Being Single – I am single and I am loving it.

Being Single - I am single and I am loving it.
Being Single - I am single and I am loving it.
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Sukhdeep Singh

Sukhdeep Singh

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Passionate about playing with words. Sukhdeep is a Post Graduate in Finance. Besides penning down ideas, he is an expert online marketing consultant and a speaker.

I really enjoy being single again. I spent a lot of time in a relationship and the nearer we came to the end, the more difficult it got. You don’t see things clearly as long as you are still involved – Dido Armstrong

Disappointments in love can make you lose your trust from couple relationship and from others too. But, being single can save you from those. Try it. It is like a glass vase, once broken you can glue it back, but it won’t give you same look and feel. People start seeing everyone with doubt, once they experience the failure of a beautiful relationship. Undoubtedly, you are going to get yourself away from this epidemic called, “love,” and would love shout aloud – “I am single and being single is awesome.”

Actually, you are trying to protect yourself from future disappointments. Like everyone else (or most of us), I was in love too. I was so badly in love with someone that on the basis of a few months’ (foundationless) relationship, I constructed my dream house. And, one fine day, my dream house shattered like card’s pyramid.

After many disappointments in love, I decided to stay single and be happy! I am single and I am happy with my life. What irritates me most is people’s thinking about singles or being single. To them, everyone who is single is a lonely soul and they do need someone alongside, a couple relationship. But, let me tell you the truth – I decided to be alone for a while and not to get into relationships of love and it has been almost 10 years, I am enjoying my single status.

People say love is a beautiful thing, as long as it remains real and honest. Hold your horses; I would like to contradict this statement too. In my case, my love was real, but I had to bear that pain and the worst part was – I was all alone during that journey of pain. Now, I strongly believe that there is no such thing called ‘true love.’ I would also like to advise those who are going through the pain of separation, one day the pain is also going to disappear. So far, I have seen a lot of couple relationships dying in the middle of the journey. A few of them willingly killed their relationships, while in few other cases, it was strangulated to death by society. I went through this pain multiple times; it was not only my relationships as a couple, but other too.

When you are broken inside, the rest of the world makes sure to break you from outside; be it through their taunts or filthy comment, they leave no chance of hurting you. With every broken relationship, I felt like a part of me is missing, like we lost something precious. But, that was an old story until I decided to fight back. And I decided to keep myself out of their bullshit. I managed to come out of my breakup pain.

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When my first couple relationship ended ugly, with accusations, insults, and threats, people around me blamed that I behaved childishly and that was not the right time for me to be in a relationship. Usually, this is how most of the relationship that you form in teenage ends. But, the second time, when I was matured enough, my relationship with my family member failed because we rushed out of a passion for keeping the relationship alive and we became faultfinders. There were series of disputes and fights between us. I would rather name it as maturity clashes. To them, I was wrong and to me, they were not getting my point. Anyhow, I preferred to drop that relationship before it reached its threshold; I decided to quit as it was getting poisoning.

After a series of crying and self-cursing, I decided to stay alone, and not to be a part of any relationship. I believe, all that matters is your happiness because everybody around this world is running after his happiness only. At the end of the day, no one is concerned about how you feel or how bad you are inside. This world is so full of mean people that they would not shy from laughing at your back, right after they turn their back or you show them yours.

I dare you to name one single relationship that lasts forever. I believe, nowadays relationships are nothing, but give and take. Be it any relationship, if you cannot be a receiver all the time. Today, I believe that there is no need to wipe someone tears. I am saying this because of my personal experience. I used to be one, who never refrained myself from walking that extra mile when it was about helping someone. But, when the adversities hit me, I saw no one on my side. I held you people responsible for my this self-centered attitude. Now, I personally don’t feel like having someone to love me.

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I decided to remain single and have no relationship just because of my disappointments in love. It’s about everything I saw around me; six years working in a big company, I witnessed half a dozen people having divorces even after a stable financial condition. I do not deny that there is happy relationship, though so little (to be cherished precisely why); I do not deny nor love can be wonderful.

But, for now, I decided to be alone and enjoy my “goodies” because I do not want to go through the pain end. Trust me, friends, there is a lot more you can do when you are single that you might not be able to do in a relationship. It is not going to be easy at the beginning, but once you start enjoying your company, you are going to love it. I don’t think so anyone else can buy me happiness, but me. And, I cannot

Single is not a status, it is the word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others.