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How to break up with someone without hurting him
How to break up with someone without hurting him

How to breakup with someone without hurting

Sukhdeep Singh

Sukhdeep Singh

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Passionate about playing with words. Sukhdeep is a Post Graduate in Finance. Besides penning down ideas, he is an expert online marketing consultant and a speaker.


Sometimes we fall in love with the uninspired person. Sometimes the nicest man in the universe tries to monopolize our soul. Sometimes things don’t work and the nights become longer than ever.

Life is strange. Nowadays, we barely need an excuse to break a relationship. It is not always money behind the premature death of a relationship. Things go wrong between people and instead of finding out what went wrong, most of the time, they prefer giving up.

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However, breaking up is not always an easy option, especially when it about breaking with someone, we are still in love. Before giving up, we want to try every possible thing. But, after trying everything required for the survival of the relationship, giving up becomes very important.

You want to break up. You are desperately seeking an exit, but at the same time, you don’t want to hurt that person. The challenge is – how to break up with someone without hurting him. Well, here is how you can do that.

Before breaking up with someone, start by distancing. Possibly avoid holidays and special occasions such as birthdays, anniversaries, or weddings because you do not have the flashback every time.

Choose The Time And Place

Statistics show that most students split up during the summer when everyone goes home, but for the rest of the world on Monday seems to be the best day.

Before that, be sure you want to permanently finish the relationship. Never break up with someone without being reconciled with the thought that you would ever reconcile.

When you are sure that you really want to wind things up – choose a neutral place to break the news. The best would be a place where you do not make the other feel bad; the more withdrawn the more suitable. But, in case you expect an aggressive reaction, it is better to choose a place surrounded with people.

Wear Your Courage

Nice it would be to tell your partner that you want to personally break up, not through an intermediary, not on the phone and in any event by e-mail or letter. Use these methods of breaking up only if the relationship is relatively new or you already had a few very unpleasant meetings.

Prepare yourself for everything thing. When it is about breaking up, do not forget that whatever you do and whatever you say, is going to attack that person.

Even if you have joint plans, such as children, jobs, moving to another city or buying a new home; when life ask you to go in different directions, face it face to face, it is the normal way to end a stage in life.

Avoid Being Sensitive

Be sincere, but do not miss to put yourself in the other’s place. Nobody likes to be abandoned, but at least we know how to appreciate all the truth. You have more to gain if you have a positive attitude and do not you bring out the tiniest flaws.

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So, be careful when you breakup. You must decide if the relationship really deserved to end and think about the future of your partner as well, but keep personal future at priority.

Avoid to stay in a relationship just because you are afraid to be alone. Walk in diplomacy, but avoid feeling bad about someone just because you fell that you hurt him.

Do Not Finish With Bad Terms

A breakup can be painful, but it’s more painful to feel alone in two. Better wait until you are sure of what you want than to suggest a break. But, at the same time, it is not nice to be on hold for an indefinite period of time.

Ask yourself constantly if you really love the person you want to have broken up with. But, once you are sure, keep your emotions in check. Give your partner the required time. Do not finish things on bad terms.

Never Do It All of Sudden

The accepting breakup is not an easy thing for everyone. Some people do not know how to react to a breakup, feel ignored, useless or simply do not understand what is happening?Some scream or cry others block their feelings. Please note that rejection hurts.

If the situation takes a negative turn, simply ignore things. It is preferable to stay friends for a certain amount of time. During that period, try to work on distancing yourself. No matter, how strong you are, you still need to work on your emotions and patience.

After delivering your standpoint, try to get calm and listen to what your partner has to say until the language remains civilized.