So take a deep breath, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, start all over again.
Many people are afraid to give up the past and take over again because they feel comfortable in their routine, even if it prevents them to be happy. Throughout life, we encounter many situations and take many decisions and some of them require us to restart. There are wounds that need to heal and only with courage and determination we can give the suffering to find our happiness. A letter from a scratch is not easy. I have been to the same experience and today, I would like to share a few basic strategies to cope with these difficult personal issues.
To leave it all behind and start it all over again was never easy for me and I must say, it is never easy for anyone. Nobody loves to change, especially if those changes are drastic and if they force us to leave behind everything we defined before. But, when you start over, you have to deal with other challenges. You need to find out new ways to be happy because a fresh start means to have full control over your own life. Every decision you make leads to a certain outcome, and we must not forget that we are the architects of our reality.
A new path in life should be welcomed with enthusiasm and ability to cherish the present moment. If you have ever gone through a difficult period, you understand the emotional complexity of confrontation with hostile circumstances. Any change, even a “restart” personal, occurs in several stages. The moment when you realize you have to give up something or someone is the toughest moment. As mentioned above, a change involves an act of courage and not each of us is capable of it. For many people, these conditions become chronic.
Fear of failure prevents try. Not confident enough to become an active part of the change and to face life. Despite unhappiness, their reality is, they do not want to take the risk of changing anything. But, there are people who know they deserve to be happy, and they follow their own path. They are least bothered about what others have to say about them. They leave behind all that hurt them and prevent. When you want to start over, you need to make up your mind. You need to prepare yourself before you can prepare others for your change.
You need to liberate yourself from the past. But, ask yourself, can you free yourself from the past with no pain at all? No, you cannot. Any change involves a certain degree of suffering, a rupture of your mind, a departure from all those things that were the center of the dreams, hopes and your plans. To move forward, you have to give up resentment and hatred. We all know that to forgive is not easy, but you need to recover your freedom.
If you let bitterness define the relationship or your vision of events in life, mistakes, you’ll only wear a permanent pain. Make the change that you need to free your soul from hate and enmity. You need to learn to defend your future with new dreams. One thing is clear: you go through several changes during your life. Some are minor, such as binding of new friends, a new job or a diet food and these are the frequent changes which may benefit you. But, there are times when you forced to have bigger changes like the relationship with the partner, moving to another city. But, in every case, you must understand that nor that change is first one neither the last one.
Do not be afraid of what others think or how they will react. If you want, you can anticipate these reactions and prepare your own arguments. However, if you are unsure of the decision taken, the views of others should not matter: you’ve already decided your fate and you have chosen to start over again. Life is not a straight. Sometimes change is necessary for your happiness and inner balance.