Regardless of how strong the relationship is, couples have to deal with arguments and fights. According to experts, these fights (within limits) are very important for the betterment of a relationship. But, the question here arises that what happens after the fight. It is natural to have some cracks in the relationship after an argument or serious fight. In that case, if it is between the husband and wife, then this crack can also be a reason for divorce. So, in this article, I will be talking about a few tips that you can follow to save your relationship after a fight and taking it back to the earlier state.
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When we fight with someone, we take everything on our ego. In such a situation, we try hard to win arguments because we consider winning as our pride. To do this, we do every possible thing to shift the blame. Honestly, this is wrong.
In such a situation, where our has already lost his/her cool patience, instead of counter-arguments, we should try to find out the cause of that dispute. And we can do this only by maintaining our patience. This can happen only when we take a step back.
To do this, during the fight, we must keep quiet and let our partner speak his heart. At this point, we must behave like a good listener. By doing this not only he/she will be able to spit his anger, but he/she will also realize his mistake. Finally, the relationship becomes as sweet as it was before that fight.
Apologies are considered as accepting defeat. But this is wrong. According to me, if you want to maintain the sweetness of the relationship, do not delay in apologizing.
When you realize that you are the reason behind that fight, you should immediately accept your mistake and apologize honestly.
By not apologizing, you may win for some time, but in the future, you have to pay a heavy price for this mistake in terms of a rift in the relationship.
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There is no doubt that it is harder to forgive than seeking forgiveness. But if you want to maintain a relationship, and want to have the sweetness back, then practice forgiveness.
If you find it difficult, then think that you too must have done something equally bad or you must have used the same foul language. In such a case, if you do not forgive, then after realizing your mistake, you won’t be able to seek forgiveness.
4Do Not Be Your Own Enemy
Increase your tolerance and do not become rude to yourself. Do not become your enemy. Some mistakes are natural, which inadvertently happens. Therefore, keep on practicing forgiveness and tolerance to maintain the sweetness of the relationship. Doing so will make it easier for you to forgive others.
Although it is commonly said that the dispute should be resolved quickly. But remember that in severe cases (serious fights) you should wait a bit before trying the settlement. Logically, the only reason behind this interval is allowing your partner with some time to pacify his anger. Undoubtedly, we do lose our calm during a fight and often say things that are not easy to forget. We need time to heal those wounds of the tongue. In those cases, if you want to maintain the sweetness of the relationship, then put a little interval before trying again.
By taking care of these small things you will not only be able to maintain the sweetness of the relationship but after the fight, you will be able to restate the relationship to its earlier state. It is important to have a fight in relationships and equally important is to understand and remove the cause of the dispute. But, to do this, you need patience, maturity and a sense of understanding.