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Sex Confessions – Love, Sex And Blackmailing – Where are we going?


I was watching a crime show the other day. It was an episode based on a revenge case. A girl murdered her ex-bf with the help of her current boyfriend because her ex boyfriend was blackmailing her. 

In the middle of the story, I was thinking is it really so easy to kill someone and how can you blackmail his/her lover? Though cops were working on the multiple theories to find out who the real criminal is and why he/she murdered, but to me the only reason was LUST? It was all about love, sex and blackmailing.

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I am sorry, but love has nothing to do with hurting someone in any manner. Love is all about seeing your beloved one happy and not about seizing your own happiness.

I remember, earlier people used to say, “If you love someone, set them free. If they return, they were always yours, if they don’t, they never were.” But, nowadays, it is like, try to forget me and I will give you thousands of reasons to never forget me.

I am talking about iPhone and social media freak generation. In such a generation, the only person you can trust is whose phone is not locked. Every freaking person is looking for an chance to look into the dark secrets of someone.

Gone are those days, when proposing someone was a matter of ‘life and death’. Nowadays, not only adults, but you can even see toddlers with valentine flowers. It makes me feel as confused as a kid in a half-naked bar. Be it dusty windows of the car, stinking public toilets, waiting lounges, electric poles, trees dipped in bird-shits, smelly walls of vacant plots or back seats of the buses, these road-romeos leave no space.

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(Hidden intentions) Boy – “I will be making secret videos of our secret moments. I will be saving all your text messages and emails. I will be saving all your pictures that you are sharing with me on social media. And, the moment you try to ditch me for any reason, I will put everything on the internet. I will make you famous in a way that no one else will dare to accept you.” Will you be my girlfriend?

(Hidden intentions) Girl – “ Oh really! I know your intentions. Probably, you don’t know mine. This is not my first time. Before you even think of making those images live or morph, I will be lodging a FIR (fake) against you. I will spoil your career and the stigma won’t leave you until you die.” Do you still want to be my boyfriend?

I have discovered something about modern love and I might be wrong. To me, today love is either give and take or emotional blackmail. Love these days is only about watching romantic movies and that too on the corner-seats, expensive gifts, night-outs, and living relationships.

No offense, but now lovebirds do keep options and when one fail, they are ready with another one. We cannot deny, love has become a mode of satisfying our needs, whether physical or financial.

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Correct me if I am wrong – 99.999 percent couples, despite being completely aware of their relationship’s destiny, barely shy away from crossing their moral limits. Youngsters call it broad-mindedness but I name it as cheapness.

“We met, we hugged, we kissed, we shared the bed, but then we realized we were not made for each other. This is actually a consistent loop (of partner finding) that we love to initiate after every breakup and keep it on repetitions unless a marriage proposal ‘forced on us’ puts a full stop.”

With a few exceptions, in these days, the simple logic behind any (dating) relationship’s survival is an uninterrupted functioning of the barter system i.e. exchanging good and service for other good and services. The moment there comes an obstacle in this ‘exchange’ – it either a time for action (breakup) or reaction (revenge).Cases of rape or acid attacks after rejection (proposal) are nothing new. Do you see love here? I don’t see at all. Now, lovers are not ready for making any sort of sacrifices. It is all about cheating and sex.

You will find many people saying that they were true on their part, but their partner was not. Oh Come on. To tell, what a relationship was all about is as easy as changing a kid’s nappy.

  1. If your partner compels you to come over when no one is at home,
  2. Doesn’t want to go out, never talks about family,
  3. Never want to hear about your family,
  4. All your phone conversations and text message are about sex,
  5. All you have is a cell number of your partner, no meeting in public,
  6. You initiate all communications,
  7. Barely cares about your feelings

Check it out . If you have yes for all the above said points, congratulations, it is all about sex and no love.

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Well, just for the records, I am not opposing sex. Without a commitment, if you are having sex, let me whisper it, this is not love, but one-night stand with multiple partners.

Finally, I would say – Sex is a part of love. You shouldn’t go around doing It unless you are in love.