Are you the one who leaves the pitch right after first delivery; within one minute of penetration? The technical name of this embarrassing situation is – “premature ejaculation”.
In the books of medicines, this term is known as a condition that causes men to have little or no control over their ejaculation. How about if I tell you that 1 in 5 men are affected? Yet there are many effective ways in which this problem can be addressed. In this article, we will be talking about causes and home remedies for premature ejaculation.
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History of Premature Ejaculation
Alfred Kinsley was the man who first defined the problem. He discovered (in 1940) that a large proportion of the male population cum within minutes after the start of sexual stimulation. His research was limited to the cases of premature ejaculation within 3 minutes. Similar studies have been repeated, and the results varied. There are several names for this problem, but premature ejaculation is used as a scientific term for the problem of orgasm quickly in men.
Premature Ejaculation's Causes
The bottom line is – men and their sexual fantasies at a very early age. Although the men become sexually mature at the age of fifteen years, yet their first sexual encounter occurs at the age of twenty. The gap between desiring for sex and actually having it is filled with masturbation. During this gap period, masturbation becomes a sexual routine and this leads to a poor control over ejaculation.
Whenever we get a chance for sex, we get excited before doing it, i.e. mentally we are already done. This also happens because we are not sexually mature and do not want to give up any opportunity to have sex. In simple words, our initial excitements make us cum in the brain before we can cum on the bed.
The ‘Want’ Phase
You are now aware of your sex drive and you will seek sexual activities. With a partner or without a partner, you often want to get out of your clothes. And, if not sex, then it is going to be masturbation.
At this stage – the only important thing for you is your own orgasm and this will become your only ‘want’! You just want to cum. Many men describe this stage as the moment when they begin to fantasize about ejaculation.
The Checklist Phase
During this phase, your body prepares for the ejaculation. A number of physical steps must be put in to get ready. If not, then it is virtually impossible for our body to ejaculate. My point is – a 20 seconds’ imagination is not what you need for ejaculating. You need to prepare your body for a longer duration.
The (Pre) Point of No Return
I used the word ‘pre’ because these are the last moments before the actual point of no return. This point is considered as the last chance to influence our orgasm before we ejaculate and lose control.
Possible Solutions and Techniques against Premature Ejaculation
Relieve Mental Stress
You can expect an increase in stress not only during sex but also before having it. When you are ready to have sex with a particular woman, you hope that you won’t disappoint and you try to make sure that everything goes well. Men who suffer from premature ejaculation, actually suffer from a fear of their premature ejaculation.
When you’re in such a situation, you lose your mental control way before you lose your belt. The fear (of premature ejaculation) that you take with you into the bedroom, will ensure that you finish off very quickly. In such a situation, it is advisable that you should talk to your partner about the problem. The core idea behind that discussion is disclosing your fears so that you can walk in the room with full enthusiasm.
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Postpone Physical Stress and Orgasm
I don’t need to tell you that physical efforts and sex go hand in hand. In order to achieve pleasure and orgasm, there are a lot of actions, which require the best use of your muscles that otherwise you rarely utilize. In fact, muscle creates the tension behind the premature ejaculation. This muscle tension is one among other causes of premature ejaculation.
The more physical stress, the sooner you will finish.
The best solution here is – a body massage. Ask your partner to give you a complete body massage. It is going to reduce the tension; both physical and mental. Alternatively, you can also give her a body massage. By doing this, you can shift your focus on her, and reduce the tension. Meditation and yoga exercises are also a good way to get more rest.
The Cone Exercise to Control the Orgasm
The Kegel exercises are a good way to delay orgasm, but you need patience and time before you can enjoy results. It is not so easy to get control over the pelvic floor muscle. It is the muscle that tightens you if you want to keep your urine. This same muscle should come to be in a tension when the body wants to go to ejaculation. To gain ejaculatory control, you tighten the muscle and relax the same for a specified amount of seconds.
The Start-Stop Method
The start-stop method is an ideal method to better identify the point of no return. You cannot only use this method during sex but also while masturbating. The trick is to always stop the later timing. If you continually postpone quitting, you’ll be getting closer to the point of no return. After practice, you can then influence your ejaculation period.
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Have you ever noticed that during masturbation you breathe faster? In this method, you should stop for a few seconds until you notice that the excitement is about to die. Then, you start again, and this time, you need to hold yourself for a little extra time.
You keep doing this practice until you learn to judge your “point of no return.” The better you know how the point of no-return feels like, the better you will learn how to intervene yourself during sex to delay orgasm. Finally, premature ejaculation has no chance.