Consequences and regrets; life is full of these two elements. But, the worst thing that can happen to anyone is – paying a price for the others’ mistakes.
There is nothing more painful, then asking yourself, “what is my fault and why am I paying for others’ mistakes?
Ever noticed – why this happens with only a few of us and in the most cases, with those, who are concerned about other people happiness?
If you are the one, who is always blamed for others’ mistake, then you really need to work on the reasons behind it.
Let me tell you the main reasons behind this:
- You barely takes a stand.
- You cannot control your emotions.
- You act like a joker, who wants to please everyone around him.
- You lack the expertise required for judging people.
- You are too much under other people’s obligations.
- You are around people with trust issues.
- You are in love with egoistic demons and insecure personalities.
- Wrong and traditional parenting is equally responsible.
Right from the childhood, we are told to respect our seniors and elders regardless of their mentality. Instead respecting their knowledge, we start honoring their age. To an extent, I believe, this is a wrong way of nurturing. No matter, who is right or wrong, if an elder is speaking, we are not supposed to speak anything. But, this is a wrong approach.
Trust me, you will have to suffer because of your silence.
My suggestion is – if you have something to say, just say it. Don’t hold it and don’t think much about how the listner is going to feel.
Do keep in mind that the one who is truly yours, is never going to feel bad.
However, after hearing your opinions and watching you taking stand, the one who just want to treat you like a stress-busting bag; ig definitely going to change his opinion about you.
Why are you so worried about the others?
Let me tell you that if you think relations and emotions matter, then you are at lifetime’s mistake.
It is materailisim everywhere. And, relationships are now formed on the basis of your bank balance. This situation becomes worse when things start affecting your inner peace.
We are paying for others’ mistakes because we live with a wrong ideology. We want to make things better between two different people who are more likely north and south magnetic pole; the more you try to bring them closer, the more they ran away from each other.
You can ask people to trust you, but it is their wish to do so or not. If they have already made up their mind of not trusting you, all your attempts are going to be useless. You cannot save a person’s life, who is, so eager about suicide, they say.
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How can you avoid this?
Be it your personal life or professional, you must learn how to take a stand; a stand for your decisions, a stand for your words, and a stand for your happiness.
Do not let others take away your peace, just because they want you to make sure to take care of their joys.
You must learn that you cannot make everyone happy, be it your wife, your mother, your mother-in-law, your boss or your friends.
Stop tightening the rope of relationships; sometimes it is better to set a few people free.
Stop broadcasting yourself as a good man among disturbed souls. They don’t want the elixir/nectar (amrit) from you because they are already enjoying the poison.
Do not forget – straight trees are cut first and honest people are screwed first.
Have you ever heard the term called – self-made man? Try to be one.
Stop accepting and expecting free favors from others.
There is nothing wrong in being a little outspoken and foul-mouth especially with those who treat you like a serviette.