After the home, the office is just another place, where we spend a significant amount of our time, hence, falling in love with a coworker is nothing to wonder about. But I hope, you must know that a small mistake made in expressing these feelings can easily land you in the quagmire of troubles and you may have to deal with serious troubles in regard to your career. Therefore, it is very important to understand the right way to express your love for a co-worker.
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Before you show love to your coworker, you have to take care of many things. The importance of these things should not be underestimated because acceptance or rejection of your proposal depends on these things.
1Understand the truth of relationship
Before starting any relationship, it is very important to understand the truth of that relationship. What you want from that relationship, accepting the truth from your heart, is the first step. Many time people get confused between attraction and one-sided love. Undoubtedly, in the beginning, every relationship is a one-sided. But without having a clear vision of the truth of the relationship, it is stupid to expect anything in return. For example, if your coworker is happily married, thinking about expressing your love for her is like ignoring the reality of the relationship. This relationship is never going to work.
To understand the truth of the relationship, you need to ask yourself a few questions such as what you want from this relationship, what effect will this relationship have on your personal life, how are you going to take the rejection, will you be able to work at the same workplace or not?
2Establish yourself in your coworker’s eyes
Establish yourself in your coworker’s eyes before expressing your love. If you are going to approach like a stranger, 100%, your proposal will face rejection. It is more important to establish yourself than to be around your coworker all the time. At any cost, you are not supposed to expose your feeling before the right time as this mistake can land you and your coworker in troubles.
3Learn to decode the reactions
It is very important to understand the negative and positive reactions given after your expression. Learn to decode and distinguish between these positive and negative signs –
- Always after a chance to talk to you.
- Trying to be close to you frequently.
- Retaliate when you talk to other girls.
- Show possessiveness about you.
- Supports your every move without obstruction.
- Always vote for you.
- Respond to the mere mention of your name.
- Run away from you or always look for an escape.
- Ignoring your presence.
- Do not give much importance to your talk.
- Showing annoyance when you are around.
- Always opposing your statements.
These are a few hints with which you can understand whether your coworker is interested in you or not. Only after understanding these signals, you should move forward.
4Never cross your limits
Every relationship has a limit and it is not good to cross that boundary. In the same way, when talking about expressing your love for a co-worker, you have to respect the boundaries of your relationship and office. Do not give any statement or pass any comment without calculation because it could damage your reputation. It is very important to maintain the confidentiality of such relationships till the right time. For girls, privacy is necessary for a (true and honest) relationship. Also, the more you share, the more questions will be asked.
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5Before and after the proposal
To a considerable extent, the decision on your proposal depends upon the timing and style of proposing. Do not forget that privacy is a major concern and you must not overlook the importance of it.
Before proposing, you have to take special care of many things such as selection of the place, the choice of time and the method, as well. One wrong move and you will definitely face a rejection. Also, you should be prepared for any decision, be it a yes or no.
According to many employers, these kinds of relationship are negatively related to the employee’s productivity. Moreover, work is not a place to form relationships.
To an extent, they are right and perhaps this is the only reason why most companies have a clause against personal relationships in their employment agreement. Sometimes, these kinds of relationship lead to favoritism, bias, ethics, and conflict of interest.