How your relations with others are going to be, depend on two things – what is in your destiny and what is in your pocket? Sometimes I wonder, if money and relationships are two sides of the same coin.
No wonder, today my economic condition is much better than before, but I still remember the time when I was struggling to get a good life. Even today, when I remember those bad days, I feel really embarrass. My bad time told me a lot of things. The first ever lesson I had was – money and relationships are two sides of the same coin.
“Bury your old memories and let the sleeping dog lie.” I had enough of this. In reality, it is very difficult to come out of your past. Perhaps for this reason, I still love those old days that has given only wounds and marks. But then I think that for whom should I go back? Seeing the reality behind relationships and money, I am no more interested in socialization.
Relationships are now so materialistic that blood-brothers are filing lawsuits on blood-brothers and real sisters are conspiring against their own real sisters. If I am visiting my relatives in a BMW, I will be having a different treatment. And, if I am a two-wheeler rider, I will be treated as if I was never expected.
Be it blood relations or others, money and your social status are playing a major role. I am talking about wallet size because heart size barely matters.
Despite knowing that this materialism is breeding unhappiness, yet we are favoring it. A wedding ceremony, a date, valentines’ day, birthday bash, family or office parties or even a dinner with family; if we are not spending millions, we are not happy.
Actually, we are competing with others and sometimes with our own siblings. Our happiness is in their hands now. We all are becoming praise hungry and love is long gone. We find happiness out of a place madly decorated with expensive chandeliers or well-dressed waiters.
Tell me if you agree; do you feel the same happiness in a five-star hotel that you had with your dad when he bought an ice-cream for you from a roadside ice-cream seller? It is not about hygiene actually because we all know the truth behind the glorified hygienic standards of these five-star places. We are actually running after status symbols.
I want my name in the properties because that is the definition of love and trust for me. I want my relatives to treat me like a VIP because that is what makes me feel happy. I fear from sharing my ideas with anyone, but I want people to comment on my facebook status, once I am done with something.
I want to scream about my gifts and possession and I want people to notice it. Be it, my close friend or brother, I do not want to be tagged by someone who is not of my financial standards. I feel like skipping when I see an old friend or a relative, not so good with his life.
We all getting it wrong. We should appreciate the values and feelings instead judging people on their materialistic belongings. Time changes and success is not permanent. “Who can spend on me,” is not as important as, “who will stand by me.”
There is a close relation observed between materialism, a lack of empathy and engagement with others, and unhappiness.