People often ask us that their partner (in most cases husbands) ask for sex, every now and then. According to many women, talking about sex or having sex reflect your mental state. Many people have also told us that due to sex (absence or excessive sex demand), their marital life is getting worse. Through this article, we would like to tell you how along with love, trust, and integrity, sex plays a major role in maintaining a happy marriage. Apart from this, we will also discuss some sex-related questions.
1Is it wrong to think about sex (excessive)? Why do some people think about sex at the same time?
Not only in India, even in foreign countries, many people believe that the way you think about sex defines you. It can either define you as a sage or a pervert. Many women believe that men always think about sex.
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But you would be surprised to know that according to a research, it is 19 times a day on an average when a man thinks about having sex and for ladies, it is nearly 10 times a day.
The experts say, it varies from person to person and it is more of a question about a person’s comfort level with his or her sexuality; one who is highly confused, is going to discuss it more.
2Can absence of sex or excessive demand cause a divorce?
Yes. It is true that the absence of sex (emotional) or the demand for excessive sex can both cause divorce. There are several cases where the excessive and insatiable desire for sex became a reason for divorce. Do you know there are cases where men have been granted a divorce after they proved – denial of sex by the wife that amounted to mental cruelty?
Do you know that the court has recognized that marriage without sex is an anathema; more likely a body without blood.
3Is sex just a physical necessity? What is the difference between normal sex and emotional sex?
Not true. It is an illusion that sex is a physical need. Yes, to an extent it is a physical need, but it is an emotional need, as well. There are studies going on about how satisfied couples are with their marriage on the basis of sex.The results were strange – the lovebirds that had more sex, are rather happier and positive about each other.
Sex is a vital thing and something that differentiate you as a couple from just being a routine room-sharing partner. Instead, making it a taboo, we must start admitting that sex is an emotional thing and having the sex means an emotionally well-connected couple. Do get me right here, I am not talking about deadwood kind of sex, where partners are not actively involved.
A responsible and healthy sex requires a deep level of trust, comfort level and security on the top.
4How many times a week is it necessary to have sex?
This question is often asked how many times a couple should have sex in a week. How many times a couple should have sex in a week is not a question. But, the real question is – are they really feeling connected even if they are having it once in a week.
If you have sex without the consent of your partner every day, then it is going to kill your marriage relationship. On the contrary, if you do sex even once a week, but you do it like two emotionally attached souls, it is much better.
5How sex help marriages?
The sexual behavior of a female partner and emotional needs of a man, both are directly related. Women need to understand the husband’s psychology behind his sexual expectations from his wife. Not surprisingly, a man feels more loved and desired when his sexual needs are met.
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Most of the men, even if they are surrounded by friends, live with a deep sense of loneliness and making love or having sexual intercourse is the purest ointment for this sort epidemic.
Adding to it, not many of the women know that sexual pleasure that you are giving to your men gives them a sense of confidence. Can I tell you dear ladies – “your no for sex means a rejection of your men.” In addition, if you are just having it because you are supposed to have it – you are again rejecting him, but in a different way.
6Why is it important to involve emotionally, while having sex?
Be it any relationship, if we are not emotionally attached, then we cannot do anything to save our relationship; at the end, it is going to die. If a couple has lost this emotional connection for any reason, then the results will be bad.
Similarly, if we talk about sex, then it is useless to imagine emotional involvement during sex in such a relationship.
Be it a man or woman, without mutual satisfaction; sex is nothing, but more of a one-sided cricket match with a weak team who has already surrendered.
7What are the reasons for the reduction of interest in sex?
The primary reasons behind the increasing cases of lack of sexual attractiveness or low sexual desire among couples behind others are – lack of genuine feeling for one’s partner.
If husbands are told to be kind, appreciative, generous, giving, then women must know how to deal with their psychological problems that are the main culprit behind their ever decreasing sex drives. They need to learn how to be more forgiving, and how to bluntly discuss their problem in a logical way.
You need to learn how you can work on your self-esteem and you need to be more open with your expectations from your partner. Tell your partner, what all things he can do so that you find him more attractive. Whatever the reasons are, rebuilding sexual interest is a must.