Relationships – How To Turn An Argument Into A Productive Discussion

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Sukhdeep Singh

Sukhdeep Singh

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Passionate about playing with words. Sukhdeep is a Post Graduate in Finance. Besides penning down ideas, he is an expert online marketing consultant and a speaker.


Have you ever thought that a quarrel between the couple can be converted into a constructive discussion?

Nobody like fights, especially when it is between a married couple. However, these little unplanned verbal exchange of words can eliminate many differences and can take your relationship to next level. But, for that, you should be completely aware of the right steps. No doubts, even a minor argument between the couple can results in the injury of feelings, annoyance, and frustration for countless hours. Conversely, a constructive discussion can bring you closer. Learn here how to turn an argument into a productive discussion.

Stop Accumulating Frustrations

Patience plays an important role. But, by all mean, you should not accumulate stresses, frustration, the indifference of ideologies, and other problems. Instead of talking about your partner, talk to your partner.

It is all about releasing the stress because this is how you can bring your frustrations to an end. Talk, talk and talk because that is the only solution.

Stop Screaming For Nothing

According to experts, your verbal tone plays an important role during quarrels. Using a low tone can convert a fight into the constructive discussion, whereas high tone will surely attract opposite results.

Your tongue got no bone, but it can get your bones crack. Jokes apart. When you have good control over your verbal tone, you can problems very easily and without hurting the feeling of others.

Take A Break

When you feel angry, the best thing to do is – take a break. During the verbal clash, have a little pause and try a breathing exercise. I know it is not easy because during the fight we want to prove ourselves not guilty. However, taking a break is very important.

You can always get yourself away from the sight. This break can help you visualize what you normally do during a conflict (you blame your partner, you scream, you hang yourself, etc.) and what you should be doing to not cause damage to the relationship.

Do Not Argue With An Empty Stomach And Exhausted Head

It may sound strange and absurd, but according to specialists of human behavior, never argue when you’re tired or hungry. When you have distractions around, you won’t be able to concentrate on other important things.

You will feel like winding up the discussion the sooner you can and in that hurry, you will avoid discussing the real thing. So, if you want to convert your verbal arguments into productive discussions, it is better to avoid verbal clash when you are hungry or angry.

Try to explore the empathy corners because that is where you can learn the most valuable lessons from. Trust me, when you’re in a quarrel when you listen to things emphatically, you can turn tense moments in understanding, facilitating, troubleshooting.

Finally, it is very important to not to deviate from the real topic of discussion. You are not supposed to add things, but try to sort out the issue you had clash about.