. Hence, there are huge possibilities that the presentation will not go out as expected.

2A chance to self defend

Saying sorry again and again can put you in trouble; you can be labeled as guilty.

Take an example that you were involved in an accident, and when the authorities arrived, out of your habit, you apologized. Now, can you imagine, how big trouble you just landed yourself into?

Whether you are guilty or not, you must not lose the chance of defending yourself. Try every possible thing to narrate the exact incident. So that concerned authorities can rule out your participation in that accident.

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Trust me, saying sorry without being guilty is only going to increase doubts against you and by doing this, you will force the authorities to treat you like an offender.

3Credibility

Sometimes, apologizing too often can directly impact your credibility. Even if it is not your mistake, people will start seeing you as a wrongdoer. People will doubt you for no reason and without listening to your part of the story, they will crown you as a culprit.

4Respect

Poor credibility leads to poor reputation and people don’t respect someone with a poor reputation. Repeated bad reviews about you are surely going to distort the way people look at you.

For an example – assume you are standing in a queue and suddenly someone overtakes you. Now, you are supposed to tell him to follow the queue. But, if you start your conversation with a sorry, then there are huge possibilities that he is not going to give a shit to your request.

5Self-esteem

I am not saying that you should never use this word, but incorrect use means loss of self-esteem.

Frame yourself in a party, where everyone is drinking. Suddenly, a person bumps into you and his drink spills on your dress. Now, whose fault is this? Practically, no ones. But, at this instance, your apology would make things confusing for everyone.

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How about saying, “watch-out dude” instead of saying “sorry?” But, if you are the one who apologizes first, you are going to lose self-esteem because you have already accepted that it was your mistake.

6Friendship or Romantic Relationships

We all know what role communication plays and how it is a key to a successful relationship. But, if you keep presenting yourself as the ‘sorry man’ without any reason, it may represent you as a person who is always in the favor of avoiding discussions and burying problems.

7Identity

Undoubtedly, you are going to lose your identity because once you lose your credibility and respect, nobody is going to take you seriously. The fact is – with every useless apology, you are going to lose your identity.

This habit of your is going to lower your self-confidence. Things that you need discussions on, people will never take them seriously. People will take you for granted.

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When you apologize too often, you will represent yourself as an uncertain and unattractive personality. Always remember, the first impression is the last impression.

Mark my words; This world is ruled by rulers and not by apologists.