There comes a time in our life, when we say “yes” to the things that we do not want to say yes to and later we regret. Trust me, saying yes halfheartedly is nothing, but one among the other bigger reasons responsible for a failure.
Believe me, “yes” for everything is not a sign of being positive. The reason being, once you say “yes”, but you actually want to say “no”, it keeps disturbing, pinching, and pricking you, internally. We feel that by saying no, we might be losing an opportunity and this is our biggest mistake. In fact, we lose more in agreeing than denying. Through this article, I would like to share a real-life success story of a friend, who taught me why you should never say yes when you want to say no.
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I have a very close friend who is an electrical engineer by profession, but he was very interested in going abroad and real-estate trading. He often used to talk about real-estate trading and investing money in the foreign properties. Even though he was doing awesome with his career as an electrical engineer, yet, one day, all of sudden, he decided that want to quit his present job and move to Canada or permanent basis.
When he mentioned this to me, I fully supported his idea. However, his father (who was a government officer in those days) was completely opposed because my friend was already making good money in a reputed private firm. Upon hearing his decision, his father not only abused him but scolded me as well for encouraging him.
He told me how his boss gave him all kinds of temptations when When he told him about resigning from the current job. Despite all opposition, he moved to Canada. Like any other migrant, he had to face countless adjustment difficulties. Nevertheless, he did not give up and after getting a diploma, he was hired by a famous Canadian mobile company as their circuit engineer.
But his dream was still incomplete. He narrated me how he used to work as an engineer in the company, and after work, he used to travel 40 kilometers to attend his real-estate course classes. After course completion, he got his real-estate trading license and since then, he is a part-time real-estate agent as well. It has been almost 10 years since he went to Canada and he now owns 8 villas in Canada. A few months ago, he has sponsored his parents to Canada on the permanent basis.
His father came to meet me before leaving and asked for forgiveness. He told me that he was wrong. If at that time he had forced his son to not to leave, he would not have been so successful today.
I am not saying that people cannot taste such a huge success in India. All I want to say is that if your intentions are strong, then reaching any destination is not impossible.
In fact, nothing stops you from grabbing a real opportunity, but a fake opportunity. To be successful you need to choose the right opportunity very intelligently. Always remember that in this materialistic world, every human is self-centric and whatever they do, they do it for the benefits of their own. Therefore, it is better to make a wise decision before saying “yes” or “no” than regretting later for the same.
In case of career, you have to be very selfish and self-centric, to an extent, as well. I agree that we all have different opinions when it is about defining happiness in the life. However, be it any case, in this materialist world, to live a happy life, you need to be financially strong. I believe, the economic strength, to a large extent, depends only upon the decisions you make in life. Now, I don’t have to tell you tend to have wrong financial decisions if you are not emotionally intelligent.