No wonder, people, especially youngsters nowadays have different philosophies for life. To them, life is all about living the present and not worrying much about the rainy days ahead. “Who cares and who knows!” But, this is not the case. Adversities are like credit card payment collection guys, they can knock on your door any time and they can knock you down any time. Should they knock you down in the fourth phase of your life (old age), recovery becomes very hard and sometimes impossible. You should save and you should learn how to save. Ever thought why did your parents buy you a piggy bank? They want you to learn the importance of savings.
Being a financial planning apprentice, I got to listen to hundreds of stories every day. And, the most common one is – “My nest egg of saving is smaller than that of my brother’s.” This reason is perfectly acceptable because maybe you don’t have as much earning as your brother might have or unlike you, your brother is not keeping all his eggs in one basket; he has multiple income sources that are completely unknown to you. None of your business, either.
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Anyhow, I am no one to make you feel bad. But, my point is how you can save ₹1 Crore in next 15 years regardless of your starting age. Even if you are in the 40th year of your age, you can start today and can be sure of having a good old age life.
No wonder, what income group you fall in – LIG, MIG or HIG, you need to fasten your belt once you blow off the candles of your 40th birthday. Friendly advice is – save at least 10-15% of your income on a monthly basis.
Cut your lifestyle, reduce your expenses, give up your comforts, skip outdoors or do whatever it takes. You need to bring your expenses down and you need to increase your savings. The question now is – where to put these savings? So, here are some suggestions for that.
EPF or VPF - Employee's Provident Fund or Voluntary Provident Funds
Increase your share from to something that you can easily afford. If you are covered under EFP, ask your employer to raise your share from 12% to a higher amount. This additional contribution is going to earn the same amount of 8.5% and the best part is – deduction under section 80C.
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In the case of the VPF, interest earned is less than PF or PPF. If you are not covered under EPF, you can then go for PPF, but in this account, you cannot save more than ₹1 Lakh annually. Should you want to put more, look for NPS – national pensioner scheme. To save ₹1 Crore in 15 years you need to save – ₹27,641 every month for 15 years.
Bank Deposit – Fixed Deposit
Try to have fixed deposits in the bank because they can get you a good amount of interest. This can assure you of a guaranteed return after the maturity and interest earned is fully taxable as per the tax slab. The only problem is – interest rate fluctuations. You need to be a little watchful about interest rates. To save ₹1 Crore in 15 years you need to save – ₹30,201 every month for 15 years.
“Invest in LIC.” There are many Life Insurances available in the market. But, to this date, LIC’s Jeevan Anand is a high return LIC policy. This life insurance policy not only offers financial protection to your family after your death but also pledges high returns on the investment made. To save ₹1 Crore in 15 years you need to save – ₹37,000 every month for 15 years.
Gold and Property
Investment done in gold and property can offer you awesome results. However, there is no standard rate of returns for these investments. But, according to some cases – the return percentage was as high as 8-10%. Property can reduce your tax burden when you sell and can also get you rental income. To save ₹1 Crore in 15 years you need to save – ₹26,127 every month for 15 years.
Equity Mutual Funds
What could be more interesting than 12% – 14% returns on an investment? Equity mutual funds can get you maximum results on the smaller contribution if left untouched for longer duration.
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But, this is a risky investment and that is why it offers an awesome rate of interest. The risks are associated with bull and bear trends in the market. To save ₹1 Crore in 15 years you need to save – ₹14,000 every month for 15 years.
I have seen people investing in stocks and other risky areas. For those investments, they have to rely on the judgments of their planners/brokers. I must say, if you don’t know how to deal with the graphs of Stock Exchange, do not dare to invest your money there.
You cannot control the market conditions and all you can control is – your savings and expenses. Do not invest in things that you have any control on.
Watch out for your spending habits. If you think you are a spendthrift, avoid carrying your CC (credit cards) when you go shopping. Do take hard cash only and have no debit or credit cards. This way, you will be able to manage your useless expenses.
Reminds me of Warren Buffet’s quote – “If you buy things you don’t need, you may soon have to sell the things you need.”
Choose your retirement plan very carefully and keep reviewing your plan from time to time. Life is so uncertain and shit happens. I know a person who planned to save nearly ₹3 crores as his retirement plan, but after his employer duped him, he lost a big share of PF. He then reviewed his plan and made alterations to his retirement plans.
Factually, you cannot even go down your limits; limits in terms of amount that you can keep aside as savings.
Why Women Like Bad Boys
Girls fall in love with the wrong guys simply because the wrong guy usually says all the right things.
Ever wondered why girls are attracted to bad boys or why girls like bad boys? Why would they prefer to have a relationship with an impulsive, egocentric, narcissist or irresponsible boy? The logic is simple: because these attributes are interesting and help those boys in standing out. The features like originality, free spirit, confidence, and boldness are highly valued by people in general. Another fact is that girls who fear the outer world, only they choose such men.
Do You Know – The people with various behavioral problems have more relationships, multiple partners, and children than those with behavioral disorders. Yet, most of the girls like bad boys. Here’s why girls are attracted to bad boys –
Bad Boys Stand Out
There is a large group of people who believe that you will only stand out if you are the one whom people notice first. Of course, the most different and unusual guys know how to make a great note.
Talk loudly, dress differently, behave boldly and doing things without much worrying are a few characteristics you need to conquer a woman.
Bad Boys Never Cry For Self-Respect
No one respects a doormat. Women don’t like men whom they can control. In short, people only respect those whom they cannot control. And, once the respect is out, there is no chance of attraction.
If you are a nice guy, who has no demands and no wish of controlling your partner, then, I am sorry my friend, but you won’t be shortlisted.
Girls like boys who don’t let women walk over them; in short, they want a guy who is always on driver’s seat and not on the passenger seat.
The Bad Boys Trust Them
Confidence is a trait that not only women but also men find irresistible when looking for a life partner. Who can seem more confident than a person who disregards the rules, who knows exactly what he wants, and who is least concerned about others when it is about his dreams.
Girls like those boys who play on the front foot and not those who play defensive strokes.
Bad Boys Have Success And Power
To have success and power, you need a combination of impulsiveness, narcissism, selfishness, and determination.
This combination is very good for your business, career, and monetary aspects. Whether you like it or not, women are designed to feel attracted to men who can provide material comforts.
The Bad Boys Are Rebels
Bad guys have dared to do everything that the rest of us would seem unthinkable. The bad guys are considered rebels and nonconformists, which makes them very interesting for women.
Their bold and courageous behavior make them the number one contender. Their nature of violating things without a trace of unfavorable judgment are the elements that turn bad guys to cool guys.
In addition, high popularity means high chance.
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Bad Boys Make Women Feel Needed
Unlikely good guys, bad guys are usually the one who needs to be fixed. This is what all women want; they want to feel needed. Bad boys represent themselves as a ‘project’ that needs consistent fixation and modification.
This is what makes a woman think that without her presence ‘a perfect man’ cannot be created and she won’t ever leave him.
The Bad Boy Seems Strong Genes
Bad boys mean strong genes. With their behavioral traits, they simply tell that they are barely concerned about any sort of separation. Unlike nice guys, who fear to lose a woman, bad guys are exactly opposite and this is what crowns them as a winner.
The Bad Boys Are Free From Commitment Fever
Nice guys are always after commitments. However, nowadays, most of the women are interested in NSA (nonstring attached).
In the case of a bad boy, breaking up without creating any scene is very easy for a woman because she knows that she can never get close enough to him.
They know, they can enjoy this scope of freedom and that too without any pain or troubles only with bad boys.
The Bad Boys Are Good In Bed
Many ladies think that nice guys are not nice in bed and bad boys are really good in bed. According to the experts, women sometimes want to be manhandled (kinky stuff) and with nice guys, they don’t get their job done.
Nice guys are always shy and they fall short of words (praises and flattery) when most needed. Unlike bad boys who know exactly what the woman wants to listen to, the nice guys abstain themselves from these emotional and romantic showoffs.
To sum up, all I want to say is – a perfect guy is someone between nice and bad.
How To Win Back Trust After Losing It
We all make mistakes in relationships. There are a few that can be easily forgiven. However, there are some that leave permanent wounds. In the end, the faith dies.
Sometimes, it’s not our mistake, but the personality of our better half. Regardless of the case, we must work together to identify the root of the problem and uproot it. We have to try our best to make sure that trust is grown and incubated in our relationships. But how do we achieve this? Let us learn how to win back trust after losing it.
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This has two prongs: the first is to decide to talk about the lack of trust.
Voice out your opinions to your partner, whether you are the one on the receiving end or giving. Explain your position and why you feel this way. Open communication not only allows you as a couple to address the issue but it promotes intimacy and trust. It allows the couple to feel as though they are tackling issues from a united front like a team.
The second prong is – keeping no secrets.
You shouldn’t jump for your phone every time your partner reaches for it. If you have something to hide, then perhaps a relationship is not where you ought to be. We should learn not to keep secrets or tell lies in our relationship. Lies, no matter how small, have a way of damaging the integrity of our relationship.
Trust is learned and earned over time. When you are supportive, dependable and trustworthy, then you can be trusted. If you say you will do something, no matter how tiny the task is, always do it.
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For example, if your partner cannot trust that you will do the dishes when you say you will, how can she trust that you will care for her?
Trust is built over time, and as you earn in the smaller levels, you grow to bigger levels. Trust goes both ways; give and take. If you are not dependable and trustworthy then you cannot expect the same from your partner. Keep your promises.
It takes time to rebuild trust. But if you remain in the relationship, it is because you chose to give them a second chance. This may be difficult for you but don’t judge every situation at face value, always dig deeper because there may be another reason.
Don’t be quick to suspect and criminalize your loved one. Rather choose to entertain the possibility of another reason, it helps control your emotions and reminds you that you are indeed giving them a second chance.
In the same case, if your partner chooses to share a major mistake they made, don’t be quick to pass judgment. The fact that they are willing to share with you means that they are willing to be vulnerable to you. You have to be careful to respond with kindness and encouragement. If you judge them, they are likely to recede, not trust you and not share with you.
A lack of trust is responsible for many breakups today. Once you have decided to give a second chance, then you must forgive your partner in true sense. Do keep in mind that pretending is not going to help.
What Do Indian Men Like Sexually
Should you ask a question about how to please a woman in the bed, 90% of Indian males will raise their hands. But, when it is about making a man happy, not all Indian females have the answer.
I have already discussed a lot about the libido, sexual health, sexual position, yoga poses for better sex, and effects of poor sex life on relationships. Undoubtedly, there comes a time in a relationship, when it seems that sexual attraction between partners is fading. Most of the Indian women believe that sex is all about penetrating and nothing else. But, this is false. So, what do Indian men like sexually?
Indian Men Like It When Encouraged
Like women, men are sensitive too. Just like you, we men love praise and really appreciate a few words of encouragement.
Do give it a try to tell your partner about the part of his body that you like the most. Whatever it is, just tell him.
Let me ask you. Don’t you feel good when you are praised? Same is the case with us; we like to feel appreciated for every little thing we have.
Indian Men Love Oral Sex
Ladies! Oral sex is the second most amazing thing Indian men like sexually. Let me ask; Don’t you enjoy, when your partner rolls his tongue around your body? Well, same is the case with men.
Like other, Indian men do love oral sex. Sometimes, it is about a few kisses and cuddles. You should ask your male partner about what he likes. Don’t worry, he is not going to ask for strange favors. But, be very careful about the diseases that can be transmitted through oral sex.
Indian Men Want You To Lead
Third in my list of what do Indian men like sexually is – initiative. Sometimes, men want you to lead. We expect you not to be shy in the bedroom.
Trust me, when you ladies make us do everything, we feel like we are having sex with a dead body.
At this point, we want you to take the initiative. Think about it, be it our life or love, variety is the key.
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Indian Men Hate Overacting
The other day, I was reading another article saying that loud moans and cries are signs of pleasure.
But, honestly, that’s bullshit. Even if you are feeling that way, Indian men are going to take that the other way around. We are not filming porn.
We would love it when you whisper the things you really want from us.
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Indian Men Hate Dirty Words
Indian men don’t want you to use foul language, especially during sex. Ladies with dirty mouths earn no respect.
If you think, we want you to speak all those dirty words, then you are wrong. I mean, why do you need to spoil your mouth by saying such stupid words that will sound strange from your mouth, while making love.
We don’t want you to sound strange. We don’t want you to behave like two different personalities; one in the bedroom and other in everyday life.
Indian Men Like Inventiveness
Indian men love to see a little inventiveness. We would really appreciate it, if you try new things, but within the bedroom boundaries. At the same time, we don’t want you to behave in a nonsense manner.
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Indian Men Like Teasing
Indian men like to be surprised by a few acts of teasing. Dear ladies, we would really love, if you kiss us secretly or touch us “by chance” or smile playfully.
But, make sure you are doing that way when you are ready to make love.
Indian Men Appreciate A Little Sense of Humor
Indian men really like it when instead of lying like a dead body, you really enjoy making love and laugh at discrete jokes. The sense of humor is a must. Hope you have read our other article about how silence can kill your sex life.
Ladies, I hope these tips about what do Indian men like sexually are going to help you. May you all have a wonderful sex life because that is a must for a healthy married relationship.
Be Positive – Learn how to deal with negative feedback
“Are you nuts? This is such a blunder mistake. How could you even do this? Your voice was trembling, your hands were shaking and your slides were not matching your description. Is that what you call a presentation? You are such a day spoiler. Oh Boy! You have wasted it.” These lines can make you feel as embarrassed as a kid in a naked bar; can force you to doubt your own capabilities. No one likes negative feedback.
We all want to hear only praise and good things about our work and ourselves. Unfortunately, things are not always so rosy. Admittedly, digesting and accepting negative feedback from our bosses, colleagues, family members or people we interact with, is not an easy thing. But, once you manage to learn how to accept negative feedback, how to transform it into something positive, and how to make it beneficial for you; I can guarantee you that there are a lot more opportunities waiting for you. In this article, we will be talking about how to deal with negative feedback.
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Negative Feedback Is Good
“Love your critics,” they say. You must feel proud that there is someone who is so concerned about you and so free to give feedback on your work. When someone speaks negative about your work, don’t see his words as a problem. He might be confusing 6 with 9 because from where he is seeing, it’s 9 and from you see, it is six.
My point is – you both can be right or wrong or there is one winner. Do not react. Learn to stimulate and not to retaliate. Reminds me of Sachin Tendulkar; the man who taught other cricketers, how to use sledging in a positive way.
Never saw him going mad at bowlers who used to abuse him, but saw many bowlers praising him for his cool. Learn to thank for feedback and then come back with your answer when you’re ready.
Analyze The Problem
But, if someone out there is not happy and you are supposed to make him happy; you need to analyze the information received. Try to figure out where you went wrong, where you have not communicated properly, why you failed and why your actions were not the same as expected?
It is highly possible that negative feedback is just an outcome of a personal disliking. Maybe the work was good, but the critic was not. It becomes very important to know and to ask, why you have been served with negative comments and how you can improve things.
Don’t Lose Your Cool
Do not take it personally. Losing your cool in such situations is not going to improve things; negative reactions of any kind generally will not help. Rejoice that you have a chance to fix your mistakes, improve your performance, and thus get better.
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Feedback of any kind is beneficial. However, should you start taking things personally, you won’t be able to move a step further. Don’t lose your head because this might be the thing your critic wants. Do not give him an easy victory. Once you surrender, you will be increasing a competitor of yours.
Take Your Time
Never rush things, especially when it is about your bread and butter. If the feedback does not seem right one, ask for more time to come up with an answer. Do not just drop your hat. Go back to your office, analyze what you did and how you did.
You need to support your case with undeniable figures and facts, in case you want to plea – ‘not guilty.’ To win an argument, the best way is – ask questions. Try to have all the details before you speak to your interlocutor.
At the right time, do not shy away from giving explanations and evidence to prove what went wrong and why it is not your fault. Try to come with some proposed solution, even it was not your fault.
Regardless of the person spreading negative things about you or your work, you have to know how to move on. Changing the workplace is not a solution, but changing things at a workplace can be a better solution.
And, when it is about having a change, the real change must begin within ourselves. Try to keep your motivation level as high as possible. Try to behave more actively, more responsibly, and attentively to everything that happens around you.
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Finally, remember that it is important to ask a follow-up after the last feedback received because of this the only way through which you can make yourself sure about whether you are on right track and whether your solutions were the right ones.
Always remember – Perfection is a myth and making mistakes is better than faking perfection.
How To Breakup With Someone Without Hurting
Sometimes we fall in love with the uninspired person. Sometimes the nicest man in the universe tries to monopolize our soul. Sometimes things don’t work and the nights become longer than ever.
Life is strange. Nowadays, we barely need an excuse to break a relationship. It is not always money behind the premature death of a relationship. Things go wrong between people and instead of finding out what went wrong, most of the time, they prefer giving up. However, breaking up is not always an easy option, especially when it is about breaking with someone, we are still in love. Before breaking up with some, you had to deal with two challenges. The first challenge is how to tell your partner about this, and the second is how to break up with someone without hurting?
Choose The Time And Place
Before breaking up with someone, start by distancing. Possibly avoid holidays and special occasions such as birthdays, anniversaries, or weddings, where you may have an encounter with your partner. Statistics show that lovers split up during the holidays because at that time there is a break on their meetups.
Before that, make your mind that you want to permanently finish the relationship. Never break up with someone with doubts of reconciling with him/her.
Once you are sure, choose a neutral place. The best would be a place where you both can talk easily. However, in case you expect an aggressive reaction, it is better to choose a place surrounded by people.
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Wear Your Courage
When you want to break up, do it face to face. Instead of doing it through an intermediary or over the phone is not a good idea. Use these methods of breaking up only if the relationship is relatively new or you already had a few very unpleasant meetings.
Prepare yourself for everything thing. When it is about breaking up, do not forget that everything you say is going to hit your partner hard.
Even if you have joint plans of having children, jobs, moving to another city or buying a new home; when life asks you to go in different directions, accept it. This is how a long-term relationship should end.
Avoid Being Sensitive
Be sincere, but do not miss to put yourself in the other’s place. Nobody likes to be abandoned, but at least we know how to appreciate all the truth. A positive attitude is a big help here. A positive attitude will make you feel that you have more to gain than crying over break up.
It is good to think about the future of your partner, but it is your future that should be on the priority.
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Avoid staying in a relationship just because you are afraid to be alone. Walk in diplomacy, but avoid feeling bad about someone just because you feel that you hurt him.
Do Not Finish With Bad Terms
A breakup can be painful, but it is more painful to feel alone in two. Better wait until you are sure of what you want before announcing a breakup. But, at the same time, it is not nice to hold things for an indefinite period of time.
Ask yourself constantly if you really love the person you want to have broken up with. But, once you are sure, keep your emotions under control. Give your partner the required time. Do not finish things on bad terms.
Never Do It All of Sudden
The accepting breakup is not an easy thing for everyone. Some people do not know how to react to a breakup, feel ignored, useless or simply do not understand what is happening? Some scream or cry others block their feelings. Please note that rejection hurts.
If the situation takes a negative turn, simply ignore things. It is preferable to stay friends for a certain amount of time. During that period, try to work on distancing yourself. No matter, how strong you are, you still need to work on your emotions and patience.
After delivering your standpoint, try to get calm and listen to what your partner has to say until the language remains civilized.
What Kind of A Girl An Indian Man Wants To Marry With
When it comes to marriage, a woman’s personality is more important than her physical appearance.
The general concept is that women want very much to get married and have children, while men are terrified of the idea itself only. But it seems to be far from the truth. Studies have now shown that at least lately, men want as much as women to have long-standing relationships and children. In this article, I will be telling you what kind of a girl an Indian man wants to marry with.
The first and most important quality a man expects from her future wife is honesty. After all, who would be willing to live his life with a person whom he cannot trust? But in this case, honesty means authenticity and originality.
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We men are not concerned about your past; we all do have stories and episodes. Dear ladies, if you are kind of women who want to look different than actual; we are sorry, but you are the one who scares us the most.
A loving relationship should be based on a strong relationship and friendship. For a man, it is very important to be able to talk openly with his partner without feeling judged, criticized or rejected. Social norms require them to always be strong men, not to complain or to show weakness.
Even we have things to share. And, the only person before whom a man can fearlessly express everything is the woman they love. Men are attracted to women that make them feel comfortable and confident. To have a woman as a partner who can offer emotional support, with whom they can feel totally relaxed, and open is the dream of every man.
Modesty in behavior, a way of dressing and speaking are the important criteria that men have in mind when they seek a long-term partner. No doubt, nowadays women are very much fascinated by supersexy kinda looks.
But, dear ladies, when it is about marriage, men do like modest women and not magazine models. For us, personality is more important than physical appearance when it is about choosing our future wife.
Most men are attracted to women who put their femininity. Traits such as tenderness, sensitivity or empathy are the most important characteristics. Men often women fall in love with the woman who is warm, pleasant than those who have a cold attitude.
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They like to “nanny”, but moderately, so as not to turn into teasing. Therefore, they fall in love with women who care for them, even in a symbolic sense.
Women who have a strong character and integrity, are the most preferred marital candidates. Women are becoming more sexually adventurous and most of them are not really concerned about the values of their fidelity as compared to the older generations.
Dear ladies, it is okay that you are broadminded and sleeping with strangers or having NSA is not a big thing for you. But, trust me, when it is about marriage, men seek women with a strong character; someone who can show them that is consistent and reliable.
Think about your dream husband; would you mind sharing your life with someone, for whom loyalty is nothing, but a burden.
Sense of Humor
A compatible sense of humor is another important factor when it comes to attraction. Men prefer women who appreciate the jokes and instead of taking everything seriously, know how to take things on the lighter note.
Ambition and Industriousness
Like females, males also want a partner who is ambitious and industrious. Unlike other stereotyped men who are bullied by ambitious women, most of the men want a partner who can be perfect support in all shores of life. Men are extremely fond of women who are full of energy and determination.
A Desire For Kids and Home
Although we men do appreciate your ambitiousness, kids and home remain our top priority. We don’t want you to spend your complete life behind the four walls of our house, but females who are not serious about their home and kids, men seriously don’t buy any of their lies.
In addition to these, we want a partner who is mature, sensible and who loves to handle things independently without much assistance, but discussion. Men always want to be in the loop, when it is about family and other things.
As a wife, we want a partner, who keep us on top priority when it is about sharing things or making decisions that are going to affect our relationship. At the same time, men want you to act more confidently and securely.
A pretty face will get old. A nice body will change, but a good woman will always be a good woman.
Why You Should Not Think Much About People
Bitter, but harsh. We are living in a world of space shuttles, where the prefix ‘less’ is more likely a helping word now. Emotionless, painless, careless, thoughtless and hundreds of more words with prefix ‘less’ is successfully replacing the human names. Now, we don’t call people by their names, but with a word having ‘less’ as a prefix.
I may be sounding like a gravely sad soul, but I was never like this before. I was not born with a stone in place of the heart. I was known for a person with a large heart. I was a man full of emotions and love. And, out of the way, I happily donated everything that I had; a few happy faces were what I used to strive for. Until the day I figured out that the one you are concerned about is least concerned about you! Now I know, why you should not think much about people.
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It took me several years before I actually saved myself. I won’t say, people cheated me because it was not cheating at all; they fooled me.
A theory learned in my business studies’ class was making perfect sense to me, now. The gap between the knowledge you have and the ignorance of the person you are dealing with is your profit.
So, it was not cheating. It was my ignorance and their excellence. I trusted the wrong people. I cried for the wrong people. I wiped the wrong people’s tears. I helped the wrong people. I mistook their pain and it was my ignorance that gave them a chance of looting me.
Ah! I was a fool.
This is what I learned throughout my life. How can my grandfather be wrong about helping others? He used to say, “you have a human inside and never ever let him go before you go.”
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But, today, I have reasons to believe that his principles are no more applicable. The world has changed. We are in the century 21st century; a century, where your survival is based on your skills of slaying your opponent without giving him a chance of self-defense.
It’s Kung-Fu time; race or chase are the only options.
Theories like ‘do good have good’ and ‘do good and forget it’ makes no sense. It is all about money and status. Despite knowing that we are not going to take anything with us on the judgment day, our hunger for accumulating more material things is not ending. Be it our relationships or social status, everything depends on the car we drive, places we go to, the amount of bank balance we have, and the number of visas we have.
I have seen the same people bypassing me, who at a time were ready to ‘lick my spit’. I did everything I could to make them happy.
Even after having a post-graduate degree in finance, I was making wrong investment choices; I was investing in relationships and not in material assets. Now I regret spending thousands of bucks and hours on those, who were not even of a penny’s worth.
Wish, I could have that time back; the time when my friend “Manav” advised me to not to be an emotional fool and be a little selfish. But, I was at the height of my emotional stupidity.
But, this is not only my story, but every intellectual. Every intellectual is on a consistent slow-suicide. He is dying every second, every minute, every hour, and every day. And, they are going to die this way in the years to come.
8 Natural Remedies For Digestive Problems
Due to our eating habits, problems like nausea, abdominal pain, bloating, constipation or indigestion are very common nowadays. In such a situation where allopathic, homeopathic and Ayurvedic treatments are there, some natural remedies are also available. Through this article, we will be sharing 8 natural remedies for digestive problems.
The discomfort caused by digestive problems is very difficult to ignore and can affect your strength and mood. Do not try to ignore them assuming because they may get worse. At the same time, you are not supposed to take medication immediately because this is going to affect your immunity. In most cases, it is useful to resort to natural remedies that can be as effective as classic treatments, but with no undesirable side effects.
Carrot Juice and Mint
It is a rapid solution mainly for abdominal pain or nausea that can occur during a prolonged flu episode. Carrots provide an important dose of vitamins, and the mint reduces digestive discomfort and nausea.
To have this, you need to boil 4 carrots (finely chopped in slices) in 4 cups of water and a few mint leaves.
Then, boil it on a medium flame for 15 minutes or until the carrots soften.
Finally, mix it all with a blender and enjoy.
You can also add a little ginger for an anti-inflammatory effect or a teaspoon of lemon juice for a great taste.
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Boiled Rice Water
To stop diarrhea and prevent dehydration of the body, you can have flavored rice water.
To have it, boil ½ cup of rice in 6 cups of water for 15 minutes.
Then squeeze it, and add some honey or sugar for taste to the remaining liquid and drink it warm.
If you are suffering from an abdominal pain caused by constipation or food poisoning, having a burned toast can offer you quick relief. Burned bread toast is ideal because the burned part will absorb the toxins that make you feel bad. You may not like the taste. Therefore, you can a little honey to mitigate the bitterness.
In the case of cramps, bloating, hiccups, indigestion, and sore throats, apple vinegar is the best solution. Mix a spoonful of apple vinegar with a cup of warm water and a spoonful of honey to quickly reduce pain and gas. This mixture also reduces the discomfort caused by gastroesophageal reflux.
Cherries, Apricots, Raisins And Dried Plums
Not all fruits, but only cherries, apricots, raisins, and dried plums. Consume them and constipation will become a mere memory. These fruits can provide you with the most required fiber dose. This dose will stimulate digestion and promote the elimination of toxins in the body.
You probably do not want a dairy when your stomach hurts, but the probiotics that yogurt contains make it a useful remedy for digestive discomfort and immune system stimulation.
It is highly effective in the case of food poisoning caused by bacteria. However, instead of having flavored yogurt, it is better to go for a plain one.
Do you know that cumin seed can eliminate gas and indigestion? Cumin seeds contain a useful combination of vitamins and minerals, which controls bacteria that cause bloating and contributes to triggering indigestion?
Fennel reduces cramps and nausea. In the case of indigestion, bloating or abdominal pain, fennel tea is a quick remedy because it can regulate digestion and comfort.
With all these treatments you can get great relief from digestive problems. If you have any trick/treatment, then please share it with our readers.
Expectations Lead To Disappointments & Disappointments Leads To Nowhere
“Life is not a bed of roses, but life is beautiful.” The quote that I was asked to draw a wall chart when I was in the second standard.” But, after spending forty years of my life, I am still looking for the beautiful part mentioned in this quote.
7 o’clock in the morning and like every usual morning; I got up, switched on the TV, and was sipping my bed tea. I switched my mobile phone on (I usually switch off my phone after entering home); an automated message, “37 missed calls.”
Nothing more was required to sadden my morning when I figured out it was a friend of mine; we admitted her mother in the hospital night before after she had a severe panic attack and turned violent.
Before calling my friend, I don’t know why and how, but I was already having intuitions that her mother is gone. And, I was true. When I called him, he was sobbing and he could only utter one word, “I lost her.”
I rang my office and updated them about my absence for the day; cremation ahead. It was a tragic moment; my friend lost his father a few years ago and now he lost her mother. Since his father’s death, I have seen her mother behaving like an abnormal personality.
She used to cry, shout, abuse, throw things, and hit others. But, this stage of her came after several months of depression.
As far as I know, I had never seen her mother smiling after his father’s death. Before turning a widow, she was more likely ‘Mother Teresa in the neighborhood – a person always in limelight for her charitable nature.”
Be it any beggar, homeless person, poor or deprived human being; she always helped everyone. She was known for her philanthropic mentality.
Be it any hour of the day, she was always ready to help. But, when she was hit by the adversities, I have seen her crying for help. My friend’s wife; she is a masterpiece, I must say. Right from the day when she became a member of the family, I had never seen her talking to my friend’s mother.
My friend was in Dubai. On his request only, I used to visit his home. Her mother once mentioned to me about the ill-behavior of my friend’s wife.
“Dear son! Please tell this to my son that from last one week I am eating, sleeping, and peeing on the same bed sheet. This was not what I expected from my daughter-in-law.
This was not the treatment I expected from my son after giving him my world.” My friend’s mother asks me to deliver this message to my friend.
Tell my son to pay his installments of mother’s feed that he owes to me. I never expected him hiring a nurse for me and visiting me like a guest.
I know he got dreams, but he is the only dream I have ever seen and said goodbye to this world in his presence is the only dream that I am going to die with.
Ask him, why is he treating me like an old ladder kept in a dark storeroom, covered with spider webs and lizards’ poop; a ladder whom he used to reach where he is now. This is not the price I expected for my blood that he sucked through my breasts.”
I sensed the pain in her voice. I swear to god, with every finished sentence of his mother, I experienced the same feeling of losing everything that she might be feeling at that time. The burden of expectation failures was getting heavier.
I shared this whole discussion with my friend and perhaps that was the last day, he and his wife showed me some courtesy. I was disturbed with my friend’s behavior, however, I was least concerned about that b@#%h. I had a strong verbal argument with both of them, and I never visited their house again.
After a few days of this incident, one day, I was not feeling comfortable and I was seriously worried about my friend’s mother. I decided to visit her. I thought even if I failed to see her in person, I will still inquire about her health from the neighbors.
From the neighbors, I got to know that my friend’s wife left that house a few days ago and she is not yet back. They told me that they have not seen the old lady from few days. I was sure that something had happened. In the presence of neighbors, I hired a locksmith.
After entering the house, I saw his mother lying on the floor. Seeing her lying on the floor, brought tears to my eyes. I admitted her to a hospital and called my friend. On his arrival, I handed over everything to him. Without saying a word, I left the scene. And, next ill-fated morning, I had an update of her death.
I feel like she was waiting for her son to come before she leaves this world. And, I was true. After meeting her son, she died.
I was thinking, why do we people expect things? Why it hurts when expectations are not met? Why do people feel bad, when they get cheated by the person they love or trust the most?
I have heard many people saying that when we expect things, they never happen. Perhaps this was the reason why his mother felt bad and lost her life.
What Are The Best Foods To Heal The Hypothyroidism
Are you suffering from regular health issues? Do you know that Hypothyroidism is one of the main causes of poor health because it affects the functioning of the body in a variety of ways? If you are always sleeping or have unexpectedly fattened, you may have problems with the thyroid.
In this case, you can expect some other symptoms like dry skin, slow metabolism, depression, inability to concentrate and a bad mood. Although, there are several medical treatments for hypothyroidism available, yet some changes in lifestyle can improve the situation to a greater extent. In this article, I will be talking about some best foods to heal the hypothyroidism.
If you are experiencing inflammation, then it is a symptom of hypothyroidism. Sardines are saturated with omega-3 fatty acids, which can significantly reduce any inflammation that occurs because of hypothyroidism. Sardines can also help fight Hashimoto’s disease. Let me tell you, sardines are not at all tasty, but you can count on these.
Vitamin A Rich Food
Recent studies have found that a large amount of thyroid stimulating hormone (TSH) in the blood is associated with hypothyroidism. Vitamin A is a natural supplement that can help you mitigate the amount of TSH in the blood. Vitamin A can easily dissolve fat and it can improve your metabolism, as well. You can have vitamin A from things like carrots, spinach, and broccoli.
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Vitamin D Rich Food
If your vitamin D levels are low, then you could be one among many others diagnosed with hypothyroidism or Hashimoto’s disease. Increasing vitamin D consumption can really help in curing thyroid problems. In case, you reside in an area where sunlight is a luxury, then you surely expect a lower level of vitamin D in your body.
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Hope you know, this vitamin is one of the most important supplements for our general health. Therefore, if you are struggling with hypothyroidism, then please increase the intake of foods having vitamin D.
Foods Containing Zinc
Do you know, 25 milligrams of zinc can play an important role in lowering the risk of hypothyroidism?
Zinc is one of many important minerals for our general health. It has been shown that lower level of zinc in the body is directly associated with a risk for hypothyroidism. For this, you should eat foods containing zinc such as avocado and almonds.
The pumpkin seeds are the best seeds when you are dealing with hypothyroidism. In other words, pumpkin seeds are an excellent solution for thyroid. If you don’t like eating these seeds in raw form, then you can bake pumpkin seeds and can have it as a crisper snack. You can also have sunflower seeds because they too have a high zinc content.
Foods Rich in Selenium
Recent studies suggest lower levels of selenium mean a higher risk of hypothyroidism. In that case, foods rich in selenium are the best choice. You can have selenium from turkey, chicken, eggs and tuna fish.
According to several medical journals, one of the major causes of hypothyroidism is the accumulation of heavy metals, such as mercury, in the blood. For this situation, apples are the best solution.
Apples contain a special fiber called pectin, which helps to fight these dangerous metals, helping to reduce them by about 75%. Do not forget that you must eat with their shell because it contains everything that helps to fight hypothyroidism.
Only one cup of yogurt can help you fight a vitamin D deficiency and help keep your thyroid healthy. In addition to an adequate exposure to sunlight, you can also eat pork and salmon (fish) to increase the vitamin D level in the body.
I hope, these home remedies are going to help you a lot. However, it is highly that recommend that you must consult your doctor before doing anything. The information given is for educational purposes only and must not be considered as any medical advice.
Sexual Dreams With Another Someone Not Your Spouse
You are happily married to someone, but still, you continue to dream of another woman. After every time you had that dream, you ask yourself whether it is something normal?
Weird. Isn’t it? But, let me tell you, this is not something unusual and every tenth man out of hundred or probably more, out there is experiencing this weird thing – sexual dreams with another someone, not your spouse. In the case of females, this ratio could be one in two hundred.
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Why is it so? Isn’t another form of infidelity? Experts say, if you are dreaming about another woman despite your happy married life, you need a reassessment of your relationship; you are faking the harmony levels of your relationship.
Several other believe that the answer to this mystery is hiding somewhere behind the fantasies, anxieties monotony, boredom, temporary unhappiness that you might be having from your current relationship.
Fantasies and sexual reveries exceed their expectations from their partners, and when they are not met, they dream of having them met with someone else.
This is actually a stage of comparison, where you start comparing your partner who is not making you sexually satisfied with someone who you dream about.
Sexual dreams rarely talk about sex, but about our intimacies and imaginations. In deeper terms, you can also say that these dreams can be a mirror of your’ inner personality and can express how you perceive your lover; a good one or one with defects.
Some people also believe that if you have dreams of sex with another woman, this indicates that you are having a difference with your own wife. She is not treating your desires the way you want. In dreams, you are actually making an imaginary attempt of fulfilling that missing spot of your life. Instead of talking to your wife, you are preparing yourself for an innings of infidelity.
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You must learn that these kinds of dreams can help us solve our problems. Most of the problems that are out of our control are actually out of our conscious level. Should you leave this kind of problem untreated, you can be sure of pathological and psychological symptoms.
If you are having such kinda dreams quite often, it is better to have a discussion with your partner about your insecurities and desires. You must sort your differences than finding unethical way outs.
Once you and your partner are clear about sexual desires and boundaries, none of you are going to have such sexual dreams. The reason being – clarity about reality.
How do I care for oily skin?
Without any shadow of a doubt, every skin produces fat and this fat provides moisture to the skin. However, in some cases, the sebaceous glands produce too much fat, resulting in a shiny and oily skin. But that looks bad. Isn’t it? In this article, I will be telling you about a few tricks using which you can get rid of oily skin, to an extent. So, let’s begin.
Development of Oily Skin
Oily skin, not only sounds disgusting, but it makes you look ugly, as well. With greasy skin, the uppermost skin layer is thickened, which causes the pores to widen.
This results in overactive sebaceous glands that produce much more fats than normal skin. And, finally, you end up with a shiny, sometimes moist skin. In addition, you get blackheads and pimples because of increased production of sebum.
Do you know, most of the people with oily skin commit the same mistake? They wash their skin more often; sometimes four to five times a day.
However, this excessive cleaning does not lead to the goal. On the contrary, the skin tries even harder to stimulate the production of sebum because it removes fats.
So, the best thing is – oily skin should be cleaned twice a day just like any other skin type. For this, you should not use soap or aggressive cleansing lotions. Mild, pH-neutral washing creams and lukewarm water are perfect for cleaning the skin.
Make sure that you are not rubbing it too hard. The perfect way of cleaning is – dab the face. After every cleansing, it is advisable to use a tonic that regulates sebum production once again.
Oily skin needs a good moisturizer. You should make sure that you are not using any cream with additional oil, but at the same time works actively against skin shine and clogged pores.
The best and easiest solution against pimples and blackheads is tea tree oil. A few drops mixed with your skin care or applied to individual impurities on their own will quickly improve your complexion.
The Make Up
With oily skin, make-up often tends to disappear quickly. When buying any face product, make sure that the foundation does not contain any additional oils.
Additionally, blotting papers are the most affordable solutions. They absorb the grease without clogging the pores. These little helpers won’t cost you much.
The above-mentioned treatments are not going to solve your problem from the root, but it can help you big time. Using these little tricks you will be able to eliminate the excess fat in your skin.
Do you have any such solution for the oily skin? Please do share with us.
For Women – How To Talk About Sex in A New Relationship
According to the area experts, if you do not take the initiative to learn and experiment new things during sex, your sexual life will become dull and you will be counted as a lover with no enthusiasm. Hope you know, how a dull sexual life can kill your relationship!
When it is about having sex with your partner, every person, be it a female or male, wants to explore his/her fantasies to the maximum. But, when it comes to trying something new, we all start to shy or hesitate. The biggest challenge that most of us face is, “how to discuss a fantasy with our partner?” To an extent, this discussion is easy for males. But, for females, discussing sex is still a taboo. It is a question of image or reputation because they do not want their male partner to take them like a pervert. Nonetheless, as I said earlier, should you not try something new, you and your partner will lose interest. And, sex will be nothing, but a way of reproducing something. Therefore, in this article, we will be telling you how to talk about sex in a new relationship.
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Identify Your Vulnerabilities Regarding This Topic
As a woman, you must first understand that the intimate area should not be regarded as a taboo subject. What you enjoy most during sex, if you know it, then only you can make your partner understand it. The more you get to know your areas of greatest pleasure, the more enjoyment it will be.
Therefore, a first step to getting rid of shyness is to explore the intimate area alone. Spend time with you and your fantasies. Discover your areas and make your partner understand about those.
Do Not Think Too Much, But Act And Initiate
If you are ready for sex, do not stress think about it and do not overboard your mind with useless negative thoughts. The more you think about this subject, the more stressful you will feel. Express your emotions for the partner. You can start with a few kisses and from thereon, let the things go on.
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The most important thing is, “you need to have a relaxed mind before you go to bed.” A cool mind is an important element when it is about preparing yourself for the sex. To have that state of mind, you must first clear your mind and doubts. Do not think much about your lover perceptions about you. Express your love and prepare yourself mentally for that time. Let go of the wave!
Talk To Him About Erotic Toys
During sex, talking on erotic toys seems a little awkward. But, once you start talking, the shame will disappear and you, as a couple, will enjoy sex to the maximum. Obviously, if you are a shy lady, you will not feel comfortable using a toy in front of your partner.
Therefore, if you talk openly before buying any such thing, you will not have any problem in buying it or using it in front of your partner.
Your Boyfriend Loves You For Who You Are
It is useless to think about cellulite or stretch marks or extra pounds when you are in bed with your lover. Most studies have shown that at the time of sex, men do not pay much attention to these things.
But, women themselves discourage their sex relations by thinking about them. If it helps you in the beginning, use a romantic atmosphere and make candlelight love to get rid of this stress and enjoy the experience lived together.
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Love Yourself Near A Mirror
This is a bold advice, and you need to get some courage to implement it if you’re shyer than you are. But by doing this you will be able to look at your bodies in the mirror and find that this is a very exciting one, causing you to have more sex appeal!
We hope using these tips, you can get rid of your shyness to a greater extent. Always keep in mind, “a lot of issues can be resolved by talks and questions.”
Therefore, instead of compromising, it is better to find a solution.
Causes And Home Remedies For Double Chin
“Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder!”Well, I used to believe in this quote until I saw a number of people spending a lot of money, energy and time.
Dear fellows, double chin is something, those who have it, try their levels best to hide it. They use a scarf, wear high-necks and they try to skip every single paparazzi moment; they are embarrassed.
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No doubt, double chin is simply an indication for diet- change and for many of us, it is a cosmetic issue. But, in reality, the double chin is an anti-aesthetic formation of the skin caused by the accumulation of subcutaneous fat layers under the chin. Even if the skin loses elasticity with the passage of time, this does not mean that it is an inevitable phenomenon. Before we can work on fixing this problem using various available techniques, we first need to understand the reason behind this.
Reasons Behind Double Chin
The age of a person also affects the appearance of a double chin. The most vulnerable tissue tend to group together under the chin and to cause this effect.
The Sudden Weight Loss
People who lose weight too quickly end up developing a double chin by detachment. Fat and adipose tissue decreased with diet and exercise, but not at the same pace as the skin. This often generates excess tissue in the jaw.
There is a predisposition to develop the double chin by genetic inheritance. For example, people with small jaws develop a double chin more easily.
You are so fat that your chin has a double chin. Obesity and double-chin go hand in hand because being overweight is the reason behind fat under the jaw. The skin stretches and generates double chin.
Exercises to Prevent a Double Chin
Facial Gymnastic Exercises
With a little patience and discipline, we can reduce the double chin by practicing certain exercises facial gym.
- Pronounce the letter X.
- Try stretching maximum of lips to feel all muscles and tendons of the neck tighten.
- Hold yourself in this position for five seconds.
- Repeat the exercise five times.
- Between each set of pronouncing X, relax the mouth by making several small “o”.
In another workout, you can also reshape your face.
- Put thumbs under the chin.
- Open the mouth by pushing the lower jaw down while maintaining a strong resistance with the thumbs.
- Hold five seconds, and then repeat the exercise five times.
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Throw A Kiss
- On a chair with feet firmly planted on the floor, stretch the neck as possible by keeping the head forward.
- Then, shape your face as if you were throwing a kiss.
- You must do at least three sets of 10 repetitions.
The Neck Massage
This exercise must be performed at least three times a day. All you need to do is –
- Raise your head by stretching the neck and open your mouth.
- You have to get your hands around the neck by pressing gently.
- Finally, place your hand on the neck by stretching the skin down.
- To begin with this exercise, it is first necessary to stretch the neck backward (as much as possible without forcing).
- Then, hold for five seconds.
- Then, you have to do the same by stretching the head down, toward the left side and the right side, five seconds in each direction.
- We must try not to move the shoulder.
Do this exercise every day.
The Chin Lift
- Raise your head again as high as possible.
- With mouth closed, stretch the neck by tilting his head slightly backward.
- You have to try to lift the chin and make it stand forward.
- We must do 10 repetitions three times per day.
The Tennis Ball
- To do this exercise, you must first put a tennis ball on the neck and under the chin.
- Then, you have to push hard on the chin the ball for two seconds and release slightly without it falling.
- Do this exercise 10 times in a row.
Chew Some Gum
- This exercise is the simplest because it does not ask for much time or attention.
- Chewing gum helps the jaw to strengthen and I don’t need to tell you that you should be chewing a gum without sugar.
- Also, it is not advisable to force the muscles too much and you must stop when you feel tired.
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In addition to these, there are a few more factors that one need to take care, in order to reduce the double chin. Among them are –
- The way we walk.
- The way we sleep.
- The amount of water we drink.
- How long you keep your head down.
- The posture of the neck, while working on the computer.
A common way to remove your double chin is by liposculpture. In this method, the fat deposits at your chin, neck, and jaw are sucked.
In addition, with make-up, you can draw attention to other parts of your face. By eyeliner and eye-shadow, you can emphasize your eyes. This way, people pay less attention to your chin.
Make sure that your hair does not hang on the same length as your chin. Avoid high-fitting sweaters or shirts and choose clothes with an open neckline.
Change Yourself To Change The World Around You
For success, you don’t need motivation. Motivation comes and goes; you have it today and you lose it tomorrow. You need determination.
Have you ever noticed that ‘motivation’ is one among the other most popular hashtags? So, many of motivational speakers, motivational books, lessons, quotes, stories, articles; the internet, nowadays, is full of these. We are becoming sheep; losing our uniqueness. Like babies, we need a hand to hold us all the time, while walking down the street. We fear so much. It is not fear actually, but the lack of confidence. Dear people, I feel no shame in saying that – We do not need motivation, but permission to be who the hell we want.
Honestly, do you guys feel the same way? Right after reading a few motivations stories or quotes, my brain starts working; a few lines of a philosopher turn my brain on and I feel like having the required fuel for doing some action.
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But here’s the secret. When it comes to success, words like motivation, desire, goals, productivity remain a word until you work. In simpler terms, change yourself and not the world and you change when you want to change. Turn your thoughts into action when the appropriate time comes.
Let no one discourage your ambitious attitude. You don’t need a fan club to achieve your goals. Be your own motivation. You’re not a robot and you cannot simply conjure motivation when you do not have. This is life and sometimes we have to go through a difficult period. So, be prepared.
You cannot control everything. You can wake up at 5 am, but you cannot control your mood when you wake up. What is the use of waking up sad, and depressed? You can try hard every day, but you must allow yourself with a few short breaks. This is going to make you feel like a human being.
You cannot always decide the outcome. Simply cannot. You cannot always control the outcome and issues. You must learn that the unpredictability and uncertainty of something are two things that are beyond your control.
You do not need more motivation or inspiration to create the life you want. Before giving up anything for something, you need to surrender your shame. If you really want to do something, throw your old beliefs out of the window.
Stop telling yourself that you cannot do this. You should not allow your shame to block your way. Do not let your doubts hold you from pushing yourself to the extreme. Do take a closer look at every success story. There is one thing common in their stories – “higher the risk, higher the profit/recognition.”
Don’t read success stories, you will only get a message. Read failure stories, you will get some ideas to get success. You must not listen to people living in other circumstances and stages of life. Motivation has to come from within. I can guarantee you, no personality development course can boost your confidence. You don’t need a new year to make a resolution.
The fact that you are not where you want to be, should be enough motivation. Stop worrying because worrying is like praying for something you really don’t want. There is a magic that you do not fully understand and which operate in unpredictable ways.
We must let things to do their job. Everything happens for a reason, they say. Maybe, nothing seems sensible today, but one day, everything will make sense. Believe in that. Allow yourself to believe in it.
When you walk up to the opportunities door, don’t knock it. Kick that b*tch in, smile and introduce yourself.
Causes And Home Remedies For Premature Ejaculation
Are you the one who leaves the pitch right after first delivery; within one minute of penetration? The technical name of this embarrassing situation is – “premature ejaculation”.
In the books of medicines, this term is known as a condition that causes men to have little or no control over their ejaculation. How about if I tell you that 1 in 5 men are affected? Yet there are many effective ways in which this problem can be addressed. In this article, we will be talking about causes and home remedies for premature ejaculation.
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History of Premature Ejaculation
Alfred Kinsley was the man who first defined the problem. He discovered (in 1940) that a large proportion of the male population cum within minutes after the start of sexual stimulation. His research was limited to the cases of premature ejaculation within 3 minutes. Similar studies have been repeated, and the results varied. There are several names for this problem, but premature ejaculation is used as a scientific term for the problem of orgasm quickly in men.
Premature Ejaculation's Causes
The bottom line is – men and their sexual fantasies at a very early age. Although the men become sexually mature at the age of fifteen years, yet their first sexual encounter occurs at the age of twenty. The gap between desiring for sex and actually having it is filled with masturbation. During this gap period, masturbation becomes a sexual routine and this leads to a poor control over ejaculation.
Whenever we get a chance for sex, we get excited before doing it, i.e. mentally we are already done. This also happens because we are not sexually mature and do not want to give up any opportunity to have sex. In simple words, our initial excitements make us cum in the brain before we can cum on the bed.
The ‘Want’ Phase
You are now aware of your sex drive and you will seek sexual activities. With a partner or without a partner, you often want to get out of your clothes. And, if not sex, then it is going to be masturbation.
At this stage – the only important thing for you is your own orgasm and this will become your only ‘want’! You just want to cum. Many men describe this stage as the moment when they begin to fantasize about ejaculation.
The Checklist Phase
During this phase, your body prepares for the ejaculation. A number of physical steps must be put in to get ready. If not, then it is virtually impossible for our body to ejaculate. My point is – a 20 seconds’ imagination is not what you need for ejaculating. You need to prepare your body for a longer duration.
The (Pre) Point of No Return
I used the word ‘pre’ because these are the last moments before the actual point of no return. This point is considered as the last chance to influence our orgasm before we ejaculate and lose control.
Possible Solutions and Techniques against Premature Ejaculation
Relieve Mental Stress
You can expect an increase in stress not only during sex but also before having it. When you are ready to have sex with a particular woman, you hope that you won’t disappoint and you try to make sure that everything goes well. Men who suffer from premature ejaculation, actually suffer from a fear of their premature ejaculation.
When you’re in such a situation, you lose your mental control way before you lose your belt. The fear (of premature ejaculation) that you take with you into the bedroom, will ensure that you finish off very quickly. In such a situation, it is advisable that you should talk to your partner about the problem. The core idea behind that discussion is disclosing your fears so that you can walk in the room with full enthusiasm.
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Postpone Physical Stress and Orgasm
I don’t need to tell you that physical efforts and sex go hand in hand. In order to achieve pleasure and orgasm, there are a lot of actions, which require the best use of your muscles that otherwise you rarely utilize. In fact, muscle creates the tension behind the premature ejaculation. This muscle tension is one among other causes of premature ejaculation.
The more physical stress, the sooner you will finish.
The best solution here is – a body massage. Ask your partner to give you a complete body massage. It is going to reduce the tension; both physical and mental. Alternatively, you can also give her a body massage. By doing this, you can shift your focus on her, and reduce the tension. Meditation and yoga exercises are also a good way to get more rest.
The Cone Exercise to Control the Orgasm
The Kegel exercises are a good way to delay orgasm, but you need patience and time before you can enjoy results. It is not so easy to get control over the pelvic floor muscle. It is the muscle that tightens you if you want to keep your urine. This same muscle should come to be in a tension when the body wants to go to ejaculation. To gain ejaculatory control, you tighten the muscle and relax the same for a specified amount of seconds.
The Start-Stop Method
The start-stop method is an ideal method to better identify the point of no return. You cannot only use this method during sex but also while masturbating. The trick is to always stop the later timing. If you continually postpone quitting, you’ll be getting closer to the point of no return. After practice, you can then influence your ejaculation period.
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Have you ever noticed that during masturbation you breathe faster? In this method, you should stop for a few seconds until you notice that the excitement is about to die. Then, you start again, and this time, you need to hold yourself for a little extra time.
You keep doing this practice until you learn to judge your “point of no return.” The better you know how the point of no-return feels like, the better you will learn how to intervene yourself during sex to delay orgasm. Finally, premature ejaculation has no chance.
Premature ejaculation is not a phenomenon that is associated with a disease, and it is, therefore, not severe. However, you must not leave it untreated because premature ejaculation can spoil your (sexual) relationships.
Love Story of Jodrell, Alice, And John – Finally She Came.
Morning it was and the highway was full of cars. Jodrell was already late for his very important meeting. His car was running out of fuel, so he thought of refilling the tank. After refilling, he tried to ignite the engine, but the steering of the car was locked. So, he asked for help and he was told that due to some technical and computerization fault, the car can only be fixed by the manufacturers. So, after calling them and handing over the keys, Jodrell preferred taking the train from a nearby train station.
Unlike India, in the USA, people prefer public transport. Most of the commuters prefer parking their cars near railway stations and boarding a train. This is the reason behind fully packed trains, especially during peak hours of the morning. Well, after a few minutes a train arrived and Jodrell boarded it.
Chapter 1 - They were destined to meet
Jodrell’s office was 7 stations ahead of that place and as the compartment was fully loaded, hence, he was left with no option than standing like others. Right next to him, at a distance of a few steps, there was a beautiful girl with her blonde hair. She was consistently looking at him. Jodrell was already impressed with her simplicity.
Every time he looked at her, he found her looking at him. After a few stations, she went off. It was a hell-packed compartment, so Jodrell was not able to trace her. After three stations, it was Jodrell’s time to get off the train. While he was walking towards his office, he received a call from the car company.
He was told that due to some major fault, it will take around a month and as compensation, the company is sending him another car. But, he refused. He told them, “No. I don’t need a car. I can manage.” Although there were 7-8 cars parked in Jodrell’s house, after that day, Jodrell voted for the train.
Next day, he parked his car and boarded the same train. Luckily, he met the same girl in the same compartment. This continued for the next two days and on the third day, Jodrell decided to befriend that girl. He called up his receptionist and informed her to cancel everything as he is going to be late. So, the next day, as planned, he gets off with her. After a few minutes of walk, he was able to follow her.
Chapter 2 - Love At First Sight
But, the next thing he saw, totally shocked him. That girl was walking with a blind-stick. She was blind.
Jodrell was in love with her. He was in a deep shock. That day, he decided not to talk to her. But, the next day, he chased her again and stopped her. After a formal introduction, Alice told him that she already knows that Jodrell followed her a day before, as well. On asking how she knows, she replied, “I can smell the perfume on you.”
Well, their casual friendship was now becoming a very strong friendship. Then, one day, Jodrell asked Alice, about her blindness; whether she is born blind or she lost her eyes in an accident?
Chapter 3 - When Secrets & Lies Were Walking Together
To which, she replied, she lost her eyes in an accident and she is under treatment. Even on that day, she had an appointment with his eye-specialist. On insisting, Jodrell accompanied her. After a formal medical investigation, Jodrell made a false excuse. “ Alice, I am getting late for a meeting. How about meeting tomorrow.”?
After this, he hired a cab for Alice, and after seeing her off, he rushed back to the same eye-specialist. On his request, he told him that her eyes can be treated, but Alice is not financially capable. Jodrell proposed about paying her expenses and told him that if she inquires about the source, just tell her that it was from a charitable trust.
After a few days, she got her eyes treated and she was now able to see things clearly. Jodrell was happy for her and he started with his plans of proposing her.
Chapter 4 - A Proposal That Never Happened
Next day, he called Alice and fixed a meeting. Today, Jodrell was in full mood of proposing. As soon she arrived, Jodrell realized, she was not breathing properly and was experiencing breathe shortness.
“What’s wrong, Alice? Why are you in such a pain? What is the reason behind this breathe shortness?” Jodrell asked. “I was late and I was feeling bad for you. I thought you must be waiting for long. So, I just ran from the station.”
It was around 30 minutes now, but Alice was not normal. She was still experiencing breathe shortness. Suddenly, she fainted and fell down. Jodrell was shocked and he called up the ambulance.
Upon reaching the hospital, he was told that Alice is the first candidate of heart transplant’s 1A list. In the US 1A list means patients who need a heart transplant immediately and in any case, they are given priority. Alice was a heart patient.
Once again, Jodrell gave his hundred percent in finding a heart for her. But the problem with Alice’s heart transplant was her blood group. She was A2B and this is a very rare blood group. Hope you know that for heart transplant, (donor and receiver’s) blood group must be the same. Well, on that day, Alice was discharged after basic treatment.
On the next very day, Jodrell talked about this and his family doctor told him that Jodrell’s blood group is A2B. To keep his love alive, Jodrell was all set to donate his heart, but that was legally not possible. After a few days, Jodrell received a response from a nearby hospital. They told him about the availability of a matching heart.
Chapter 5 - The Reason Behind Their Meet
But, Jodrell was sure that he won’t be able to convince Alice because she is a very self-respecting lady. So, he thought of marrying her because as a wife she won’t have any reason to deny. At the same time, there was another thought going on in Jodrell’s mind. “What if she refused his marriage proposal?” Keeping this possibility in mind, he called his receptionist and asked her to create a fake contest and announce Alice as a winner. So, in case of her denial, he still would have a chance to help her with money.
After this, he called Alice’s doctor and told him about the donor. He further told him to inform Alice about the donor after two days. Jodrell arranged everything for Alice.
Then, the day came. Jodrell picked his car from the car station. He loaded car’s boot with heart-shaped balloons and purchased a nice diamond ring. He ranged Alice and fixed a meeting. He felt that Alice is more impatient about this meeting. Well, for him, it was a good sign.
That was morning hours and the highway was full of cars. Alice was consistently ringing him. “I guess she already knows that I am going to propose her,” Jodrell talked to himself. Well, after a few minutes, Jodrell arrived at his destination. He parked his car at a distance because the nearest parking was not available.
Finally, Jodrell reached that place and he found Alice waiting for him. After apologizing for coming late, he pulled a chair next to Alice. As Jodrell was telling her about why he is late, Alice pointed towards a man.
“Jodrell, meet John. He is my fiance.”
Jodrell was broken, but he gave no signs. He congratulated both for their marriage. Upon asking for his presence in their marriage, Jodrell made an excuse that his company is sending him to Germany for a year or two and he won’t be able to see Alice anymore.
Nevertheless, they will be in touch via phone. These were the last words between Alice and Jodrell. He further moved towards his car.
Then, he called his receptionist and doctor. In the very next moment receptionist called Alice. She informed her about winning a $50000 prize money.
Right after the receptionist’s call, the doctor called Alice. He informed her about the possibilities of a heart transplant and the availability of a donor. For Alice, this was nothing, but a miracle. In a day, her two biggest worries were sorted.
The day after that Alice was admitted and her heart transplant was a 100% success. Until she was not given a green signal, a man used to visit her on daily basis. He introduced himself as a representative of the same charitable trust, who donated money for Alice’s eye treatment. But, the truth was something different. It was a fictitious charitable trust formed by Jodrell to help her. And, Alice was not aware of this truth.
After six months of her surgery, Alice was given a green signal. She was now completely fine. By this time, for Alice, Jodrell was a history; all gone. After her surgery, she married John.
Chapter 6 - It Was All Planned.
One fine evening, Alice switched on the television. On every new channel, the same story was running. “A successful entrepreneur died in an accident.”
Next visuals of that new were, “heart-shaped balloons flying in the air. “It seems like this man was up for wedding proposal. But, the poor guy lost his life.” Alice told John. Then, came his photo on the screen. “It was Jodrell.” A person who used to travel on the train was one of the richest entrepreneurs of US.
Alice was stunned. A guy, who used to be around her, is her boss. Alice was an employee in one of his 1000 stores.
Jodrell was a rich guy and his death was a big trouble for the concerned insurance companies. There was a debate going on that news channel. A speaker was arguing that it was a suicide. Driver himself locked his car steering and there was no technical fault. So, their company is not liable for issuing any sort of insurance claim. In the same debate, Alice saw that man, who used to visit her in the hospital as a charitable trust’s representative.
After a few days, in another evening, someone rang Alice’s doorbell. It was the same guy; the charitable trust’s representative. He handed over a bouquet of flowers and before he can leave, Alice stopped him. She asked, “was it Jodrell, who paid for her eye treatment?”
To which, that guy told him, “not only eyes, but the heart that is beating in her belongs to Jodrell.” In that very accident, Jodrell’s brain was dead, but as his heart was working fine, so as per his request, it was donated. He was completely sure that as you were the first candidate to receive a heart as per 1A list, so his heart will be given to you.
And, fortunately, it was given to you.
After saying this, the man left and Alice was looking at those flowers. There was a slip with a few lines written on it.
“No problem, if I was not an apple of your eye, but still I am going to live in your eyes as a light. No problem, if I failed in securing a place in your heart, I am now a heart beating inside you.”
Motorola Pulse Escape Headphones – Used And Reviewed
If you are, a music lover, then having a craze about headphones is nothing new. The market is full of options, and you can buy a headphone from INR 100 to INR1,00,000. But the question is, which one you should buy? Earphones or headphones, choice vary from person to person. If you ask me, then I would opt for over the ear wireless headphones because I hate tangled wires. Recently, I purchased, , and today, I will be reviewing it.
Things that I liked in this headphone
Before this, I had already reviewed BoAt Rockers 400 and Sony WI-300. But, I was not impressed with their packing. However, in the case of , I loved it. The combination of red and white looks awesome.
You will get this headphone packed in a carton. At the front, on the top of this carton, you will see the Motorola Logo.
It looks very impressive. Right next to it, you will have a glance (picture) of the headphones.
You can predict that the design of this headphone is going to be very attractive.
From the photo, you can judge about the flexibility this headphone comes with. On the left-hand side of this photo, you can learn about the 3 key features of this headphone.
10 hours playtime, passive noise isolation, lightweight, and fold-able are three main specialties explained, at this side of the carton.
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Now because this headphone is Bluetooth, so at the bottom on the extreme right, you will see Bluetooth’s logo.
I will further explain, how to connect this headphone using your phone’s Bluetooth. In addition, you can connect this headphone through an AUX cable.
On the right side of the (carton) packing, you can learn more about the technical specifications of this headphone. You will find more information about the Bluetooth technology, standby time, the convenience of hands-free calls, and frequency.
For the tech-savvy customer, this piece of information can really help a lot. Just below this information, you will know about the things included in this packing.
In packing, you will find 3 other things besides headphone- USB cable, AUX cable and a quick start guide.
This instruction manual is multilingual, and all the instructions are available in several languages. It is therefore easy to read and understand them.
Through this guidelines manual, you will be able to use your headphone with an ease. Every function is well-explained, and you will get to know the about every button combination of this headphone.
After reading and using these combinations for once or twice, you will be able to perform these without looking at this instruction manual.
Besides, you will find a USB cable in the packing.
This cable is used to charge the headphone’s battery. It is highly recommended to charge your headphone fully before using.
To charge, put the thin edge of the USB cable, in the headphone socket (shown in the photo) and the wider end in the USB point (of a laptop or phone charger). In packing, you will only get a USB cable and not a charger.
AUX cable is the next thing that you will get in the packing.
If during use, your headphone battery dies, you can connect your headphone with the phone using this AUX cable.
To do so, you have to put one end of this cable into your mobile phone’s 3.5mm jack and the other in the headphone socket (as shown in the photo). This way you can use this headphone even when the batteries are over.
Overall, I’m fully satisfied with the packing of .
Let’s talk about the main console of Motorola’s Pulse Escape headphone. Headphone’s main console is on its right ear-cup. You will see 3 buttons just above the ear cup. With these three buttons, you will be able to access each and every function of this headphone. Motorola’s branding has been done on this console, and it looks amazing.
To learn more about these functions, you need to refer to the guidelines given in the instruction manual. With this help, you can understand and use all of these functions.
Under the same ear cup, you will get a USB charging socket, AUX cable socket, inbuilt mic, and a small LED light, which, apart from the headphone’s on or off, blinks when it is reset.
You Can Deal Calls With This Headphone
I really loved this function of . Now, you don’t need to shut your headphone off for answering a call, even if you get one in the middle of the music. You can deal with that call using your headphone’s console.
With the upward button on the right side of the headphones, you can answer, reject, or redial.
To do this, you have to press these buttons in a said combination; sometimes you have to hold the button for a long time, sometimes you just need to press it for once, and sometimes you have to press another button with along with this button.
To learn more about it, please follow the combinations explained in the instruction manual.
According to the given picture, by toying around these buttons, you can enjoy the desired result.
Let me tell you; the call quality is wonderful. You won’t face any lagging or voice-breaking-experiences while answering calls using this headphone. Furthermore, the headphone range is up to 60 feet.
Ear-cups Are Very Comfortable
The ear-cups of are very comfortable. I liked it very much.
They fit nicely on your ears. I can give full marks to the manufacturing quality.
Even after using these headphones for hours, you won’t feel any pain or heaviness on your ears.
Batterybattery backup is great. Once fully charged, it lasts for at least 8 to 10 hours.
If you do not want any interruption in your music, then you have to always keep in mind that your headphone battery is fully charged. In some cases, you cannot keep checking it by pulling your phone out.
However, if you are using , then you can get this information from the headphone itself.
To do so, you have to press a few buttons in the shown combination.
Like any music system, has an inbuilt equalizer. Now, you can enjoy music in different modes by pressing a few buttons at once.
According to the given picture, you have to press buttons, and you can enjoy music in whatever mode you like.
Google Siri Enabled
Motorola Pulse Escape Headphone comes with an awesome feature. It offers connectivity with Google Siri and that too with your headphone.
If you want to give instructions to your phone without pulling it out, you can do so by activating Google Siri.
To do so, you have to press the >+ button in idle mode, and then say your command.
By doing so, Google Siri will be activated on your phone and you will be able to give directions.
Pairing is Very Easy
It’s very easy to connect this headphone to your mobile phone’s Bluetooth. You can do so within a minute or two.
To connect it, you have to press and hold the power button (for 5 to 10 seconds).
Once you do this, the LED will start blinking in blue and red color.
It is a sign that the headphone is reset and is now ready for the Bluetooth connection.
After this, you have to go to the Bluetooth settings of your phone, and you will see “Pulse Escape” under available devices.
This means that the Bluetooth of the phone and headphone are ready for the connection.
As soon as you click on the option of “Pulse Escape” on the phone, you see a message of “pairing.”
This message indicates that the “pairing” is initiated.
Once “pairing” is done, you will get a message saying “connected.”
This means that your and phones are connected to each other.
Things that I did not like at Motorola Pulse Escape Headphones
Very Fragile And Can Break Easily
If you are not good at handling, then you have to be extra careful with these headphones. are very fragile, especially around the clip for folding it. You can end up breaking it because of your slight mishandling.
Although I have not yet faced any such problem, every time I fold it, the does scream out the plastic.
Many people have complained about this part, and the worst thing is, once broken from this part, headphones become a useless piece of plastic. Although this highly depends upon your handling, after buying such an expensive headphone, if it breaks easily due to a slight negligence, then I won’t consider it as a great deal.
Sound Quality is Not That Impressive
Although the sound quality of the is great, if you are a bass lover, then these headphones are going to disappoint you.
In these headphones, you will not get a bass like the boat rockers 400 or Chokoko quantum.
Not for Big Heads or If You Wear Turbans
The headphone’s headband is made of plastic.
Although you can increase the size of this headphone according to the need, yet their length is limited.
Therefore, if you wear turbans, then these headphones are not for you. You can easily break these off.
I am personally happy with . When you buy an expensive headphone, you have 2 major demands. First of all, the headphone’s sound quality should be good, and secondly, it must be durable. As far as the breakage is concerned, it depends on how carefully you handle it. In the case of sound quality, I am not a bass lover, so this headphone is very good for me.
At this price, it is very hard to have Bluetooth headphones with so many features.
What To Do Before And After A Workout
Go anywhere, it is all about gym & fitness clubs, home, and plots for sale, easy home loans, jewelers and smart schools. Women are crazy for size zero and men are dying for biceps and six-packs, and believe me, in most cases, it is about making their tribal tattoos feel good.
Jokes apart. There are countless articles about how to stay fit, what workouts one should do and how. But, at the same time, there are countless myths that we are following and ruining our workouts. Well, if you are really concerned about the returns for all your invested hours, then here are a few things to do before and after a workout.
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Amount of water one should drink before a workout
Many people will say one should drink liters of water before exercise. Undeniably, you must stay well hydrated while exercising. However, drinking too much during exercise can cause nausea and cramps.
According to the experts, one should drink 15 to 20 ounces of water and that too before an hour or two of starting. In addition, drink another 8 to 10 ounces before 15 minutes and 8 ounces after every 15 minutes of your exercise.
If you generally sweat more, you should drink more. The idea is to replace every pound lost with fluid.
Amount of food one should eat before a workout
There are debates whether or not one should eat before a workout and how much. A few say empty stomach training means more fat burning. But, do you think you can turn your car on with an empty tank? I don’t think so.
We need to understand the simple science behind eating and workout. If you are on a heavy meal, you are actually directing/diverting a portion of your blood from muscles to the digestive system of your body. We know blood is our body’s oxygen delivery system and thus, after diversion, you will be left with lesser oxygen available for your muscles. So eating too much is not good.
But this doesn’t mean you should not eat anything before the workout. According to experts eating apples, nuts etc., that are easy to digest and offer you the required energy.[“small_title title=” Amount of sleep you need before the workout”]
“Early to bed, early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise.” Not only a kindergarten rhyme but a secret to a beautiful life. Staying fit asks for a commitment, but not at the cost of your health; you need to strike a balance, dude!
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Sleep deprivation can cause impaired balance, appropriate focus and inefficient calorie burning. Sleep deprivation means unproductive workout sessions, improper immune system, problems with tissue repairs, and growth.
The secret is – sleep deprivation means disturbed stress hormones. This simply means everything done so far in the gym is useless.
Amount of coffee one can drink before or after the workout
Whether to have a cup or two of coffee before and after the workout is justifiable? Many people ask this question on discussion forums. It is good to have a cup of coffee 90 minutes before starting workout; it will stimulate energy production, helps you in fat burning and you will perform better.
After a workout, you need a recovery meal and not coffee because your muscles will be built after a workout and not during it.
Fixing a goal for your workout
Should you be do anything without a goal in mind, you are already wasting it. Same is the case with a workout. Before you start, it is smart to make a plan. What your priorities are and what you are sweating for? Want to lose weight; look what exercises are as good for that.
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Are you aiming for a marathon; find something relevant. In addition to your goal, the next most important thing – never let your motivation level come down.
Amount and importance of warmup before a workout
We should never skip warm-up before doing any sort of workout. Ask your trainers for a well-designed warm-up for you, as this will not only increase muscle temperature but will also help your muscles to work up to their maximum.
Before you start with anything else, it is advisable to start with a treadmill or stationary bike.
5 Communication Mistakes That Can Ruin Your Message
How well you speak and what kinda words you choose are two important tools among others that help us to climb many social and professional ladders. Regardless of our profession or designation, we do several communication mistakes that eventually cost us a lot. Here are 5 communication mistakes that can ruin your message. You must avoid these if you want others to take you seriously.
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Could, Maybe, Should
Avoid using these most common verbs like, “could,” “maybe,” “should.” All of this is commonly used in normal conversations but makes you seem uninteresting and uncertain. In other words, when you use these words, what you say does not seem credible even if you know what you are talking about.
Generally, when we disagree with something, but for some reason, we have to accept that, we use this most annoying word called “OK.” Apart from this, when we do not want to be a part of any debate or not in the mood of listening someone’s point of view, we try to put that conversation to an end by saying “OK” in haste.
But do you know how badly this represents you? When you say “OK”, it is assumed that you are either ignoring the talk, or you are not interested in the speaker. It will also feel that you are almost bound to communicate.
Therefore, choose this one word very carefully.
Using this word at the end of a joke is acceptable, but if you say “super” after something important was communicated to you or when you pass on some information, you might not be able to see yourself in a business environment. This word shows enthusiasm, but if you use it too much, it becomes insincere. If you use this word frequently, you will be considered as an overconfident personality.
You must refrain yourself from using these two words. These two words are known as a few of the most useless words used in the history of communication.
Uttering these two words can destroy the maturity and technical character of the most erudite sentences and makes you look extremely immature. Should you use these words, you cannot expect a listener to listen to you carefully.
We use the word “sorry” in different contexts for different reasons. But, the root reason is – we are actually asking for forgiveness. It happens, while working. I have seen cases, where people intentionally ignore the most important part of the discussions. And, at a later stage, they have to ask for the same instructions again, but with an apology message.
Now, this apology is going to make you look like an immature and irresponsible personality. Practically, you say “apology” when you accept that you have done something wrong and now you are feeling insecure.
I believe I had successfully explained to you how the choice of words can affect your image. To be a good speaker, you must exercise good control over your speech and choice of words. A single mistake of choosing a word can devoid you of a golden opportunity. Therefore, use these words with the utmost care.
Eat These 10 Foods To Increase Your Libido
Do you think that your sex life seems a little dull? Do not worry, we’ve all been there. Sometimes the hustle and bustle of every day’s life puts you in a bad mood and having sex is the last thing that comes to your mind. However, to have a healthy sex life means good health and happy married relationship. In this article, we will be telling you about 10 foods to increase your libido.
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Do you know, eating a small portion of delicious foods such as watermelon or can substantially increase your sexual desire? Well, we’re about to tell you about a few easily available foods that can put you in the mood.
For many, the watermelon is the new Viagra. Watermelon seems to produce effects similar to Viagra on blood vessels, which can quickly . If you want to put you in the mood, cut a fresh watermelon bowl (or make a watermelon smoothie) and you are ready to go further.
When it is about healthy libido, vitamin B plays an important role in increasing the production of histamine. is packed with vitamin B, which makes this delicious vegetable a “must-have” food for men and women, looking to give their sex lives a flavor!
Avocados have become one of the most popular foods in recent years. Perhaps you do not know, but people in many countries people eat avocados only to increase their libido.
It is probably not surprising that these hot chili peppers can boost your sex life. Capsaicin (the main ingredient in peppers) promotes the release of chemicals that increase the heart rate and trigger the release of endorphins.
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Thus, chilies give you the energy and desire you need for raising your temperature, especially in your intimate moments.
If you are looking to improve the atmosphere in your intimate moments, consider having a few pieces of chocolates. The chocolate has more antioxidants than red wine and contains a chemical stimulant; phenylethylamine. This chemical gives you a sense of excitement and is a sure way to raise the temperature.
Stress is one among the other major reasons responsible for low libido. Stress can make sexual intercourse difficult for anyone. Eliminating the worry and anxiety in your life can make you a better sexual partner, and this is where the lemons come in.
Lemons are a natural relief against stress. Adding a slice of lemon in a glass of water or a cup of tea will get rid of your worries, boost your energy, and increase your sexual desire to spice things behind closed doors.
Add a handful of walnuts in your breakfast, and your partner will thank you forever. Walnuts are a great source of L-Arginine. L-Arginine is converted to nitric oxide, which dilates blood vessels, thus promoting erection. Many nuts also contain high levels of omega-3 fatty acids that are important for a healthy cardiovascular system.
If you like oysters, then they will likely become, as of today, your new best friends. These slippery appetizers are considered one of the most effective aphrodisiacs.
According to experts, “a lot of shellfish, including oysters, clams, crabs, lobsters are rich in zinc, which can lead to a sharp increase in the production of sex hormones.”
Olives are an ideal food to stimulate the libido in both men and women. In past times, people used to eat olives to increase their attractiveness. For your information, men can have a particular boost by eating green olives, while black olives can be of great help for women.
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It is not by chance that the men and women of medieval times were using honey instead of champagne to toast at weddings: yes, they knew that honey stimulates sexual desires.
Honey is rich in boron – a mineral proved to increase the metabolism of testosterone and estrogen. Add enough honey to your tea, and it will prepare you for a night of fun.
Cucumber, pumpkin seeds, saffron, ginseng, and eggs are a few more fruits that can really help in increasing your libido.
Now that you know what all you should eat; have fun eating and experimenting. Do let me know if you have any more suggestions.
6 Effects Of Vitamin B12 Deficiency And Their Symptoms
Do you know that vitamin B12 deficiency is one of the most common deficiencies in our body? In this article, we will learn about the symptoms of vitamin B12 deficiency and the consequences thereof.
Fatigue, exhaustion, short-term memory problems, and the sensation of stinging in the extremities are symptoms of vitamin B12 deficiency. For your information, I would like to mention that vitamin B12 plays an important role in the normal functioning of the body. If you notice any vitamin B12 deficiency, please contact your doctor quickly.
What Is The Role Of Vitamin B12 In The Body?
Before understanding the physical problems caused by vitamin B12’s deficiency, it is very important to understand the role of vitamin B12 in our body.
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Vitamin B12 performs an important function in the production of DNA. DNA determines the optimal formation and function of each organ. In addition, vitamin B12 reduces homocysteine levels. Homocysteine is a chemical found in the blood and can irritate the blood vessels when it rises above the normal range. If homocysteine is not metabolized optimally, then it may cause inflammation and toxic effects in the body.
Symptoms And Effects Of Vitamin B12 Deficiency
Due to the lack of vitamin B12, anemia can occur. It is characterized by a reduction in red blood cell activity.
The main manifestation of the anemic type of deficiency of vitamin B12 is megaloblastic anemia. Tiredness, tachycardia (the heartbeat is faster than normal), and dizziness are the symptoms of this problem.
Vitamin B12 plays an important role in the production of normal red blood cells (which ensure oxygenation and the function of each organ). Megaloblastic anemia can be diagnosed quickly with analyzes, so do not hesitate to schedule a specialist consultation if you have characteristic symptoms.
It is a condition that has a negative impact on the connection between the peripheral nervous system, the brain, and the spinal cord. In serious cases of this, nerve connections can also be affected. Vitamin B12 is one of the factors that influence myelin formation, and its deficiency can drastically reduce the amount of myelin needed for the functioning of the body.
In the case of vitamin B12 deficiency, the peripheral nervous system will not optimally control movements. You can expect unusual sensations or changes in muscle tone.
Symptoms of peripheral neuropathy usually manifest in the hands or paw of the foot. In more serious cases they can move to the arms or legs. Symptoms of this condition are tingling, numbness, and weakness.
In this situation, an individual’s memory becomes so weak that he can not even perform his daily tasks. In addition to the lack of vitamin B12, there are many other reasons for dementia. But studies have shown that dementia due to vitamin B12 deficiency results from a very high level of homocysteine.
Symptoms of dementia are forgetfulness of small things, memory problems, difficulty concentrating or solving complex problems, apathy, hallucinations and the inability to take care of one’s own person.
In some situations, depression may be a clinical manifestation of the lack of vitamin B12. Depression due to vitamin B12 can also occur with anemia or dementia.
It is a condition, which hinders the blood circulation to the brain and which later leads to physical or mental inefficiency.
Vitamin B12 deficiency increases the risk of stroke, especially in young people. Increased level of homocysteine demonstrates vitamin B12’s deficiency.
The lack of vitamin B12 causes degeneration of the cartilage in the spinal cord, which can lead to the damage to the myelin protective coating. As a result of Myelopathy, you can expect losing control of movements, lack of balance or sensations. Symptoms of this condition are general weakness, numbness, pricking and balance problems.
In addition to medical treatments like nasal spray (Nascobal), injections, tablets, you must have a varied diet that includes meat, milk, cheese, and eggs, to improve the level of vitamin B12 in your body. Furthermore, consuming foods containing folic acid is highly recommended. These include vegetables with green leaves, citrus fruits, and whole grains.
According to health experts, if you are having treatment for vitamin B12 deficiency, then you must not drink alcohol because alcohol interferes with the body’s ability to absorb vitamin B12.
Costoso Italiano Brown Leather Casual Lace Up Boot Shoes – Used And Reviewed
“To judge a man’s worth, look at his shoe.” If you are a Bollywood fan, you must have heard this dialogue. However, I consider it nothing more than a movie dialog. I believe, if a shoe is not comfortable, then regardless of how expensive it is, shoes are of no use.
Apart from the clothes and wrist-watches, I am huge fan or shoes. When it comes to shoes, I never buy a pair without a thorough scanning. Though I am not against local brands, but in case of shoe, I only prefer buying international brands. I recently purchased Costoso Italiano Brown Leather Casual Lace Up Boot Shoes and today, I would like to share my ideas about the same.
Things that I liked in Costoso Italiano Brown Leather Casual Lace Up Boot Shoes
I believe, just by seeing the packing you can tell what is inside the box. If a company is not serious about the packing of its’ product, then you don’t need any rocket science to predict the standard of their product. Do you?
Like food, nowadays, people eat everything with their eyes first. So, if you are not serious about the packing, then you won’t be able to grab your piece of market. It is going to be very hard for you to mark your presence. I may be wrong with others, but for fashion industry, this is the case.
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The packing of Costoso Italiano Brown Leather Casual Lace Up Boot Shoes was great. It was nicely packed by Amazon and after unwrapping the amazon’s packing, I got to see the company’s packing.
Big brands, they always keep their branding simple, but elegant. I noticed the same thing with Costoso Italiano Brown Leather Casual Lace Up Boot Shoes
It was nicely packed in a white cardboard made box and every single item was awesomely branded.
Inside the packing you will find a pair of shoes, a pair of insoles, a shoe-shiner, and a shoe horn.
Every little thing in the pack really amazed me. This was not the first time I made an online purchase of a shoe. However, for the first time, I was really impressed with the packing.
The first thing, I saw in the pack was a shoe shiner. In a plastic made box, this sponge brush was looking great with branding.
As soon as you open that little black box, you will find a purple sponge piece, filled with liquid polish.
Once you press the sponge brush against shoe, the polish comes out (due to pressure between sponge brush and shoe). You can expect a sparkling shine.
The second thing that was found in the packing of Costoso Italiano Brown Leather Casual Lace Up Boot Shoes was – a pair of insoles.
It is often seen that in the case of an online (shoes) purchase, you have to struggle with the perfect size. Apart from this, shoes are supposed to lose their actual fitting, once you start wearing them in routine.
Keeping these issues in mind, the company is giving you an extra pair of insoles or height adjusters.
You can see the company’s branding. In golden color, the branding looks stunning. This gives me an idea of company’s seriousness about their product.
However, I was lucky enough as I got the right size of the pair. Hence, I kept these insoles safe for the future use.
Apart from the shoes, the third thing you will find in the packing of Costoso Italiano Brown Leather Casual Lace Up Boot Shoes is a shoe horn.
If you do not usually wear high ankle boots, you may find it hard to wear them without a shoe horn.
Now, with the help of this shoe horn, it was really easy to wear these.
Texture of the Shoes
I have no words to praise the texture of the Costoso Italiano Brown Leather Casual Lace Up Boot Shoes. When I saw these shoes on the internet, I was half ready to buy these. I was doubtful about the graphical representation of shoe. We know, how they morph product images on the internet to lure buyers. But, I was wrong. I found these as I saw on the internet.
For your information, every single pair of Costoso Italiano Brown Leather Casual Lace Up Boot Shoe pass through many levels of quality control and quality improvement.
Regardless of the model, every Costoso Italiano shoe is weather resistant and you are not supposed to worry about its colors.
The Costoso Italiano Brown Leather Casual Lace Up Boot Shoes are made of genuine leather. And, because of the design of these shoes, it lets air cool your feet.
Unlike, the shoes that are made of synthetic materials, in case of Costoso Italiano Brown Leather Casual Lace Up Boot Shoes, you won’t experience any bad odor, even after wearing these shoes for hours.
The sole of Costoso Italiano Brown Leather Casual Lace Up Boot Shoes is incredibly comfortable.
Undoubtedly, company’s claim of having a best quality sole is real.
Sole’s thickness is its biggest strength.
The sole acts like a shock absorber and it not only protects you from any kind of shock, but also provides you a strong grip with the ground.
Though, it may look heavier, but in reality, Costoso Italiano Brown Leather Casual Lace Up Boot Shoes are very light in weight.
You can have an idea from the picture.
Even after wearing it for hours, you won’t experience any pressure or heaviness on your feet.
I am very impressed with the stitching. Look at Costoso Italiano Brown Leather Casual Lace Up Boot Shoes from any angle, you will not see any malfunction in sewing.
By looking at the stitching, you can judge the professionalism and expertise. You won’t see a single broken thread.
Things that I Disliked About Costoso Italiano Brown Leather Casual Lace Up Boot Shoes
First time wearing experience was not good
When I wore these shoes for the first time, I had to struggle a bit. It was not at all easy. Trust me, without a shoe horn, it is going to be little hard for you to wear it.
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Not for the people with medium height
These shoes look big. So, if you are not tall enough, then these are not going to suit your personality. But, if your height is 5’9” +, then Costoso Italiano Brown Leather Casual Lace Up Boot Shoes are definitely going to enhance your personality.
My wearing experience is positive, so far.
These boots really suits my personality and I too feel like I am wearing a style.
For the durability, follow these tips
- Always keep your shoes clean. Should you see any dust or mud, clean it with a good brush.
- Instead exposing wet shoes to the sun, let them (air-dry) dry in room temperature.
- Never use any kind of heat or dryer.
- Do keep in mind, any kind of heat, especially sun heat, can harm your shoes. It will cause the leather to shrink and there could be chances of leather cracks, wrinkles, and discoloration.
I have no problem recommending these shoes. In whole, I had a positive experience.
Why You Should Forgive Someone Who Keeps Hurting You
When someone disappoints you, you get angry, you think you should not have invested time in that relationship. You seem to feel that the person was not worth your trust and love. You feel like you are never going to forgive him/her. But do you know you should forgive those who wronged you? And, I am not saying this because forgiving is going to make you a saint or something, but because you deserve inner peace. In this article, I will tell you why you should forgive people who did wrong with you.
Pros of Forgiving
You will be able to concentrate on other productive things
When you forgive someone, the best thing you get in return is your inner peace. By doing this, you set yourself free from all negative thoughts about that particular person. And once you are free from all those retractive ideas, you feel more energetic for other productive things.
You always go ahead by forgetting that man
The second big advantage of forgiving someone is that you get a lesson from that person. You do not hate them, but you will never get too close to them because you do not want to get hurt anymore. You do not want to feel like a stupid.
You can save yourself from negative feelings like jealousy and anger
When you forgive someone, it does not mean that you accept their behavior or that you have confidence again. Rather you forgive him because you do get your life back by doing this.
I hope you don’t want to think about that person all the time. You don’t want his thoughts to pull you back and stop you from moving forward in life. Nor will you want to waste your energy in planning a revenge. So, the best thing you can do is – forgive him and move forward.
Some wounds are deeper than others. Keep in mind that forgiveness should be your ultimate goal, even if you have to wait for some time. In fact, this is a long process, especially in cases where you have to forgive someone close.
In some cases, you feel that you will never be able to forgive that person, and it is completely normal. But you do not have to give up the idea to forgive. Always keep in mind that even if it takes a little while, but only by forgiving the guilty, your mind will get peace.
Kinds of forgiveness
There are two kinds of forgiveness
- The first kind of forgiveness is where you forgive someone and give a second chance.
- The second type is when you forgive, but you choose to go further without that person.
What to do to forgive
Take a step back
When you find it difficult to forgive, then just take a few steps back. Stop talking to that person for a certain time. By doing this:
- You will be able to eliminate that person from your thoughts.
- Your mind will become calm.
- You will get time to cool yourself down, and you will have plenty of time rethink about that incident.
It will become easy for you to decide whether you want to stay with that wrongdoer or not.
Forget your past to forgive
Choose not to look back because you can not change the past. Do not poison your heart with bitterness, fear, lack of trust or anger. Forgive people because hate is just another way of reminding you of their mistakes and you should not be stuck.
You probably do not realize how strong you are until you forgive someone. By forgiving someone who has never learned to accept his/her mistake, you will be able to open many new doors of progress for yourself.
Money And Marriage Problems – The Role of Money In A Relationship
I’d be a hypocrite if I say that money does not matter in a relationship. Maybe not everything, but certainly have its share of contribution to our happiness. When it is about a husband and wife’s relationship, money plays an important role.
Let’s be serious, no offense, but just imagine how many domestic/couple quarrels could be avoided if there were no money problems? Money helps us satisfy our whims and needs and we extract dose of happiness from every little pleasure that money gives us. In this article, I would like to talk about money and marriage problems. I will try to tell you how money plays an important role.
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Undoubtedly, only a happy soul can make others’ happy and if we are happy, we can then only make others happy. No wonder, there are people who believe that for a tension free life, you must learn to live in present. Instead of worrying about what you don’t have, you must show gratitude for what you have. But, allow me to ask you, for how long you think you are going to a life full of compromises and adjustments?
Be it any relationship (especially the marriage), but for a smooth journey, we need money. Let me ask, would you prefer marrying someone who only has talks to offer, but no money? When I say that money matters to me in a relationship, by no means I am advocating only a rich partner. In my opinion, I affirm that both partners have to make money to enjoy a family and a life of decency.
You cannot endlessly repeat “I love you,” to show affection. You as a couple need a lot of other things than just a bouquet of flowers or some expensive perfume. As the couple, instead of fighting over who is contributing more, a couple must emphasize the ways of increasing the “material wealth.” We are not supposed to fight over who, but how.
Here are a few most appropriate examples. The importance of money is felt from the first meeting when a man takes a female to the best restaurants or pubs. The question here comes is – how the bill will be paid; whether the boy will pay or it is on girl or they both are going to split it in half?
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Continuing further; at the end of the day, if she prefers to take a taxi, who is going to pay the fare? Do you really want me to answer this? We are living in such a civilization where it is a man who is supposed to pay. Should a girl is made to pay, it is considered an insult and society will label you as an incompetent male surviving on the female partner’s money.
Yes, Money cannot buy happiness. But, it’s more comfortable to cry in a BMW than on a bicycle. What Say?
Society has taught us that man is the one who should make more money. Right from the birth, a man is nurtured with the thoughts that he is the one who is supposed to work to support the family and take care of her home and children.
According to a research, 93% of women deny relationship only because they feel that their would-be partner is not going to make as much money as they expect and will not be able to fulfill their economic needs.
I have heard it from many couples – it went all good for a few years. But, after some time things became worse between us. This happens because in the initial years we are barely concerned with our partner’s salary and his other financials.
But, after moving further in a relationship for a few years, we start realizing his/her earning and spending habits. It is when the definition of love changes from flowers to groceries. From this time onward, we start keeping an eye on who is earning what and who is spending where?
Do not save what is left after spending, but spend what is left after saving – Warren Buffet
How To Spend Time Between Engagement and Marriage
The time between engagement and marriage is considered good. But, a few say, this can increase the stress even before the formation of a relationship. And, in worst cases, it can be disastrous. Today, I would like to share the experience of one of my friend, Rajan.
My name is Rajan. Despite being a legal advisory of the company who is always busy with discussion, when I met my would-wife for the first time, I was completely out of questions.
Suddenly, I realized that I am the only speaker of my institution. Thus, I dared. “Are you happy with this methodology of getting married?” I was half- prepared for a no.
But, WTF. Instead of refusing, she asked me to say no and it would be better if we can have time between engagement and marriage. And, on top of this, she insisted me to buy this time as she cannot ask her parents for the same.
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So, I took whole responsibility and asked my parents that I am fine with the girl, but I need a little more time. How about not getting married at least before six months.” Initially, my parents were not in the favor. But, then they agreed.
After that day, I made two new friends. “A tea seller and a mango tree.” I changed my mobile plan from minimum rental to maximum rental with 4G calling. Every afternoon, I used to spend at least 70% of my lunchtime on phone.
Nor I was not convincing any foreign client, neither I was talking about marketing trends, but for the first time in last 30 years, I was telling someone, what I had for lunch. I was convincing someone about my plans of breaking stars for her.
Days were passing and judgment day was approaching. After traveling the whole galaxy through phone, and after having endless parliamentary discussions whole night, finally, we both were back on this planet.
We had so many arguments during those five months; arguments about what one should not wear, what one should not eat, how my parents are superior to yours, how disciplined I am, how strict I am, how hard-working and moneymaker I am and so on. Well, I was more like an open book to her and I have explained to her every single trait of my nature.
I got a friend, who used to suggest me, “not to share so much and be a good listener.” He used to tell me, “you think you are defining yourself. No, you are guiding her, how much refining you need.”
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And, before being a lifetime partner, she will be completely aware of all your habits, emotional pullbacks, things that make you happy. You have already explained to her about how she can use those triggers, as and when required (to get her things done).
Ah! that makes no sense. I am the strong guy and she cannot use me. I have just explained my parameters and boundaries.
But, I was wrong and that guy was right. That demand of time between engagement and marriage was pre-planned (the six months’ gap).
As the date for the marriage approached nearby, the demands of useless things started arising from my wife and her family members.
At the time of engagement, I told him that I would like to be with my parents after marriage to which his family agreed. But just a month before the marriage, my father-in-law told me that he does not want his daughter to migrate to another city. Several times, he indirectly suggested me to buy a house near their hometown.
I was shocked by my would-be wife’s interest in my financial information. There was an incidence when I was unable to talk to her (the way I used to) for a few days because I was busy in finalizing a land deal. To calm her anger, I told him that we bought a piece of land and I was the one doing all legal formalities. I was stunned when she started asking for to have her name in the land deed.
Day by day, she and her family members were becoming more demanding. And, upon my refusal for not sharing information, they start threatening us that they will cancel the engagement. My parents did not want this relationship to be spoiled because this break-up was not going to cost us financially, but mentally, as well.
That was the time when I cursed myself for not accepting my friend’s suggestion. I was repenting on my decision of accepting my would-be wife’s request of that time gap. An advise that was initially useless for me, is now making perfect sense.
People are right that there should not be a gap between engagement and marriage. But, if for some reason they have to have a gap, then I would advise one must not behave like an open book. Instead of weaving stories and telling how big idiot you are, you should listen to your partner.
If you want the best thing, try to listen more. When it comes to economic, social and future related questions, one must answer those with maturity. Instead of reacting like a kid or teen, one must stay calm. If you want to understand the mentality of someone, you need to listen to him.
Right time for marriage is not when you have a fully grown butt, but when you have a fully grown brain.
Severe Side Effects of Preservatives in Food
We are in such an era of progress, where we do not even have to eat food. In such a grim scenario, when it comes to cooking food, most of us prefer canned or stored food, despite knowing about the ill-effects of preservatives used in those.
Be it about food cooked in a hotel or home, bread or Indian Chappati, vegetables or pickles, preservatives can be found in each and everything. In order to keep the food durable for extended days, preservatives are added. Preservatives are found in both synthetic and natural forms. The biggest difference between natural and synthetic preservatives is that natural preservatives cause no harm to our body. On the contrary, preservatives found in synthetic form are responsible for many minor (headaches) and severe (cancer) problems. In this article, we will talk about the severe side effects of preservatives in the food.
List of Harmful Preservatives
Sodium Benzoate, Potassium benzoate, E211, and E212 are used as preservatives used in flour, margarine, fruit purée, fruit juices, beer, etc. You probably don’t know, but the use of this preservative can cause allergies and brain damage.
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Potassium Bromate, E924 are the most common preservatives in flour and bread. As Potassium Bromate and E 924, it is the most common preservative found in flour and bread. In fact, many of us eat these things on the daily basis. For you information, bromates not only destroy nutrients but is the biggest reason behind diarrhea too.
Butylhydroxyanisole and butylhydroxytoluene
BHA, BHT-E320, and E321, the three are synthetic antioxidants. BHA and BHT are commonly used in meat products, baked foods, snacks, and beer. However, it is not possible to determine whether these can cause any damage to humans, but their consumption remains a threat.
Mono and Di-Glycerides
These are used in foods like canned vegetables, margarine, cake or bread, to keep them eatable for longer periods of time. Be it a kid or an adult, the side-effects can be as severe as cancer.
This is a preservative used in meat products, products containing vegetables, oils, chewing gum, etc. It can cause liver problems.
Sodium bisulfite, E222 or sodium metabisulfite, sodium disulfite, E223 are the most commonly used preservatives for dried fruits, preserved olives, pepper, corn or wine syrup. They can be responsible for headaches, joint pains, palpitations, allergies and in worst cases, even cancer.
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This is mainly used in salted meat products and canned meat. This preservative is responsible for causing stomach cancer. This is the reason, use of sodium nitrate as a preservative in any eatable is a crime in many countries.
The citric acid that is artificially produced using sulfuric acid, can cause asthma attacks and allergic reactions. However, natural citric acid can be considered a preservative without side effects.
E466 is a stabilizer that is used predominantly in salad dressings, creams, and chocolate milk and can cause digestive disorders such as vomiting, indigestion, abdominal colic.
This preservative is used to conserve dried fruits, canned fruits, corn syrup, peppers, preserved olives, wine, and vinegar. In terms of side-effects, use of sulfites can be responsible for palpitations, allergic reactions such as asthma and rhinitis. Sulfites also induce joint pain, headaches, and can even cause cancer in some cases.
These oils are used to keep bottled juice durable for long periods. Despite knowing that bromate juice can trigger changes in cardiac tissues, kidney damage, thyroid, fat deposits in the liver and damage to testicles, this juice is used fairly and widely. However, there are countries, where using brominated oils is banned for bottled beverages.
Mono-Glycerides and Diglycerides
These preservatives are generally used in foods like stored cakes, pies, cookies, bread, and peanut butter. But do you know that monoglycerides regularly feature on the list of bad and unhealthy fats?
This is another harmful food preservative used to preserve the meat. Sodium nitrate is added to most processed meat like bacon, ham, and sausage. This nitric acid is quite dangerous for the body and can lead to stomach cancer. Many countries have already imposed a ban on the use of sodium nitrate as a preservative.
These food preservatives increase the shelf life of food in grocery stores, but the effects of preservatives on human health vary.
Now that you know about the harmful effects of food preservation and their names, do not forget to carefully check these ingredients when shopping for processed foods.
Wedding Night Gift Ideas For An Indian Wife
Wedding day and endless rituals. Okay, all the ceremonies are over and the much awaited moment have finally arrived.
Wow, it is wedding night, and I have no idea about how the heck I am supposed to greet my spouse? The biggest question that every groom seeks an answer to is – gift ideas for an Indian wife.
It is Nuptial Night; don’t tell me, you don’t have butterflies in your stomach already. Trust me, every step you take to the bride’s chamber, you will literally be able to hear every single heartbeat of yours. It feels like your heart is going to pop out any moment.
With a lot of questions, aspirations, desires, and anticipations you are finally sitting next to your “lady in red.” Can you now feel the exuberance and thrill of this moment gushing through blood?
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Well, on one side you are combating with unexplained emotions of love and romance and on the other side it is like, “Where to start from?”
Well, if you are in the same boat like my article’s lead hero, I suggest, a Gift can really save you and if chosen wisely, it won’t let the excitement die!
A Love Letter
First wedding night for any Indian woman means a lot.
By nature, Indian women are extremely mushy on their first night.
On her first wedding night, she is expecting a few commitments from you, some promises that you will keep throughout your life.
A love letter will really do. Do write one with all your feelings on it, express everything the best you can and gift it to her on the wedding night.
Walk that extra mile; frame it for her and make it more memorable.
Women Love Jewelry
Women love jewelry and the best part is, it never fails, especially when it is something unique.
It is perfectly alright if you cannot buy a diamond.
It doesn’t have to be expensive. For this night, it is all about emotions and affection.
Even a designer jewelry (not too expensive) given with sheer love and dedication can win her heart.
A Beautiful Dress
Girls do love clothes, the more they have the more they want. Should you know her taste, you can always gift her a nice dress.
Be it an ethnic dress or western, choose one that she feels comfortable wearing.
Gifting a nightdress on your first night is surely not a good idea; do not make feel uncomfortable. Save your imagination for years to come.
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An International Vacation
You can always add an international honeymoon trip to exotic places. Let me tell you, there are nearly 51 international destinations that Indians can travel without a prior visa.
A Basket Full of Gifts
A basket full of gifts is a perfect gift idea. Sum it up with gifts like perfumes, cosmetic lotions, branded make-up items, designer jewelry, chocolates, hustle purse and etc. Try wrapping every gift separately.
People are right when they say, relationships should not be mixed with material gifts. We are talking about memories here.
All of these things become special when we bundle them with affection and adoration.
Behind these wrappers, it is our emotions and not the material items. Last but not the least, the best possible thing your can gift your wife is, “The True You.”
Make her feel that she made a right decision about choosing you as your life-partner.
What Are The Health Benefits of Eating Walnuts
Winters are about to start, and the time for dry fruits is coming, whether it is almonds, raisins or walnuts. We all know that the walnuts are hot, so one must not eat them beyond a recommended limit. But do you know what are the health benefits of eating walnuts? In this article, I will tell you about a few amazing benefits of having these.
Do you know that walnuts are an excellent source of omega-3, 6 fatty acids, and proteins? By consuming walnuts, you will be giving the most required dose of B-complex, selenium, calcium, zinc, iron, and vitamin E? Let’s talk about the health benefits of eating walnuts.
Due to the high-fat content found in the these, walnuts stimulates blood circulation to the brain and improve memory and concentration. Studies have shown that omega-3 fatty acids in walnuts reduce oxidative stress in the brain and contribute to neurogenesis by producing new neurons.
Walnuts Improve The Mood
Do you worry very easily? Do you often feel nervous before exams or interviews because you lack control over your emotions? If so, then recommended and regular consumption of walnuts can give improve your situation.
Walnuts will help you stay calm and get the results you want. According to experts, regular consumption of walnuts reduces the negative effect of anxiety and stress on the immune system. Walnuts are also useful for people suffering from depression. Omega-3 types of fatty acids can be helpful in creating a state of calm and optimistic mindset.
After a recommended consumption of walnuts for a said time, you will see emotional and psychological changes in you. You will notice a positivism, and you will be able to deal with the situation in a pragmatic manner.
Prevent Cardiovascular Diseases
The consumption of walnut ensures heart protection through unsaturated fat. Experts have found that walnuts prevent blood clots, stimulate normal circulation and maintain blood vessels’ elasticity. Wallets reduce cholesterol and triglycerides, thus reducing the risk of heart disease. In addition, daily consumption of at least 30 grams or walnuts 4 times a week for one month reduces coronary risk by up to 37%.
A Perfect Solution for Inflammation
In studies, experts concluded that walnuts worked amazingly against the main factors of swelling in the body. Therefore, walnuts are very good for people suffering from arthritis or rheumatoid arthritis, in order to avoid joint pain and maintain the flexibility of the movements.
Apart from this, if you have an acne problem, you must consume walnuts as often as possible. The regular but recommended consumption of walnuts can reduce the severity of acne lesions and prevent scars.
The Best Way To Lose Weight
If you want to lose weight without hurting yourself, then have some walnuts. According to nutrition experts, walnuts are a great option, if you want to lose weight. Only 30g of nuts will give you energy for at least 3-4 hours and it will be much easier to resist the sweet temptations that can compromise your diet.
Forget about chips, donuts or biscuits and choose walnuts at breaks at work. You will have energy until the end of the program and you will be able to wear the clothes you want faster than you imagined.
Do you know that walnuts can seriously increase the number of sperm counts and sperm quality in men? The speed at which the cases of male impotency are increasing, walnut can prove to be the best solution.
Therefore, you must include walnuts in your diet chart. At the same time, do keep in mind that you are not supposed to consume these in excess.
Sexual Phobia – How To Deal With The Phobia of Sex
Do you know that sexual phobia can ruin a married relationship? Before understanding how to deal with the phobia of sex, let us understand the basis of sexual phobia.
The sexual phobia is cataloged as a psychic nature disorder known as disliking sexual activities. It’s not just about refusing to have sexual relationships but shy away from many aspects of sexuality too. Like other phobias, the phobia of sex is characterized by some specific aspects such as:
- An excessive and uncontrolled negative emotional response was shown to the source of phobia
- Uncontrollable thoughts about the phobia that foster fear
- Rejection and avoidance of all those places or groups (people) that have anything to do with the source of phobia.
A lot of people are suffering from this disorder, especially females. Those suffering from this disorder to them, discussing sex is nothing, but a reprehensible disgust. Even in case of married couples, many females live with this phobia of sex. To them, even if they are having sex with their lawful partner, they are committing some sort of crime.
You can read countless confessions made by wives that they experienced guilt after having sex with their husbands. The reason behind this kind of mindset for sexual activeness is a negative view of sexuality learned from various sources of education. But, this is not right.
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How To Deal With The Phobia of Sex
Like other disorders, to deal with this disorder, you need to have a good understanding of the source of the phobia. To do so, it is best to involve a psychotherapist. He is the one who can tell you how to manage your reactions and negative self-thoughts. In addition, if we really want to overcome the phobia of sex, we need to clear ourselves on certain aspects.
- We need to understand that sex is an integral part of life and until we die, it is something that accompanies us throughout all the stages of our lives.
- If you think, sex is only about bodies, then you are wrong. Sexual relationships go beyond the genital aspect. It is not only about an interaction between genitals, but the entire body.
- You need to check, in case you are having some sort of drugs that are negatively impacting your sexual appetite. It is not about stopping that drug, but you have to dedicate more time to the relationship.
- When dealing with the phobia of sex, you should not expect much in the beginning. It is necessary to start from a state of mental relaxation.
- If you are having a partner with the phobia of sex, you must deal her with respect and empathy. You do not have to force things on her but communicate and understand the wishes.
- Try to learn new techniques that can make your partner feel more comfortable. Dealing with the phobia becomes very easy, once your partner trust you on the issue.
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At the end, all I would like to say is that we are the only person responsible for our limits, decisions, acceptances, and rejections.
7 Tips for Successful Career Planning
A successful career means incredible benefits and numerous opportunities for promotion. Having good careers is a guarantee of good social and economic status. Success in careers not only gives you a sense of security but also gives you a sense of achievement. Undoubtedly, we all want to taste success and fame. Keeping this in mind, through this article, I will tell you about 7 tips for successful career planning.
Identify your goals
Truly said, before the attack, it is very important to know about your opponents. Unfortunately, there are many people who do what they do not like. And the best part is, even they know that they are never going to taste success.
So, before identifying your goals, you need to identify what your greatest desires are. It then begins to go with deeper analysis and make a connection between desires and goals. It is an important process for a successful career.
Build Your Personal
Branding Personal branding or personal branding is very important nowadays. It’s the image that you create in the industry where you work.
There are people who are recognized as professionals, as the best in a certain area, whose name is easily recognized. They constantly emphasize the improvement of the personal brand, and some of them call on specialized services.
For example, you must have seen film stars and politicians; always in news. They spend a lot of money on personal branding, to stay in the spotlight.
For personal branding, you can use new portals, advertisements, videos or blogs. Compared to other options, blogs are a very easy, cheap and effective solution. In today’s time, to have an online presence is very important.
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Be aware of the strengths and skills
To realize what your strengths are essential. Being aware of what you can and cannot do. The more you know about your strengths and weaknesses, the easier it will be for you to make relevant career choices.
To be successful in your career, you must have all the required skills. In simple words, you should choose a career according to your skills. If the idea of working in the office every day, 9 hours, you are completely sad, then why not opt for another job?
Raise Your Standards
Raise your own standard as high as possible. You need to think high to reach the sky.
“Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars,” they say.
People with high standards are often above average. Within a few months, give yourself time and reflection on your standards and values. It is important to want to improve yourself, to know that you are the best version of yourself at this moment.
Whether you are in a job or a business, you must not miss any chance of winning trust. Always respect your deadlines, your promises. It is a great thing for others to know that they can rely on the work you do, that the things that are your responsibility are done very well.
Do not be afraid to seek advice about careers
If you are confused and need advice on career, please do not hesitate. Nobody knows everything in one field or another. Identify those people with more experience who can help you.
Consider a coach, who can guide you through your career journey. Besides giving you support to advance, he is the one who can help you in case of any problematic situation at work.
Measure Your Success
How Do You Define Success? Is the amount you earn at the end of the month, the position you occupy, the feedback you received from the boss for a very good job, the feeling of satisfaction that you have after helping a customer?
Each of us measures success differently, and we are the one to decide these parameters for self. You have your definition, but you do not have to adopt one another. If a person feels good overtime and earns more money, it may not be a success factor for you.
In conclusion, it is important to leave a sincere self-esteem, to have a positive attitude, to know your strengths, to build a personal brand. As you realize, success comes from a bunch of factors and very importantly, you are the main character in their management.
5 Hints That Your Partner Is Never Going To Marry You
Since last few years, we have seen a rapid rise in the number of cases where someone gets emotionally, physically and financially exploited by another partner on the pretext of marriage. After being harassed for many consecutive years, one is left with two options; taking a legal action or repenting.
But do you know that you can save yourself from this embarrassment and confusion? All you need to do is, practice a little care while being in such a relationship. Here, I am going to talk about 5 hints that your partner is never going to marry you. Should you see any of these at any stage of your relationship, without wasting any more time, you must step back.
You always have to beg for the marriage
Undoubtedly, be it a man or woman; some people are very passionate about their love relationships. Specifically, those who have sacrificed everything just because they trusted their partner more than anything. Now, for them, marrying becomes a question of dignity and self-respect.
But the problem with these kinds of people is, they are so shy about sharing their heart feelings. They think, by asking for marriage they are going to upset their partner. To them, asking for marriage an embarrassing question. Moreover, they had already experienced the denials; every time they try to talk, their partner gets furious. But once the situation gets out of control, they had to beg for it.
In my advice, if your partner gets upset at the mere mention of marriage even after spending a good amount of time, then it is a clear sign that your partner is never going to marry you. Once you tell your partner that you are helpless without him/her, they will definitely make you beg for it.
So, if you are asked to beg for it, it is better to discontinue. Show some respect for yourself and don’t waste your time on such a loser.
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I am waiting for the time
Well, it sounds so mature and responsible when your partner says he/she is waiting for the right time. But don’t forget, this could be another tactic to slow the process. I am not saying that you need to be very quick with your wedding decision.
However, there must be a defined right time i.e. you both must agree upon a right time. To have a target is a good thing because you need many other things than love for a happy marriage. However, once you hit that target that you fixed for your marriage, you must not postpone the decision any further. And if your partner keeps on postponing it, then you must not wait for him/her. Your partner is not at all interested in you and has some other important things to do in his/her life than marrying yours. Such a person will never marry you.
Let us live together without marrying for sometime
If your partner really wants to get married, then he/she will ask for marriage and not for a trial. They will never try to find a way to delay marriage by suggesting a probation period in which he/she can live with you as if you were married. The only purpose is just to make sure you both are compatible. This is nothing, but utter nonsense.
If your partner is asking for such stupid things, then it is a clear sign that he/she is not going to marry you. You need to understand that such kind of proposals have two motives –
- Physical, mental, and financial exploitation
- To adjourn the marriage decision or the conversation as long as possible
Just give it a thought! If someone likes you, then why he/she needs a trial? For God sake, we are humans and not some machines that someone needs to test before buying.
If your partner also asks your for such baseless favors, then it is better to get rid of him/her because he/she is neither serious about you nor about the relationship.
I will talk to my family when the right time comes
We are in the 21st century. To fall in love with someone in this century is as easy as creating an account on any social media website. There is no doubt that 95% of the love affairs are just for fun. Only 5 percent of the couples are serious about their relationship.
Out of these 5 percent, most of the couples want to keep their relationship secret. And when they are asked to share this relationship with their family, most of them have a permanent excuse; “I will talk to my family when the right time comes.” Unfortunately, in many cases, that right time never comes.
Now, there is no rocket science behind this simple logic. We only hide, when we know that our parents are going to reject it. If everything is going great and you see no chance for parents’ disapproval, but still your partner is making excuses, then you should understand that he does not want to marry you.
When your partner tries to hide it from his family, there are two clear reasons behind it –
- You partner knows that his/her family is going to refuse.
- The relationship is made just for fun and your partner barely takes you as his/her life-partner.
In such a situation, you should end that relationship without too much expectation.
Postpone the wedding date in the future as far as possible
This is true for couples who set the wedding date to be several years after the engagement. As the date approaches, your partner moves the date forward in the future. In all aspects of life, people tend to postpone things that they do not look forward to. It is all about priorities.
If the wedding that you expect so much has been reprogrammed by your partner as soon as he has gotten close enough to the time, then he/she sends you a message that he/she is not at all interested in getting married.
If you find yourself in any of these scenarios, then your time and energy should be channeled into finding a partner who is truly willing to marry and not expect your current loved one to decide on that. These are just a few warning signs that can open your eyes and you should pay more attention if you do not want to repent later in your life.
What To Do After Unprotected Sex (For Women)
“I had unprotected sex. What should I do?” Perhaps this is one among the other most often asked questions according to our experts.
A lot of people ask whether they can get pregnant if they had sex two days before ovulation? Also, a lot of people inquired about infections that they might have after unprotected sex and tests they should have. In this article, we will be dealing with these queries and we will be telling you what to do after unprotected sex.
To start with, be it in any case, you must not compromise your protection. For a few minutes of fun, you should not risk your life. But if you had already committed this mistake (intentionally or unintentionally), then here are a few things you need to do.
After unprotected sex, the first thing you need to do on an immediate basis is to urinate. No fun, but this will protect you from urinary infections. You may be shocked to learn that in 80% of the unprotected sex cases result in urinary infections.
I-Pill Emergency Contraceptive Pill
This pill is also known as plan b pill and one of the most popular pills in the Indian market. In case of regular birth control measure’s failure like slip or breakage of the condom, this medicine can be used.
However, one must consume this medicine within a stipulated time frame. According to experts, if taken within 12 hours, the results are maximum. If taken after 72 hours, it remains of no use. The success rate of I-Pill is 80-90% depending on the how soon it is consumed.
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There are a few other available in the market like unwanted 72, Preventol, Truston 2, Nexttime Pill, CLR 72, Tpill, No-will pill. You can check with the local medical store. At the same time, medical consultation is always advised before consuming any tablet.
Risk of HIV Infection
In case, you had unprotected sex with a professional sex-worker or with a person other than your regular partner, which is highly not recommended, it is advisable to visit the gynecologist. In case of any HIV infection symptoms, the gynecologist can prescribe a 28-day treatment that will inhibit the development of the virus in the body.
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I know, consulting a gynecologist after unprotected sex is an embarrassment and many women, which is why many of them get in serious trouble. I believe, instead of waiting until the last moment, one must see the expert as soon as possible. Nothing is more precious than life. Here are some sign that you must not ignore –
- Vaginal leakage in amounts greater than usual.
- The color change from white or colorless to yellow or green.
- The appearance of a pungent odor.
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Medical Tests – After two weeks
Now, let us talk about the tests that you must have two weeks after unprotected sex.
Although there are several pregnancy tests that can reveal accuracy just one week after the menstrual delay, yet. However, the blood test remains the fastest way to find out the presence of a pregnancy.
In case you had unprotected sex, you must see a doctor 10 days after that episode of unprotected sex. The reason being, you need to have a medical test for herpes infection.
You may need several examinations in case of sexually transmitted diseases because many of them show no signs, for example, gonorrhea and chlamydia.
In the worst case, unprotected sex can seriously damage your reproductive system.
At the end, I would say, unprotected sex, although it offers a good amount of pleasure for a relatively shorter period, yet it can seriously damage your health.
Therefore, it is always better to walk on the safe side, especially when it is about health. No wonder unprotected sex thrills, but it surely kills.
Disadvantages of Fashion – 5 Fashions That Are Making You Sick
Do you know fashion makes you sick? A few of your clothes are causing severe damage to your body? Here are 5 dangerous clothes and accessories.
A recent study in this area revealed that clothing is one of the main culprits responsible for a backache, body posture and other physical problems in 73 percent women. Now, if you are already struggling with issues because of your wrong body posture, then these tight and uncomfortable clothes can make the situation even worse. Without wasting any more time, let me tell you about those 5 fashions that are making you sick.
When it comes to Bra, most of the women think that they wear the right bra. To them, the size and type, they use is the one that suits their body. However, the fact is, you get used to the size and type of bra you wear on daily basis.
If you think you have the right bra, I must say, you are wrong.
According to industry experts, nearly 80% of the women wear wrong size and type bra. To them, wearing a wrong size or type bra is one of the main reasons behind a backache and posture related issues. It is not about size only. When you choose a bra, apart from finding the right size of the cup, is to choose the bra that fits on your back properly. You need to be very careful about the brassier and straps while buying bras.
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A bra that fits well behind your back and comes with short straps, is ideally the right kind of bra. Such bras will support your shoulders and give your spine the right position.
Oversize Bags or Purses
I have seen women habitual of carrying oversize bags that are fully loaded with their makeup kits and other useless items. But to wear a full and heavy bag every day could cause health problems, including shoulder and back pain.
I am not saying that you should completely avoid wearing a heavy bag, but at least you should not wear that o on one shoulder. It will pull your shoulder down and your shoulders will no longer be aligned. As the time passes, your posture will get worse and later you may have to deal with the serious back, neck, and shoulder related problems.
Tight clothing is trending and becoming the most preferred dress of women all over the world. But like any other clothes that limit your physical activity, wearing tight pants is also a harmful fashion. Tight pants not only damage your physical posture, but it can affect your posture, leading to health problems in your back.
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According to doctors, wearing tight pants pull your pelvis back, which is harmful to the sacroiliac joint, those joints of the sacral area (sacrum) that are connected to the ilium bones by strong ligaments. The pressure in this area that supports the weight of the body could cause a backache.
If you are still fond of wearing tight jeans, then according to experts choose the jeans that are taller in height and containing a spandex elastic material so they are more elastic and more comfortable.
Perhaps you do not know that lingerie, especially for modeling, is dangerous to health in many ways. Among the problems, they cause include gastric reflux, deficiency circulating and excessive pressure in the stomach.
As far as the support is concerned, these parts should be tight, but you can breathe freely. The modeling lingerie that tightens you hard affects your breathing and compresses the internal organs, which causes pain in different parts of the body.
Maybe it looks very good and helps you look taller, but the high-heeled shoes can harm your health and posture in numerous ways. If you are wearing these high-heeled shoes on a consistent basis, you are actually causing a severe damage to your posture and back.
To keep their heels on balance, most people have to lean forward a while. Your head will be straightforward, and this will create pressure on your neck muscles. Additionally, if you are a party person who stands for hours with her high-heeled shoes, you can imagine the amount of pressure that you are putting on your muscles and joints. This is happening because the soles are not placed on the floor and you are not distributing your weight evenly.
If you love the high-heeled shoes, then you wear them to the events and occasions where you will sit more in the chair.
It is true that every woman wants to look different and better than the other. But to do this, wearing harmful fashion is not right at all. It is wise to not do any such fashion, which is destined to become a physical disorder. For the beauty that is not going to last for more than a few moments, you should not risk your health.
Please let us know your thoughts and experiences on this topic.
Why Do Some People Prefer To Stay In An Abusive Relationship
Despite knowing that a person is not good for them and is trying his/her level best to hurt them in every possible way, why quitting that relationship becomes a challenge for a few of us? Why do we choose insults over moving forward? Why are we so scared about forming new relationships?
Question: Why do people prefer to stay in an abusive relationship that is hurting them to the death?
Since last few decades, you must have witnessed a change in love-affairs. Nowadays, love is all about ruling and controlling your partner’s life. Regardless of gender, people are behaving like lunatics. No offense, but emotionally unstable people are becoming victims and instead of retaliating against the person who is consistently abusing them in a relationship, they vote in the favor of those who insult them. In such a scenario, there remains no question of forming a new relationship. In simple words, a few people get so negative about relationships that having a new one is the last thing come to their mind. With this article, I would like to tell you why people prefer to stay in a relationship that is hurting them to the death?
Lack of time
Undoubtedly, we have become so busy these days that we do not have the time even for ourselves. In the race to keep ourselves alive, we have forgotten to live. We neither have time for our family nor for our own happiness. Instead of raising our voice, most of us have learned to compromise on things. And, relationships are one of these.
Relationships are of no importance. Now, making money has become the topmost priority.
In such a grim scenario, instead of fixing a broken relationship, we keep hauling the weight of that dead relationship. Our belief system makes us believe that all men and women are the same. Forming a new relationship is not going to bring any harmony and by doing so, we will only increase our troubles.
This is one of the reasons people prefer to stay in an abusive relationship that is hurting them to the death.
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We do not want to come out of our own world
When it is about the relationship, regardless of gender, both men and women prefer to live in their own world of definitions. They live in a dark tunnel of hope believing that one-day things will change and the person who is presently treating them as a serviette, is going to love them back. To them, that is the only person left on this planet with whom they want to share their life.
Instead of finding a solution, they start treating relationships like a kid, who is told to not to unwrap the gift. He is further told that should he unwrapped it, the gift is going to disappear.
Under such a mindset, how can you expect a person to act freely?
Just to keep that relationship working that person is never going to unwrap the package. For him, opposing those insults mean separation. At this point, forming a new relationship is nothing, but a useless thought.
No more trust in the relationship because of a bad experience in the past
I have seen cases where people are scared of forming new relationships because they had some past bad experiences. A bad experience in the past can also prevent you from forming new relationships.
There is no doubt that after having a heartache, we get negative about forming relationships. In case, where even after a bad experience you are forced to stay in a bad relationship (like an ugly fight between a married couple), most of the people prefer to stay alone.
You can imagine a person’s state of mind, who is not allowed to quit a relationship that is hurting him to death. All he/she is asked to do is – keep trying to bring things back on the track.
To an extent, even they know that they are trying to teach a pig how to sing; never going to happen. Now, when you are going through such a painful phase of your relationship, you barely think about quitting and forming a new one.
Dear friends, you have to understand the simple logic that who has not changed so far, he is never going to change. When you tell someone that you badly need him/her, you give him a chance to treat you like a toy. There is no two opinion in this regard that no one can rule your life without your consent. No one else, but you should be the one to tell you how you should live.
Obviously, to save yourself from dying because of suffocation, you need some fresh air to breathe in. And, to have that most required thing, you need to open all the windows.
Despite having a sea by my side, I was dying of thirst!
I don’t go on morning walk anymore, because I voted to stay little lazy. In fact, for the first time I have listened the echo of my mighty heart. A heart that was so full of love and betrayals, eventually shattered like a house of sea-sand, wiped away by a gigantic billow of water-wave. Despite having a sea by my side, I was dying of thirst!
Every time I tried to head myself high, my lovelorn destiny stabbed me on the back and left me alone like a ‘born-to-be-broken’ geek. From an insignificant distance, I have had a handshake with these pirates of my dreams innumerable time.
Instead of correcting my facts, I keeps on feeding my blind believes with a hope; ‘one day, I will be extolled for everything that I am doing for everyone around me; one day the first ray of rising sun will rasp my usurped forehead lines from the west facing window.
Acknowledging the zero percent probability of happening aforesaid, I barely refrain myself from doing all such madness. Trust me; it takes a heart to see someone very own trespassing the boundaries of faith, however, if you are the one who thinks with heart and not through the brain, recovery is hard for you, my friend.
People are going to play with you tirelessly because people with big heart are favorite toys of the people with big brain.
To survive in this cruel world, we all must have some drops from the sea of wisdom and must save ourselves from dying of thirst.
I feel like God is playing chess with me; after his every move he stares at me, laughs clandestinely and force me to surrender.
The feature image reminds me of my childhood, perhaps the best time so far. I used to go for a walk with my granddad, holding his rough but strong index finger tightly and pulling him towards the seashore for the sake of oysters.
Oh my goodness, how bad brat I was; stubborn, ill-behaved and careless. Never ever bothered about giving an ear to his lifetime experience; for me those were useless sermons and were already having them for free like community food. Ah! I was not at all interested.
Someone was sharing the code of his most valuable safe and I was rather concerned about dead, pearl less oysters.
Two things my granddad used to tell me
Two things I remember he used to say were, “when you got to deal with thorns and wicked people, you have two options; crush them or stay away from them.” The second thing I still remember was, “watch yourself when you are dealing with – fire, snake, king, female, and a fool.” These five things have inbuilt tendencies of thrashing you anytime they want.”
Now, I feel like I was on a merry-go-round ride with these all and perhaps that is why, I feel like an unfortunate person. He used to tell me why I need to learn to stay neutral. Keep in mind that, “in favorable times, a person screams about his identity to the world and in the rainy days, the whole world introduce him to the real identity on on his damn face,” he used to say.
Now that I have grey hair on me, I have my logics clear. I know, whenever the puppet master (God) will pull the strings, the characters has to replace their positions.
A toddler, who feels immense proud after building a sand house of his own, is completely unaware of the huge destructive demon wave, which sea is secretly fathering (by the order of his-highness) for thrashing his dream sand house.
Like me, it might have happened to you as well countless times.
Meditation – How To Do Meditation And Why You Should Practice It
Imagine yourself in a scene. You are running at the fastest you can and after a few minutes, you feel like you cannot breathe. You are done. Thereafter, you feel pain in your muscles and body. Nonetheless, you keep pushing yourself to run. Eventually, you crash. You have no more energy left. This is very real and can happen. Right? So, portray yourself in the same scene again. But this time, instead of the body it is going to be your brain. Despite overloading our brain with worries, thoughts, and agonies, we keep pushing our brain to the limits. Eventually, we have to deal with a crash.
Now, in the case of re-energizing our body, we need rest. Similarly, to re-energize our brain, we need freedom from these worries. In scientific terms, this is freedom can be attained from a few minutes of meditation. In this article, I will try to tell you how to do meditation and why you should practice it.
Perhaps you don’t know, a 20 minutes’ meditation session per day, whereas can help in reducing stress to a great extent, at the same time, it can improve your decision-making skills, as well. Meditation is a process that is famous all over the world.
For your information, I would like to tell that many big corporate companies run internship programs for the betterment of their employees and to keep their mind focused on the company’s objective.
If you have never tried meditation before, I must say, you can start with a small session of 2 minutes a day. I am sure, this small session will gradually encourage you to increase your session time and enjoy more benefit.
Real Definition of Meditation
Before you start it, it becomes very important for you to understand the real definition of meditation. Some people say that meditation means sitting quietly with no thoughts in the brain. They believe that it is all about restricting thoughts.
However, this is nothing but a misconception.
On the contrary, meditation means to allow thoughts to come, but having a complete control over those ideas. You must not restrict your brain, but control. Meditation is all about controlling your brain.
How To Do It
First of all, for meditation, you will need a comfortable place. This place should be such where you will not be disturbed.
- Sit in a comfortable position on a chair or on the ground.
- Make sure your body is not too strained or loose. It should be in a relaxed mode.
- Then, breathe deeply through the nose and mouth.
- While doing so, slowly close your eyes and continue breathing normally.
- After sitting in this situation for some time, take a break and stop whatever you are doing. Try to make your body feel as light as possible.
- Then, you have to return to the same condition (in which you started meditation). This time you have to focus on breathing and body activities.
- After realizing that your mind is no more occupied by useless thoughts, any kind of sound or sensation, focus again on breathing.
- Gradually, concentrate on your body and the surroundings and gently open your eyes.
Before getting busy with your daily routine, take a moment to think about how meditation made you feel and what benefit you had from this session of meditation.
Why You Should Meditate
Over 50 years of scientific research have confirmed that meditation is good for both the brain and the body. One of the most incredible evidences of meditation is that after practicing this for a few months, you will be able to control your brain according to your wish.
The biggest benefit of meditation is that it sets you free from your own useless thoughts and teach you how to control them. Meditation frees you if you have been blocked by your thoughts. By controlling your thoughts, you will be able to have a stress free life. You must understand that to grow physically, mentally, and financially, you need a stress free lifestyle.
In the end, all I can say is – regular session of meditation can really change your life.
Testosterone And Human Behavior – Why Modern Women Behave Like Men
Give it a dig, you will find countless journals and articles about gender equality. Women are now walking hand in hand and no doubt you can see them doing everything the way males do. Ever wondered what make modern women behave like men. Is it all about psychology only or there are some medical reasons behind it.
Take a closer look and think about it – The ratio of young ladies visiting beauty salon or hair laser treatment centers is comparatively higher than older ladies in the age group of the 50s’ and the 60’s.
Besides being shy there could be some other reasons as well. If you observe closely you will notice that the number of cases where woman are found with unwanted male characteristic like excessive hair growth (especially on the face), heavy voice (not many of us know, male speak at 65-260 hertz and for a female this frequency is 100 to 525 hertz), physic, male behavior, aggressiveness, uncontrollable liking for male things like clothing etc., are booming.
Medical science is consistently researching for the reason behind this shift and so far they believe, it is all about high testosterone level in women.
What is Testosterone?
An androgen steroid hormone (chemical substance or chemical messengers) with which male sexuality is linked. This hormone affects the growth of normal male sexual organs, male voice, facial and pubic hair growth, and it is essential for determining the sexual behavior of men. In females, having a right level of this hormone is important in order to ensure proper functioning of the ovaries, libido and bone strength.
What is the right testosterone level?
Be it a female or a male, testosterone levels depend on the age; during early adulthood and adolescence, levels are at their highest. According to National Institutes of Health, for a female it is 30 to 95 nanograms per deciliter (ng/DL) and for a male, it is 300 to 1200 ng/DL.
Effects of Abnormal testosterone level in females
There could be many devastating effects, should you see the abnormal level of this hormone in the test results. Hair loss, unwanted hair growth i.e., hirsutism, acne, weight gain, unwanted aggressiveness, irregular menstrual cycle, are results of high testosterone level.
If you are noticing fatigue, hot flashes, low or decreased sex drive, depression, and loss of muscle mass or strength, emotional changes, low-self-confidence, lack of motivation, change in sleep pattern; you are suffering from low testosterone level.
Reasons behind high testosterone level
Low testosterone levels are common and with proper medication women can get their life back. However, high testosterone level is a nightmare because it is not very common.
The reasons behind increased level of testosterone in women are PCOS (Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome), Adrenal Disease, Diabetes, dwarfism, gigantism, cushing’s syndrome, thyroid disorders, Conn’s syndrome, Acromegaly and Adrenal or ovarian tumor.
How can I get myself checked
If you are suffering from any of these symptoms, see a doctor. They will perform a blood test and generally it is performed in the morning when testosterone level is highest.
In case you are on any prescription, you should tell your doctor before the test. In case that medication has to do anything with testosterone levels, Dr. may advise you to stop.
Things You Should Not Do After Breakup
Someone truly said, “be it a woman or man, we all fall in love, at least, once in a life. If not love, then crush. Some people are lucky enough with their love matters. However, there are a few who are not so fortunate. In such a situation, people express their pain in different ways.
There is no two opinion in the matter that after having a breakup, for a few people, life becomes dull. I have seen people making false choices and doing things that they should not be doing. And then they are left with no other option than paying a big price for their silly mistake. Therefore, it is better to not make any such mistake. Keeping this in mind, through this article, I will be telling you about a few things you should not do after a breakup. Refraining yourself from these blunders, will not only save you from the separation pain but will keep you moving forward.
Spit Your Anger
After the breakup, I have seen people behaving like an exceptionally calm personality. To them, bearing the pain of separation is their way of expressing love. But, I would say that this is utter nonsense. Just ask yourself, if that person is not concerned about your feelings, then what is the point of disturbing your peace of mind for him/her?
Believe me, get rid of anger and resentment within yourself, that is, do not try to bury your anger. I know that it is not easy to express your emotions after the breakup. But if you do not do this, then you will not be able to move forward in life and will always be waiting for that person.
To keep your anger within, neither is good medically nor psychologically. Better you talk about your anger with your best friend or write it out. Flush these feelings out because this is how will be able to proceed further in your life.
Do not blame yourself!
After the breakup, everyone wants to shift the blame. And the best thing is, no one wants to take responsibility. At this point, you need to behave in a selfish way. Do not blame yourself. Stop feeling guilty. Even if someone leaves you for your shortcomings, you should think that the person leaving was not worthy of you.
No matter whose fault was it, stop blaming yourself. Do not forget, it takes two people for the breakup and both are the reasons. Do not waste time searching for the culprits. Whatever happened, happened!
Do not doubt!
If you’re the one who made the decision, do not think that you made you and a mistake need to recheck your decision.
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Respect your decision before you expect the same from others. Just try to say; it was nice while it lasted, but I still wanted to respect my decision of diversion.
Do Not Dramatize
Many times I have seen people behaving like they are going to die after the breakup. Even they know that nothing is going to happen. And, I am saying this with personal experience.
It is always hard to quit something you are really addicted too. For example, ask a drunkard, how hard it is for him to quit alcohol? Ever seen a drug addict? If you don’t allow him to take drugs, you can see him behaving like he is going to die soon. Same is the case with the breakup. However, it is all about our belief system. You have to believe before you can achieve. And once you believe, nothing is impossible.
Believe it; it is all about your determination. Deeper the relationship, the more time it takes. But, you have to convince yourself about your victory over this pain of separation.
Can I say that nobody is going to die with you, and you are not supposed to die in vain? Die for a cause that can make your family feel proud of you.
Stop being selfish. Look around! Like everyone else, you too are surrounded with those handful people, for whom, you the world. Take your parents for an example.
Do Not Kid Yourself!
After the breakup, evaluating yourself is better than behaving like a spoiled and stubborn child. As I said above, there is no point in hold yourself responsible for the breakup.
However, it is good for you to evaluate what went right and what was the reason for the death of your relationship. Instead of feeling sad and depressed, use this evaluation to learn more about you.
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This internal evaluation is important because this is how you are going to improve your understanding of relationships and will be able to behave with maturity.
Do Not Call!
Whatever happens, dare not to call your ex. The more you call him, the more you going to miss him. Avoid all phone calls, text messages, and also, do not try to call him or convince him to get back.
If you do so, mark my words, you’ll regret later. Instead, put your phone aside and find other things to do.
It is quite understandable that after a breakup, you don’t want anyone to infringe on your isolation.
But, I must say, you should go out with friends and have fun! If your ex is nearby, you are not supposed to make her jealous. At the same time, stop seeking her mercy and do not harm yourself either.
The purpose is to completely eradicate him from your mind. You must not let her ruin your happiness.
Instead of exploring your phone for your last communications, it is better to do something else. You need to improve your understanding of rejections.
We all want to love and be loved. Do not let anyone disturb your peace of mind. Do keep in mind that during your life’s journey, you will be meeting many such people, who are destined to stay in your life for a short period.
9 Natural Remedies To Avoid Burning After Waxing or Shaving
According to a survey, about 58% of women prefer to use razors rather than waxing to get rid of unwanted hair, especially around arms and legs. In men, this ratio is as high as 75%. Be it any case, you have to deal with an unpleasant burning sensation. Through this article, I would like to tell you 9 natural remedies to avoid irritation after waxing or shaving.
Cornstarch or Baby Powder
Do you know that many of the baby cosmetics use cornstarch, including baby powder? You may be surprised to know that it is considered a good treatment for skin rashes due to diapers. For you information, applying cornstarch can provide an immediate relief.
Baby powder is the best remedy when you are dealing with these skin burning sensations after waxing or shaving. In case, baby powder is not available, you can use cornstarch. To do this, take a little cornstarch and mix it with some water to make a paste. Then apply this paste on the affected area. Leave it untouched for 10 minutes. After 10 minutes rinse it with water. You will get instant relief from irritation.
For centuries, honey is widely used to heal wounds and skin conditions. Its scientifically recognized anti-inflammatory and antimicrobial effect can work like a charm. Apply honey on the affected area and wash it with warm water after 10-15 minutes. This will surely help you a lot.
Naturally essential oils are known for their anti-inflammatory properties. For skin burning sensations, olive oil is an awesome remedy. Tea tree oil is known for its antibacterial effect on the irritated skin. Vitamin E oil is known for its antioxidant properties, which makes it one of the most popular treatments for various skin problems.
As per the availability, apply it twice a day on the affected area. Before doing this, keep in mind that olive oil can be used directly on the effective skin, but dilution is very important if you are applying lavender or tea tree oil. To do this, mix 4 to 5 drops of oil with 2 spoons of water and apply it on the skin.
Cold compression is the best treatment for irritation. According to a research, doing this reduces the temperature of the skin, which further mitigates nerve activity. Therefore, a cold compression gives an instant relief from itching and irritation. To do this you need to wrap a few ice cubes in a cloth and apply them on the affected area for a few minutes. In this situation, you can also use wet towels.
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If you use shaving machines or razors on daily basis, you must use vaseline to restore the natural moisture balance of the skin immediately after the procedure. Apply Vaseline on the affected area and leave it for at least 10-15 minutes. Then, rinse it using a wet towel.
Apple Cider Vinegar
Apple cider vinegar acts as an antimicrobial agent that kills microbes and bacteria and helps in reducing inflammation. Its acid content reduces the pH of the skin. This further help in making the skin smooth and less red.
Before applying apple cider vinegar on the affected skin, you must not forget to dilute it. To do so, add some water to it. Then, apply it to the effective area with the help of cotton and let it dry for a few minutes. Rinse the same after 10 to 15 minutes.
Oats are rich in oats avenanthramide, Studies have shown that oats also have anti-inflammatory and anti-itching properties, which can help you deal with skin irritation. Use it as a mixture and to have that mix, add some yogurt to the oats. Then, apply the paste made on the area required. Allow it to dry for 30 minutes before you wash it with hot water.
Aloe-Vera is one of the most popular and trusted treatments for treating various skin problems. Aloe-Vera is an excellent moisturizer and an antibacterial agent that provides relief from burning after waxing or shaving. For use, remove the gel-like substance from the aloe-vera leaf and apply it to the skin gradually. Let it dry for some time and then wash it with hot water.
In addition to many vitamins and minerals, cucumber is also a great treatment for problems like skin irritation. As cucumber is entirely made up of water, so it becomes one of the best natural moisturizers. Studies show that a freshly chopped cucumber can bring instant relief.
Apply freshly chopped cucumbers on the skin and leave it for 15 minutes. For better result, fridge cucumber before using it.
I hope that 9 natural remedies to avoid burning after waxing or shaving recommended by me, will bring good results for you. Apart from all this, if you have any suggestions, then please write in the comments.
How to Become Rich in India By Saving More
If it were asked about their goals from a financial standpoint, most people probably would not hesitate to say they want to be rich or that they want financial freedom to buy whatever you heart desires.
Should you ask a rich man about the secret behind his immense wealth, the probable answer would be financial acumen, money saving habits, and right decision. No wonder, we are living in a world full of consumerism where our houses are full of things that we don’t even use in a lifetime. Be it our kitchen drawers (groceries), wardrobes, makeup kits, jewelry boxes, car garage, and even shoe racks; everything is full. Despite our idiotic habits of collecting good, we all are desperate about saving money. And, the most difficult part here is – how to start and from where to start? In this article, I will tell you how to save more and how to become rich in India?
Plan Your Budget
Everything starts with a plan and should you lack one, you should not regret on your financial hardships afterward. Planning is not that tough either. You can simply start by having an excel sheet of your incomes and expenses. By the end of the month, you will be able to track the useless expenses. Next time, you can alter your budget accordingly.
Upgrade Yourself About Taxes & Deductions
The best thing you can do to improve your saving is – upgrade your knowledge about taxes, deductions, and rebates under income tax and other schemes. Once you know the areas from where you can save legally, you will be able to save more. Try to invest in health or life insurance schemes. Not only you can enjoy tax deductions for these, but you are also securing some money for your future.
Do Not Fall Behind On Payments
I think we all are guilty of this thing more or less. We have developed a habit of postponing payments. Be it our telephone bill, internet bill, credit card bill; we keep on holding it until the last date. And, finally, we pay all those bills with a late fee/penalty. Yes, I agree, there are a few bucks only , but they are. We must have a better repayment plan and possibly keeping the amounts to date are more than OK to keep money in the pocket. Better pay in advance than to pay penalties.
Do Not Buy Expensive Toys
I have seen people who once manage to get some bucks, they immediately buy a luxury car or other expensive toy. Do you know, being a supporter of the simple life, (world’s third richest man) Warren Buffett avoids luxury items such as yachts or luxury cars? For him, these expensive “toys” merely give you headaches. Instead, he advises directing money towards investment coming out good profits.
Do Not Waste Your Time
When you have business negotiations, it is advised to document and make a decision in advance. A wise man is always against useless talks, which resembles an immature behavior. If you make a business proposal, directly and immediately call your price. Experts claim that too much discussion won’t let you decide on things.
Set A Limit For The Money Borrowed
Life seems easy on credit card, but in reality, it is not. One should borrow only what he can pay and not be afraid to negotiate with banking institutions. Should you have a credit card or credit facility, use it wisely, and not extravagantly. Swiping your CC or asking for a loan is an easy thing. Firms won’t deny you issuing a loan until you have a bad credit history. But, you must understand that at the end, it is you who has to pay debts. Therefore, never borrow more than your limits.
Wait for Promotions and Use Coupons
It is clear to us that the market is still primitive, but even in these conditions, money can be saved. Be careful of some prices, and do not miss to see if a larger amount of discount, etc. is available. Never pay full retail price when you buy something on sale. So, you should not hesitate to use discount vouchers or coupons to buy products or services.
Invest On Yourself
Experts also highlight the importance of investing in oneself. Keep improving yourself because that is the only way of improving your lifestyle. After improving your talents and abilities, you will become more valuable and get into a better position from which you can earn more and finally, save more.
Clarify The Provisions Of Any Contract
Before you sign a contract for a new job, or before beating the palm of a business, make sure you have thought well to all provisions of the contract. Imagine the worst situation ever. Try to assess whether the compensation promises to cover additional costs that may result from poor conditions or unexpected accidents.
Do Not Be Dependent On A Single Income
Start to look for other possible sources of income by taking your small additional jobs or making smart investments that will bring you good returns. The financial experts always talk about diversifying the range of investments to have more chances to win.
Control Your Impulses To Shop
When you are to take important financial decisions, it is that when you buy something: first ask yourself, ‘WHY’ and then have your decision. If you do not have a satisfactory answer, then you do not deserve that step.
Keep The Loose Change
And this is a phase where we are deficient. I really find it difficult to understand, why we all are ashamed of taking the change offered by the store. We can always put those loose coins in piggybank, if you are better off, especially if you have a child. It’s a good way to teach your baby about savings. Opportunities to use the money will always appear.
Regardless of one’s financial status – even if born into a family of wealthy parents, or whether on the contrary, strives to pay the debts of parents, saving should be more than a secondary thought. Saving improves the quality of life and especially the perception of money. Do not miss to check your progress every month. By doing so, you will be able to control your meaningless expenses and you will be able to improve your savings.
Finally, rich people stay rich by living like they are broken. Broke people stay broke by living like they are rich.
In-Laws Relationship | How To Deal With In-Laws in India
Friday evening, after boarding the bus, I pulled out my headphones. Then, I noticed that my phone battery was just two percent. “Oh shit! Now, what to do?” I questioned myself. Nothing I can do besides listening to passengers’ chit-chat.
Right next to me were sitting two ladies in their 50s. They were talking about their son and daughter-in-law. That was the day when I first realized why most of my married friends always curse their in-laws and how to deal with in-laws in India.
The lady on the left asked the lady sitting on her right,“how is your daughter doing?”
She is fine. My son-in-law is very humble, and he takes care of every little thing my daughter asks for.”
Wow, how lucky your daughter is. “I got to know that about your son’s marriage. How is he doing?”
This time, the answer was different, “Don’t ask dear! My son has gone completely out of control. He is under hypnotism of his wife and in-laws. Without caring much about me, he only listens to his wife. Day by day, he is becoming a thankless son.
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I was trying to figure out the reason behind two different answers for a similar scenario.
In case of son-in-law; listening to his wife makes that lady happy. On the other side, when it is about her own son, the same thing was more likely pain-in-neck.
I was laughing inside and was thinking about the double standards of those ladies. It was my bus stop and after leaving the bus, I was on my way home, with a bunch of questions.
I was wondering, how easy it was for those ladies to put the whole blame on their daughter-in-law and/or son. Why do they have dual standards; one for their daughters and one for their daughter-in-law? How come it becomes so difficult for people to live under the same roof? For the answers, I approached my grandfather and here is what he told me.
Difference between saying and doing
Dear grandson – the real culprit is the advancement. The more books you read the more idiotically and senselessly you are going to behave.
Your generation talks a lot about gender equality, honesty, trust, love, respecting elders, unity, and greed, but where is the implementation? Should someone of my age wants to share his experiences with you, you guys reject it instantly. For your generation, we are nothing, but oldies with orthodox mentality.
Don’t get me wrong. I am not against the idea of men or women’s freedom and equality, but I have no hesitation in blaming this freedom and open-mindedness as the real reason behind this complete in-laws’ chaos.
We instantly blame the boy, when he leaves his parents at old age regardless of giving a try to figure out the real reason behind it?
I mean, “once an idiot is always an idiot.”
What forced him to took such a drastic step (abandoning his parents) and what made him wait until his marriage? Right after a few months of marriage, a responsible dude becomes an arrogant and irresponsible son.
People of double standards never experience happiness
If he is listening to his wife, society will label him as a “henpecked husband” and if he is favoring his parents, the same society will label him as a mommy’s boy. On top of this, only women, be it wife or mother, have the authority; they are the one to issue him a certificate of either a henpecked husband or a mommy’s boy.
Hmmm.. So, what is the solution grandpa?
The solution is some academic classes on moral values rather than lectures and debates on man-woman rights.
Treat others as you want to be treated
Just to make you understand, take an example of any mother-in-law. Being a mother-in-law, if she wants her daughter-in-law to treat her like her own daughter, then she must learn how to treat her as her daughter. Similarly, if being a daughter-in-law, I want my mother-in-law to behave like my own mother, then I must represent myself as her daughter.
Let me ask you a very simple question,” have you ever noticed, how often and for how long your wife talks to her mother and your mother (her mother-in-law)? I bet, once in a blue-moon to your mother and for the maximum of 10 minutes or so. And with her own mother, every day. Am I true?
Same is the case with your mother; every freaking day she must be having a call from your sister and once in a month to your wife (because you guys are not living together). Let me tell you, your sister’s mother-in-law must be going through the same trouble, though your dad never shared a word with me.
Sharing is not every woman’s cup of tea
You told me that when you were living as a PG during your graduation, you were eight guys sharing two rooms and you never mentioned any sort of trouble among you eight. Can you tell me one single similar example for the girls?
Not all of them, but for a significant proportion of females, sharing things is a challenge. Be it their hair-brush, jeans, t-shirt, kitchen, room, or house; sharing is not their cup of tea. Perhaps this is the reason, why mothers do not want to share their son’s attention and same is the case with wives.
Each and a single word of Grandpa was making complete sense to me.
Dealing with an interfering mother-in-law
He further continued, I do not understand the logic behind consistent interference of girl’s mother in some cases. What is she so worried about? Why a few mothers’ want every minute’s report of what happening with son-in-law family? Why do they make their own girl a spy of her in-laws family? These so-called spies will share everything with their mothers, but their own mistakes.
On top of this, instead wisely handling their daughter’s immaturity, a few mothers further spoon-feed them with conspiracies. Even they know, they are doing it wrong and spoiling their own daughter’s house, but they barely refrain.
People of your generation have no patience and they have lost their control over their tongues. They feel like, ”saying it all, without worrying much about others’ emotions, is the best option.”
The television serials are funny now. In my times, we had serials like Hum Log, Buniyaad; they were full of moral and emotional values. You guys have – Saas Bahu, Diya Baati, and other nonsense stuff, so full of family politics. The amazing part is – even in serials, it is females conspiring against females.
Husbands who don’t stand up, often end up destroying their marriage
On the other side, men are equally responsible. I don’t know why the men of your generation fear so much, especially when it is about taking a stand. If your wife is upset as your mother has said something to her, you are not supposed to take this matter casually.
It might be of no importance for you, but not for your wife. It is a time for you to amend decades’ old theories – “parents’ are always right.”
Do not brush away your wife’s pain. If you are not listening to her, do not get upset if she talks to her mother or brothers.
Most of the time, the troubles are because people try to answer their own questions without even giving an ear to the others’ point of view. If something has been said by someone, there has to be a meaning. And, you won’t be able to sort the issue without finding out the truth.
One last golden rule – Tell your mother and mother-in-law – not to interfere in your matters with your wife.
How To Choose Bridal Lehenga For Your Body Shape
Ever saw an Indian wedding; the big fat royal gypsy wedding, pragmatically planned over an open farm swamped with thousands of beautifully and culturally dressed guests?
Despite eye-opening decoration of the venue, the center of attraction remains, the bride; wearing an exquisitely designed bridal lehenga, “the skirt” and opulently spangled blouse, “the top.” Trust me, when I say, imagining a bride without this particular bridal trousseau called, “Lehenga Choli” is like, “No Way!” But here the question arises that how to choose a bridal lehenga for your body shape? If you also want to know the answer to this question, please read our article.
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This ethnic is not only considered one among the other quintessential bridal accessory but also offers a glamorous look to the persona. An eye-soothing makeover, deep crimson henna, elegant hairstyle, enticing aroma, not-so-heavy metal like jewelry and a swanky pair of footwear; is all you need before you sashay around like a bride with your dream-man.
Try googling and search for one of these ostentatious dresses. You will be amazed to see thousands of results within milliseconds. In simpler terms, the online market for these classy outfits is flooded with low-end replicas with poor quality Embroidery work.
Those who had ever purchased a or are still exploring, they know that market is full of expensive options. Just to confuse you, shoppers pretend like they have countless design. However, in reality, there are only five.
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Five main bridal lehenga designs
- Fish or Mermaid Style
- Straight Cut Style
- Panel Length Style
- A-Line Style
- Flared or Circular Style
Eight different shapes are available
- Long Sleeves
- Short Sleeves
- Half Sleeves
- Sleeves Less
- Long Blouse
- Short Choli
- Open Back
Miss not to choose the right that best fits your body (shape). A wrong choice can both be a reason for lifetime regret and an event spoiler.
Four main body shapes
- V-shape or Apple Shape
- A-shape or Pear or Spoon Shape
- X-shape or Hour Glass Shape
- I-shape or Banana Shape
Hesitate not to spend a little more time while choosing the fabric for your preferred dress because choosing a wrong fabric means “A bail mujhe maar” i.e., an open invitation to all the badmouths present in the party.
No matter, how expensive you go for, nonetheless, if it is missing the right fabric and color combination, you should be prepared for a crowd eye-balling at you.
Not only the fabric and color that matters but also the body silhouette, embroidery work, uniqueness, cleanliness and other factors that count. Wearing a dress adorned with religious embroidery at the wedding eve is also not a good choice.
Make sure you are buying or renting your Lehenga Choli from an expert only.
I am sure you don’t want people to tell you,“What the hell is this?
How To Please An Indian Woman In Bed
When it comes to sex, all men think that they have the cheat code and they do know how to satisfy a woman. In reality, only a few know how to make a woman happy in the bed.
There are no online courses available on how to make a woman happy in the bed. Countries like India, people don’t discuss sex and someone who does is a pervert. Perhaps this is the reason why many of us find it difficult to deal with our sexual problems and behave like idiots in bed. Today, I will tell you what do Indian women want in bed.
Women want sex for longer duration
Admit it, guys, most of us are selfish and try to dominate in the bed. For us, sex is all about our pleasure and we are least bothered by our female partner. But, we are wrong here. We need to understand that women orgasm take time.
In case of men, after 4-8 minutes of penetration, they reach their climax (in most cases). But, in the case of women, they do not yield an orgasm in such a short time. Now, you don’t need me to tell you that if being a man you are only thinking about your orgasm that is at a distance of 4-8 minutes, then you are actually preparing your woman for a major disappointment. Ain’t you?
In these kinds of sexual relationships, your female partner is going to be more concerned about your ejaculation and not their enjoyment. Women who enjoy sex, however, like to have it for a longer duration.
Instead, dominating or playing selfish, just focuses on the needs of your partner. For a man, it is good to be confident, but not dominant especially in the bed.
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Women want foreplay before reaching bottom
Ancient cultures describe a man in bed as a fire that ignites and burns with a quick glance of flame. But, a woman is a water, which takes the time to warm up and remains hot for a longer duration.
Most women, however, requires a longer foreplay. There are women who do not need to engage in foreplay, and if you have this type of a female partner, then you do not have to worry about the duration of foreplay.
Ideally, a man should not reach woman’s bottom until the woman’s bottom is wet, which indicates that she is excited. Some women may experience vaginal dryness, but it is a separate issue, and for this, you can use natural oils (such as coconut oil) as a lubricant.
When a man penetrates and vagina is too dry, it not only cause trouble to man but also can cause pain and irritation in the vagina.
Women love when you kiss during sex
Women complain that they have sex, but for some reason, their male partners do not want to kiss them at all. Kissing is one of the most wonderful things as it helps in creating a real deep connection with a partner.
The kissing is a medium of exchanging the necessary hormones. Kisses can take away the pain, burn calories, raise self-esteem, tighten facial muscles and increase happiness. People who regularly kiss are a lot healthier and happier.
Women love creativity
Women often complain that they know the moves of their partners in advance. They know when their male partner is going to touch, kiss, and when it will finish. Dear men, be resourceful and creative in bed.
The best time to have sex
It is important to note that the worst time to have sex is in the evening when everyone is tired and not at all creative. The best time to have sex is in the morning.
Do keep in mind that a tired body and full stomach makes a man ejaculate quickly and the duration remains short. For creativity, it’s good to have some experiments with new positions, places, etc. Spend as little time as 15 minutes on researching and sexually educating yourself.
Women want men to go slow
During penetration, the most terrible thing according to women is when a man begins to swing back and forth quickly. Most of the area experts are rejecting these quick movements for said reasons.
First, it can be painful, since it often goes against cervical. Male genital should move slowly and calmly, focusing on the 100% feeling that it evokes both. If a man puts on only the head of the genital, it can stimulate the G-spot, pushing a little deeper into the A-section and the rear by entering the U-section.
Fast movements can be good, but it is more important to understand exactly what are you doing, and why. It is necessary to closely monitor the woman’s body and see how it reacts to different movements.
Women want men to participate
The women say, “when a man throws his back and says, give it a go, then there is nothing particularly sexy.” Rather, there is a feeling that the man wants to reach his climax without worrying much about their female partner’s orgasm.
Occasionally, this is good, but when you have the same sex for seven days of the week, it is surely going to bore your female partner.
Women like men with a good hygiene
Most of the women think men do not take proper care of themselves. According to women, greasy, furry and obese men are not sexy. No offense, dear men, please consider trimming your underarms and pubic areas. Genital areas should be kept clean.
Premature ejaculation or getting an orgasm before the female partner is the biggest turn-off.
Do remember that your female partner’s body remains extremely unpleasant when you walk away.
Do not keep things limited to your orgasm only. Be creative, and learn to deal with your partner.
Improve your knowledge about woman orgasm. It is good to understand a woman’s anatomy and only after that, you can claim yourself as a macho.
7 Things You Lose When You Keep Saying Sorry
Is there anything bad in saying ‘sorry’ over and again? Well, most of us believe that using this one word turns you into a humble person. But, the reality is somewhat different.
When I say ‘sorry,’ I am simply confessing my wrongdoings. Not many us know that when you keep using this one word as a helping verb, you are supposed to lose a lot of things. You are purposely submitting a wrong image of yours. Let me tell you about 7 things you lose when you keep saying sorry for no good reason.
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The first thing you lose is confidence.
Let’s say you have to deliver a presentation and you have already dedicated your one hundred percent for the same. But, then you start the presentation with an apology. This is the moment when you allow people to doubt your findings. In other words, you are going to lose confidence.
It is like doubting on your own work. Hence, there are huge possibilities that the presentation will not go out as expected.
A chance to self defend
Saying sorry again and again can put you in trouble; you can be labeled as guilty.
Whether you are guilty or not, you must not lose the chance of defending yourself. Try every possible thing to narrate the exact incident. So that concerned authorities can rule out your participation in that accident.
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Trust me, saying sorry without being guilty is only going to increase doubts against you and by doing this, you will force the authorities to treat you like an offender.
Sometimes, apologizing too often can directly impact your credibility. Even if it is not your mistake, people will start seeing you as a wrongdoer. People will doubt you for no reason and without listening to your part of the story, they will crown you as a culprit.
Poor credibility leads to poor reputation and people don’t respect someone with a poor reputation. Repeated bad reviews about you are surely going to distort the way people look at you.
For an example – assume you are standing in a queue and suddenly someone overtakes you. Now, you are supposed to tell him to follow the queue. But, if you start your conversation with a sorry, then there are huge possibilities that he is not going to give a shit to your request.
I am not saying that you should never use this word, but incorrect use means loss of self-esteem.
Frame yourself in a party, where everyone is drinking. Suddenly, a person bumps into you and his drink spills on your dress. Now, whose fault is this? Practically, no ones. But, at this instance, your apology would make things confusing for everyone.
How about saying, “watch-out dude” instead of saying “sorry?” But, if you are the one who apologizes first, you are going to lose self-esteem because you have already accepted that it was your mistake.
Friendship or Romantic Relationships
We all know what role communication plays and how it is a key to a successful relationship. But, if you keep presenting yourself as the ‘sorry man’ without any reason, it may represent you as a person who is always in the favor of avoiding discussions and burying problems.
Undoubtedly, you are going to lose your identity because once you lose your credibility and respect, nobody is going to take you seriously. The fact is – with every useless apology, you are going to lose your identity.
This habit of your is going to lower your self-confidence. Things that you need discussions on, people will never take them seriously. People will take you for granted.
When you apologize too often, you will represent yourself as an uncertain and unattractive personality. Always remember, the first impression is the last impression.
Mark my words; This world is ruled by rulers and not by apologists.
Communication Skills – Avoid These Common Communication Mistakes
Be it your personal life or professional, communication is the key. An ineffective communication, where it can spoil your reputation, it can also harm you in many other ways including financial.
There are a lot of debates about the importance of communication and how to be a good communicator. However, not all of us are aware of these mistakes. A flawless communication depends upon many other things than the subject knowledge. In this article, I am going to talk about some common communication related mistakes. Avoid these communication mistakes and mark your presence.
It is always about ‘US’
This is a common mistake and we all make it. We use “I” more than “US”. Do keep in mind that relationships are not a competition that we must win.
For an effective communication, do include others as a team.
Do not just make your listeners feel like you are the only one who is talking. Learn, how you can work together as a team to solve a problem.
Eye-contact plays an important role
Many of us do not understand the importance of eye-contact. I have seen many people facing this problem.
Ask yourself a question – how many times do I look elsewhere when someone talks to me?We do this intentionally, despite knowing that this is not good. This is a big mistake.
Try to put yourself in the position of a speaker and the other person as a listener, who is ignoring you when you speak. I am sure, you are not going to like this.
Therefore, you need to understand that we all want attention and visual contact while communicating.
I have seen people cutting others in the middle of the discussion. This is another communication mistake and must be avoided.
When you interrupt someone in between, you are indirectly telling him that whatever you have to say is more important than whatever he has to say. You are insulting that person.
I know, sometimes we interrupt because we are afraid of forgetting the point we have in mind or because we are excited. But, this is not a good practice and we must learn to wait.
Negative body language
Undeniably, our actions speak louder than our words. We know that it is very easy to decode your message through your body movements.
So, you need a little work on your gestures as well and not just words.
We jump to conclusions in advance
It is a very common mistake. We try to reach the conclusions without listening to the whole talk.
It’s not good to make assumptions in advance because, without proper understanding, the chances of success are next to minimum.
Let me ask you, do you like it when someone makes assumptions about you and that too without listening to your part of the story?
Poor emotional intelligence
Emotional intelligence plays an important role. Most of us don’t know how to deal with emotions.
Do not let your emotions rule you while discussing something.
If you are angry, you must allow your emotions a little time. Before making any statement, calm yourself down.
Arrogant And self-centric personality
Good communication means taking care of everyone around you and not self. Always keep others in the loop, especially when talking.
Never asking for other participant’s opinions and only talking about self will make you an arrogant and self-centric person. Let others share their opinion.
Raise your arguments and not your voice
This is a common communication mistake we all do.
When we are in a disagreement with something, we always attack people’s attributes, their self-esteem instead of criticizing their disagreement. This is very poor practice.
If you really want to learn the secrets of best communication, you need to enrich your knowledge about the topic.
Instead of raising your voice, you must raise your arguments.
We expect others to read our minds
This is another communication mistake. We don’t say what we want to, and then we get upset when things go wrong.
For good communication, you must not expect others to read your mind. Instead, we must have a transparent communication. Clarity plays an important role in communication.
In addition to all these aforementioned points, when it is about effective communication, empathy is also an indispensable part.
Instead of making the discussion a debate, there is no harm in admitting that you are wrong. Accepting a mistake is not a sign of weakness, but maturity.
Dein Kleider Metal Card Wallet – Used and Reviewed
If you have been through my previous article about RFID debit/credit card hacking, then you already know the importance of RFID anti-theft wallets. These wallets are perhaps the best available, affordable and effective solutions against RFID thefts. Keeping this threat in mind, I recently purchased Dein Kleider Metal Card Wallet and here is my review.
Things that I liked in Dein Kleider Metal Card Wallet
I ordered Dein Kleider Metal Card Wallet from Amazon and as usual, packing was awesome. As always, the product was delivered before the expected time and it reached me in the absolutely fine condition.
The wallet was nicely packed in a very attractive black colored box.
Just because of the packing, there was no harm caused to the product; no scratch, no dent, no discoloration. No regrets or complaints about packing.
Branding was nicely done. On the pack, it was nicely done in golden color.
On the wallet, branding was done in white color. I really liked the way company experimented the white logo on the black color wallet and right below the logo, you can see the full brand name. It makes this wallet even more beautiful.
Printing is of very good quality and I hope it is not going to get spoiled quickly despite regular use.
The texture of Dein Kleider Metal Card Wallet is worth a praise. This smart wallet is made from high-grade aluminum, which provides a strong and rigid structure.
A strong and lightweight structure does not allow it to spoil and makes usable. I am very impressed by its texture.
Wallets’ weight plays a very important role, especially in case of men wallet. Commonly used leather purses are too bulky, and they become even bulkier once you keep the stuff. Whereas, Dein Kleider Metal Card Wallet, on the contrary, is very light.
The weight of this product is 45.4 grams (as claimed by the manufacturer) and I do not think it’s going to increase even after putting 4-6 debit/credit cards in it. The usual weight of a bank debit/credit card is around 5 grams. Now, if you carry 4-6 bank cards, then the weight of this wallet will not be more than 70 to 80 grams.This is a great relief.
Moreover, the more space you have, the more garbage we love to keep in the wallets. I don’t know why, but most of us, usually carry countless cards and paper chits with them.
Fully Protected Against RFID Thefts
As I said in my previous article, the smart wallet is the best protection against RFID thefts. And, Dein Kleider Metal Card Wallet is designed accordingly.
In this increasingly digital world, these days, your most valuable information associated with your bank and personal identity, is always at risk. Remote hacking machines like RFID readers can easily crack your sensitive information that later can be used for any illegitimate purpose. In such a grim scenario, having a wallet like Dein Kleider can surely save you from the eyes of any unwanted RFID reader.
No Damage To Bank Debit/Credit Card
You would have often seen that keeping a bank’s debit/credit card or another card in the leather wallet damages their printing and top protective cover. In some cases, you might have experienced incidents like breaking your card accidentally.
But, on the contrary, using Dein Kleider Metal Card Wallet not only protect your cards from any such printing or protective cover related damage but from unintentional card breaking incidents, as well.
Easy To Use
This is my personal experience. When I had to pull out a card from my ordinary leather wallet, I had to struggle a lot. I must say, a couple of times, I had to deal with broken cards. And you know the pain of reapplying for a new card; despite paying a hefty fee, you have to wait for several days before you get a new card.
But with Dein Kleider Metal Card Wallet, I did not face any such unfortunate situation. It is very easy to pull out a card.
To do so, there is a clip below this wallet.
This clip is further linked to a mechanism inside the wallet. The moment you pull this clip downwards, it slides up all the cards.
From here, you can pull out the desired card.
In general, it is very hard to keep your wallet in the front pocket.
However, because of its compact design, you feel no trouble keeping this purse in your front pocket.
It is 9.7 centimeters in length, 6.3 cm in width and 1.2 centimeters in thickness.
You can easily keep 4-6 credit/debit cards or 14-16 business/visiting cards in it.
Free Money Strap
With this wallet, you get a very beautiful Money Strap, which is absolutely free.
This money strap is also very high quality and is made from 100% genuine leather. You can use this money strap to keep either your cash or to prevent any card slipping incident.
This is how you can use this strap for securing cards from accidentally falling.
In comparison to the level of comfort and peace of mind, this wallet has to offer, I think, it has been priced significantly low.
Things that I disliked About Dein Kleider Metal Card Wallet
You can only keep cards of fixed size
Dein Kleider Metal Card Wallet is only suitable for credit/debit or business cards of standard sizes. Typically, any debit/credit card size is 3.37 x 2.125 inches and business card size is 3.5 x 2 inches. So, in case, you try to keep any card larger than this, you will end up messing that card.
Can’t keep more cards
Like I said, you can keep only 4 to 6 bank cards in this wallet. Therefore, if you are completely dependent on these (credit/debit) cards and you carry too many of these with you, then this wallet will be useless for you.
Regardless of these shortcomings, Dein Kleider Metal Card Wallet is a hundred times better than usual bulky leather wallets. If you really want to stay away from the RFID hackers and want to keep your card in good condition for a prolonged time, I would highly recommend buying this metal wallet.
So, are you using o you have any such smart wallet? If so, then please share your review with us. If you have any suggestions on this topic, then definitely tell us. We will be waiting for your suggestions and reviews.
Difference Between Attraction And Love
Attraction is the temporary love, but love is the permanent attraction.
Feeling attached to someone does not mean you are in love with that person. You are feeling this because you don’t see any difference between the attraction and love. Here’s how to find out the difference between attraction and love.
Self-Esteem Vs. Happiness
First, when you feel attracted to someone, you want to have that person with you until you really don’t have the same person. The worst thing is – to have that person in your life becomes a question of self-esteem. But, once you have that person, your interest for him/her starts declining after a certain time.
However, when you are in love with someone, you want that person to be yours, but happily. It is not about your happiness only. You want that person to be a part of your life wholeheartedly.
Demanding Vs. Giving
Secondly, when you are attracted to someone, you behave more possessively. The reason is the invisible connection among attraction, satisfaction, jealousy, possessiveness, and fear of losing your partner.
However, when you truly love someone, you do not expect anything in return. It is all about giving, be it love or sacrifice. The focus is always on the partner’s happiness.
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Winning Vs. Sacrificing
Unlike true love, attraction is dangerous. When you are attracted towards someone, the only thing that matters in your life is winning that person. At any cost, you want to keep that person with you regardless of her wish.
But, if you are in love; you will let her go if needed, and leave their fate to take its course. You won’t be putting any undue pressures.
Selfishness Vs. Others
Also, when you love someone, for you, it is all about the other person. For the first time in your life, you are going to prioritize someone else’s needs above your own needs. Whereas, in case of attraction, it is always going to be about your happiness.
Permanent Hatred Vs. Temporary Frustration
Love is wonderful at many things and can make you a better person. But, there is another truth. The closest feeling of love is hate. After you break up with someone, your love is going to turn into unjustified hatred.
In case of attraction, after breakup, you don’t feel like hating someone. For you it is going to be temporary sad feelings like anxiety, grief, irritation, and frustration for a very small period, but not hate.
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Limits Vs. No Limits
Lastly, another difference between attraction and love is – the actual length. Love never dies and never disappears in real time, whereas the attraction is limited for a certain amount of time.
So, what are you up to? Attraction or love?
RFID Debit/Credit Cards Hacking And How To Stay Safe
There is no doubt that science has made tremendous progress, especially in information technology and broadcasting sectors. With the advent of debit cards, credit cards, and ATM machines, dealing with money has become very easy. Consequently, we have witnessed an abrupt rise in the numbers of financial fraud cases. Debit cards, credit card, online banking, or ATM frauds are nothing new and we all know about these. However, not many people are aware of RFID (Radio Frequency Identification) scandals. If you are carrying a contactless smart debit or credit card, then you must read this article. In this article, I will be talking about RFID debit/credit cards hacking and how to stay safe.
What is a contactless smart card?
The type of (debit/credit) cards, most of us are using these days, are not RFID enabled. To make payments, you need to swipe them using a card reader. However, there are a few banks that have already started with RFID enabled debit/credit cards.
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These are better known as contactless smart cards with a chip that emits radio waves. Unlike other cards, you don’t need to swipe them. When an appropriate “reader” or “scanner” is activated, it scans the field nearby. If an RFID chip is in the field, its information is read and after performing the essential procedures, payment is processed.
How is RFID Debit/Credit Hacked?
Instead of writing a complete article on this topic, I would rather like to talk briefly about this.
Two types of skimmers are used for RFID hacking.
The first one is known as “insert skimmers.”As the name states, this skimmer is secretly but physically installed into ATM machines, gas pumps, self-checkout lane terminals or at other point-of-sale machines. When you swipe your card through them, they steal your name, card number, expiration date, and CVV code.
Now, what if a hacker installs it in a busy ATM? Can you imagine, how easily he can get access to the secret information of more than 100 users in a single day?
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The second is the remote machine. This can read your RFID debit/credit card from a few feet away and can transmit all your personal information to the hacker. Before you get to know, the hacker will wipe off your accounts.
How do anti-theft RFID metal card Wallet help in case of RFID (contactless smart) cards?
To make this clear, I would like to give you an example. Portray yourself on a foreign trip for a few days with your RFID debit/credit cards. Now, the moment you step in a busy mall with your RFID debit/credit card, a hacker steals out every required piece of information. Later on, through some bogus accounts, he transfers every penny you have in that account.
In such a case, lodging a complaint with concerned authorities is the only thing you can do. However, recovering money from those bogus accounts is not an easy thing to do and it may take months. And maybe you have to depart before they finish their investigation. The best way to protect yourself from such a big trouble is – having an RFID metal card wallet that prevents radio waves from emitting.
Do I Need to Buy RFID Metal Card Wallet?
If you have a contactless smart card or RFID debit/credit card, then you surely need one. However, you can still use it, even if you don’t have RFID enabled card. In any RFID metal card wallet, you can keep 4-6 bank cards including your license, etc.
When you keep your debit/credit cards in a regular leather wallet’s side pocket, they get easily damaged or tempered because they keep scratching against each other. However, should you use an RFID metal card wallet; you can easily protect your cards from any such damage.
It is your decision whether to buy an RFID metal card wallet or not. You can either spend a few bucks and buy peace of mind, or you can save a few and allow an RFID hacker to hack your contactless smart card.
7 Bank Charges To Look For Before Choosing A Bank
Although choosing a right bank is not as difficult as choosing a right life partner, yet it is not so easy that you can keep your hard-earned money in any random bank. Having your money in the wrong bank means financial stress.
There is no apprehension that banks are an essential part of our economy and for every service given, they debit our bank account with a few hidden and/or permanent charges. Many of us are not even serious about knowing these charges and later when we have to face financial hardship or fines, we are left with no option but regret. However, if we compare these charges with other banks, we will not only be able to avoid these worthless charges, but will also be able to choose a correct bank. I hope you know that your financial situation, to an extent, is directly related with your choice of bank. Therefore, here are the 7 bank charges to look for before choosing a (right) bank.
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AQB and AMB Charges
AQB (average quarterly balance) and AMB (Average monthly balance) i.e., minimum balance requirement adopted by most of the bank. Every bank has a limit of their own and should you miss to maintain it, you will then have to pay a certain amount as penalty. It is advisable to either go with a bank which has lowest or no AQB/AMB.
Cash Deposit Charges
Are you up for depositing a big amount of cash? Well, be prepared for a cash deposit charge. Now, banks are charging you for deposit cash after a certain amount say 50,000 per day.
They need resources to tackle this situation where you deposit huge amounts. The best possible way of saving yourself from such cost is, “online transactions or cheques.”
Outstation Cheque Clearance Charges
Outstation cheque clearance charges means you are asking your bank to walk that extra mile for you and without any shadow of the doubt, the bank will charge you for this favor.
In simpler terms, if you are accepting your local bank to clear an intercity cheques, the bank will charge you with a certain amount of fees; bigger the amount, bigger the charge.
To avoid this, how about having a bank account at the location of your regular debtor. All cheques will now be treated as local cheques and hence, no outstation clearance charges.
Cash Withdrawal Charges
Same as in the case of cash deposit; bank do charge you for big cash withdraws. Fees could be anything. The only solution to this is – ask yourself, do you really need that much amount? Alternatively, ask the receiving party, if they are fine with a bank cheque.
Another kind of charges where bank charge you for transferring the money on the same day to any bank account in Indian from your bank account. Though fees for the service is not very much, however, the suggestion is club all NEFT transfers that are for one same party.
Cheque Bouncing Charges
This is a hefty one. Single cheque bounce means nearly 250 INR deduction from your bank account. It further leads to poor creditability i.e., no more loans. Furthermore, you could be jailed for a bounced cheque. Be wise, never borrow more than your paying capacity and always keep your bank account ready for any installments due.
Debit Card Charges
This one attracts a lot of fees. Whether you use it or not, you still have to an Annual fees pay for it. Also, now most of the banks charge you for ATM transactions after a few free transactions (if not used in associated ATM). Before signing up, better compare banks for this charge.
Keep yourself updated with all the latest information issued by your bank through messages or newsletter and always keep your bank updated with your latest contact information.
5 Factors That Influence Job Satisfaction
What would be the answer if you tell your boss that, “I am not happy with my job?”
One hundred percent the next thing you got to hear will be – “I am sorry, but I think you need to read the appointment manual again and clause-III in specific & I think you should leave without wasting any further time.” If you are searching Google for the right definition of Job Satisfaction, I am afraid you won’t get any because until today there is none. But to keep it simple, “it is an extent to which employees either hate or love their job or in more technical terms it has something to do with an employee’s feeling about his work.” So, what about you? Do you really love your job?
Who is responsible for the poor performances? Ask management about their poor employee retention record, it is always workers at a fault. In the case of employees, it is always ‘blood sucking managers.’
Be it small scale firms or multinational like Infosys, Wipro, TCS attrition rate is booming. The annual attrition rate at Infosys stood at 18.9%, Wipro at around 15% and TCS shed nearly 48,000 employees, i.e., 4.9% in the Q4 of the fiscal year 2015.
Companies are organizing mentor programs, motivational lectures, offering perks, and benefits; doing every possible thing they can, to make sure the employees stay. According to the field experts (human resource), the economy is booming and so are the opportunities for the talent; give your employees a reason to bid farewell and they will do without even thinking what’s next.
To companies, it is always money because of which they fail to arrest the talent for a longer duration. Quite obviously money is a concern, be it a salary or profits, however, there are various other things that count. Let me share a few with you.
Relationship between remuneration and job satisfaction
“I work for money and if you want loyalty, hire a dog.” Money is a direct and most influential contributor when it is about satisfaction. Yes, you may say, money is not always the reason behind many who decide to quit, there are other factors.
This may be true for many, but admit it, are you ready to join a company who is known for its better working environment, but offers you a salary package that is 10% less than what you are getting now. The answer is,”no way!”
Moreover, without being a part you cannot judge the environment. Let me quote, “if you think – money cannot buy happiness, then my dear friend, you probably don’t know where to shop.” Value their skills according to the industrial standards and rest is assured. Always remember, “if you throw peanuts you will only get monkeys.”
Relationship between quality of promotion and job satisfaction
“Do you see growth?” It all begins from the day one of our kindergartens. “Be at your best and only then you can survive this cutthroat competition.” When it comes to the job, we all want to be a part of an organization with endless growth opportunities.
What’s going on! Where are you these days)?” Every time you are asked this question, you wish to throw a new answer; this a question of your growth. For job satisfaction, growth opportunities are equally important provided you have that x-factor.
Relationship between work environment and job satisfaction
Are you happy with the work environment? Do you feel over-pressured or underrated? A firm with ‘red-tapism and nepotism i.e., undue favoritism for a few at work is bound to have a high attrition rate.’
The environment plays an important role and it could dramatically affect the productivity. Whether you are an employee or employer, you need to root this disease out. For many, working environment matters the most and we know the environment is directly linked to psychology, thus, productivity.
Relationship between supervision + teamwork and job satisfaction
The managers and supervisor are the people who make sure that everything is running the smoothest possible. The research papers have proofs that supervision is a predictor of job satisfaction, the better you supervise things the best results you can expect from your employees.
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If you closely observe, the main reason behind the argument is the lack of the instructions that later on become confusions and finally, an unprofessional reaction. Unlike managements who do right things, the supervisor does things right.
“You can do what I cannot do. I can do what you cannot do. Together we can do great things – Mother Teresa.”
Relationship between job satisfaction and life satisfaction
“What would you do to the money earned if you have no time for enjoying it.” We cannot ignore the fact that there is a general spillover of our domestic life satisfaction over the work. If you are not happy at your personal shores, there are high probabilities that you won’t be happy on work-front.
Not every business is concerned with its employees’ personal fronts, but there are many firms who are working in this area as well. Should there be a transparency between the management and the employees to discuss any possible thing that they think is deteriorating their performance, job satisfaction can be increased.
To sum up I would rather say – contentment is an inner sense of security and we all have our own definitions of security and contentment.
Let is be job satisfaction or life satisfaction; it is a collective effort that starts from within.
7 Simple Ways To Tell If Someone Is Lying
We all must have told lies at least once in our life, be it our school, university or workplace, we are addicted to this ‘easy-to-skip,’ way out. We all know the plus and minus of befriending this ogre, but still, we enjoy speaking fictions.
Have you ever suspected that maybe your spouse, employee or a business partner is lying to you? Ever wondered, how come some people are very good at detecting lies of the others? In this article, I will be telling you about 7 simple ways to tell if someone is lying.
A study of several psychologists suggests that our instincts when we feel that someone is lying are quite accurate.
According to an expert from FBI (expert in body language and behavioral analysis) says that if you want to grab someone who is lying to you, you should practice on knowing how lairs behavior swings. You need to master yourself with finding the differences and analyzing person’s body language, the tone of voice, facial expressions, etc. There are some signs that you probably look pass normally, but if you pay a little attention you can clearly spot a liar.
Do keep a closer eye on hand gestures or point when the person is talking. Should you see useless movements; this is a sign that you need to remember. This asymmetry gesture appears when one says something and thinks something else and this results in a mismatch of gestures.
As well as facial expressions of the person may become asymmetrical, for example, a part of the face is strained and the best part is trying to smile. Paying attention to such details, you’ll be able to observe them easily.
There is another rule about improvisations and imagination. Scientifically, most people access the imagination when looking at the upper right. When you look in the upper left accesses memories, and in the top right imagines different things, including an untrue answer.
Replies Too Fast or Too Slow
If someone responds to a question very quickly say less than one second, it is a clear sign that the person was ready with an answer that is unlikely to be true. Usually, when a human mind is already prepared for the questions, there are high probabilities that it will have a pre-planned answer.
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When you’re not prepared to answer a particular question, it will take at least a second to offer an answer and this is what confirms the reality. Similarly is the case with when someone replies too slow. Likewise, if someone is finding it difficult to answer questions within an expected time frame, most likely he is cooking up a story in his head, thus, telling a lie.
Inability to Resume A Story in Reverse
Act a little smartly when you already know that someone is telling you a story. Try this one – listen to the story carefully and do not miss to note a few facts from the story. Then, interrupt the storyteller in the midway and ask him to reverse his story and pay close attention to those few facts that you have noted.
Listen carefully and check whether the facts are coming in the same order or not? Keep telling him that, “previously you said this or that and now you are telling me something else,” even if everything is in perfect order. If the story is improvised, the teller will have a long hesitation in giving you an answer.
Playing With Hands – Cover Their Mouth or Improper Touching
This is one of the easiest signs that you can tell when someone is lying as covering the mouth is an instinct with which we all were born. Ever noticed small children; when they say something stupid, they put their hands on the mouth immediately, as if they are trying to stop that nonsense out. With the time, we have mastered this gesture and often use this as an escape when we lie, albeit in a more subtle way. It is a kind of gesture that we human tend to perform spontaneously.
Storytelling Is Always Accurate
If you are telling a story that you already scripted well, there is no chance of mistakes or facts’ auto-correction. As you have already worked out those areas, so you make double sure that there is no flaw in your story.
In addition, you will prepare yourself with the counter questions in advance. Whereas, if you are sharing facts, most of the details will come to your mind along the way, which is why this sort of communication takes longer as you need more time to self-correct yourself from time to time. Therefore, if things are coming in one-shot – that is a story.
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Wrong Answer To Simple Questions
A liar will always give wrong answers to even the simplest questions and that too in a very prompt manner. For example – if you ask – where were you and you can expect the answer, “I have done nothing wrong.”
This means you are surely lying and you are also trying to avoid those questions. The logic is – when you ask a question of good faith and you are offered an answer with a very suspicious excuse; without any shadow of the doubt, you are served with a lie.
Look In The Eyes And Record Eye Movements
Do you know the science behind our eyes? The idea is that when a person moves his eyes up to the left, his brain is trying to access the memories of the past. In other words, he is going to tell you something that really happened in the past and that is the truth.
But, conversely, if the person moves up his eyes to the right, at this moment he is pushing his creativity, i.e., this time, his brain is sending signals to the creative centers. In other words, he is imagining things, thus preparing lies. It is a small “trick” and remembers this is not very tough either.
Usually, these signs are universal but must be interpreted with care. The presence of a single sign does not mean 100% that the person is lying or lied. However, the more signs simply reflect the higher probabilities of lies. Though this practice is not going to be an easy one, yet after a little practice, you will recognize very easily. Once you master these indications, you can be sure of not being duped again in your professional or personal life.
Liars don’t get second chances, and secrets don’t make friends. So open up and spill your guts. Be sure you make an honest mess.
Extramarital Affairs In India – Causes Behind Extramarital Affairs
Cheating is becoming a fashion nowadays, especially when it is about relationships. Despite knowing that after crossing the threshold of trust, we are cheating no one else, but self; we purposely vote for irreconcilable differences. A research revealed nearly one-third of the participants were in extramarital affairs, be it male or female.
We, the people of this nation are still struggling about its spuriousness and every individual have his/her own opinion about it; for a few, a mere mention is sinful, but for others, this is nothing but a result of bitterness in their existing relationship.
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We are human beings, we need love and care and that too on our own terms; the way we like it and the amount we want. Be it (hidden) polygamy or polyandry, the statistics are soaring and eating our relationships as termites.
Who is the main culprit? The question is like a table-tennis ball; when asked, both the husband and wife love to pass it on to each other and the game goes on as long as one misses the hit.
Should you ask a relationship expert, both are the offenders according to them. “It takes two to clap with one hand.”
Unlike other games, the one who plays (cheat) is the one who loses. The breach of trust that happens accidentally makes a person steps out of the sanctity of a committed relationship.
What makes someone to cross his/her limit and what makes him/her to cheat someone whom they took as their soul-mate a few months or years ago? The straight and simple answer is – stubbornness. We want to change every single person around us, but no self.
People look for solutions, but in real, the reasons are the solutions itself. Instead, finding solutions somewhere else, better go for a self-appraisal.
Getting Married for Right Reason
Never get married unless you understand the purpose of it. Most of the time, people tie knots for wrong reasons and family/society pressure is one of them.
Quite obviously, if you do something under pressure, you won’t be able to stick to that for a long. Be it a decision for marriage or something else, if you are not completely into it, you are going to regret one day.
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You may be forced to like someone, but the moment you find someone whom you start liking, you are bound to cross your boundaries. So, before getting married, priorities your expectations.
Learn to Append and Amend
Undeniably, life throws a lot of changes every day. To an extent, people try to cope up with those, but when they become a real-time challenge that is hard to deal with like longer financial distresses or serious illness; people apart their ways.
In such situations, they surrender them to new arms. Instead, learning to append and amend; being slaves of our senses, we behave the way our senses want us to.
Being Parents means Disturbed Partners
With a few exceptions, becoming a parent actually becomes the biggest challenge for some couples. Priorities change because after being a parent you go to allocate a big proportion of your time to your baby that you supposed to spend together earlier.
While mothers are busy being mommies, daddies miss the amount of attention they are addicted to. I do know many men who think the reason behind their extramarital affair is – feeling unimportant. It is okay to shift priorities, but one should not change them completely; adding new and deleting existing.
Physical and Emotional Discontentment
Despite any gender, given a chance, people won’t shy away from crossing the limits in the search of physical or emotional comfort. I have seen cases where the couple doesn’t talk much and the only topic they discuss is – household expenses.
There is no rocket science behind having an emotional connectivity with someone. You need to talk, you need to listen, you should share a few laughs, show your partner that you care because this is how you are going to connect with someone. Remember, we all are on an emotional roller-coaster ride where we always need a partner and we cannot afford disconnections.
Disagreements and Conflicts of Common Interests
Tough situations lead to tough decisions and one may have to pay a bigger price for it. Sometimes life behaves like a bitch and when it becomes a question of survival, you have to be a bitch too.
Whether it is about disagreements or about common interest divergence, your decisions may not be appetizing for the people around you, especially your spouse and this is the time that triggers extramarital affair.
Quite a natural phenomenon, if I am not finding anything common in my partner, I will incline to someone else who share the same interest.
Money is Honey and Honey is Money
We live in a world full of materialism and we need money to buy these material things. No doubt, money plays an important role in relationships today. We tend to fall for any support that knocks our doors at the hours of financial adversities. If that helping hand is offering a pair of ears as well for our woes; it is like a bonus for us.
Over Possessiveness and Over-Protectiveness
A required amount of possessiveness and protectiveness is desired and a must as well. But, “excess of everything is bad,” they say. Jealousy, over-possessiveness, over-protectiveness leads to doubt and doubts results in endless sessions of never ending baseless queries.
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Nobody likes when people raise baseless questions on someone’s integrity. After all, it is a matter of self-respect. “I mean, what is the point of 10 calls a day? No one wants to be tracked whole day.”
I have seen cases very partners get suspicious at the mere mention of an opposite sex colleague. For God sake, I don’t like anyone to tell me what should I eat or wear. We need to learn the difference between being possessive or protective and over-overprotective or over-possessive.
Insecurities, Attentions, and Lust for Flattery
Husband or wife, young or old; at a point of another, we all feel insecure, we all get laid for fake attentions. A few words of sugar-coated flattery speech in our ears and the affair is bound to happen.
All one got to do is – spot such a personality, feed him/her with your fake concerns and show that you are really worried about that person’s happiness; you are done. An extramarital affair is on its way.
These are a few reasons behind the rapidly plummeting graphs of morality among couples. I don’t advocate staying in a relationship that is already killing, but crossing the threshold for things that are amendable is no way a solution.
The word “Extra” might look tempting, but only for a few days. Then, this extra means – extra stress, extra defamation, extra tension, extra troubles, and finally, you will be treated as an extra.
Sony WI-C300 Wireless Stereo Headset – Used And Reviewed
If you are a fan of HD music and fond of headphones or headset, then surely you would love to read the reviews of others before spending a big amount on a headphone or headset.
Obviously, if we are talking about the brand, you won’t get their product at a cheap price and without checking people’s reaction for the same, it is not a good idea to buy. Different people have different opinions about headphones or headset. Someone likes to have a wired headphone or headset, while others prefer a wireless headset headphone. Personally, I do not like wired headphones because they get tangled, when not in use. And, most of the time, when you try to untangle them, they get damaged. I have lost many of my expensive headsets because of this nonsense only. So, keeping that trouble in mind, I recently bought Sony’s wireless headset. Today I will review .
Things that I liked in the Sony WI-C300
The packing is very simple but attractive. I hope you know that most of the Sony’s products are made in Vietnam and they are imported in India.
This headset is packed very beautifully in a white colored carton. I love the way branding is done on both sides of the box.
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On one side of the box, you will see the briefs like headset model number, Bluetooth compatibility, and affirmations about high definition music, battery life, and microphone.
On the opposite side, you will be able to see the guidelines for using it.
After unboxing that white carton, you will see another cardboard packing.
In this packing, you will get 5 things. Headset, USB cable (for charging), 4 extra silicon-made earbuds, instruction manual, and a reference guides.
By looking at its packing, you can have an idea of how serious the company is about this product. I have no issues with giving 5 points for the packing.
Let us talk about the main console of the . It looks like a black capsule.
You will see Sony branding on both sides of this console.
On one side of the console, you will be able to see three buttons.
The power button, a minus sign, and a plus sign.
On the second side of the console, you will see 4 other marks; forward, backward, stop or pause, and call answering.
But, these are just mere marks. They have no use. For these (music or call related) options, you will have to use the three main buttons (power button, minus sign and plus sign).
Now let’s talk about the wearing experience.
When I saw it for the first time, my initial opinion was that it is very beautiful and small size. Both earplugs look very beautiful.
On the earplugs, you will see awesome branding done by the Sony company.
You will see L and R for left or right earplug, as well.
There is no problem even after using the earplugs for hours
Apart from the , I also have a headset that came with the phone. But I have experienced a big difference with both of them. Although the two headsets are of the same size, I experienced a pain in my ears after using the headset (that came with the phone) after a certain time. However, it was not the case with .
Even after using for hours, I experienced no such troubles with Sony WI-C300 headset. Therefore, I must say, if you use headsets for extended hours, then the is the only better option. This is my personal experience.
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These headsets are battery operated, and you have to charge them before using.
To fully charge them, it takes at least 2 hours and you can charge them with a USB cable (comes with the packing).
You need to plug in the USB cable that came with the headset through the USB slot. You can charge it using your phone charger, or you can also charge is using the USB port on your computer or laptop.
The USB cable that comes with it is of very small size. Therefore, I used my phone’s USB cable to charge it. Its battery backup is also good and once it is fully charged, it lasts for at least 8 hours.
4 Color Variants
Sony WI-300 is available in 4 color variants and they look awesome.
It’s a Bluetooth headset and connects easily to any gadget that has Bluetooth. Whether you use an Android phone or an iPhone, pairing is very easy.
Although you can learn more about pairing from the reference manual, yet I will explain you the procedure through this article, as well.
If you want to experience high definition music, the is a better option.
This headset comes with noise cancellation i.e. you will not hear any other sound, except the music you are listening to.
Things I disliked in the Sony WI-C300 wireless stereo headset
Bluetooth range is low
Although it has been stated by the company that the Bluetooth range of this headset is 10 meters, however, I have experienced a few incidences of voice breaking, when I used it from a distance.
I believe you need to keep your phone with you all the time. I feel that this range should be a bit more.
No place for AUX cable
There is no space for AUX cable in this headset. In case, the battery of your headset dies, you won’t be able to use this headset until you recharge it.
Its price is much higher than the other wireless Bluetooth headset or headphones. There are many other good options available at such a price.
No Radio Support
After buying such an expensive wireless headset, if you can’t hear radio through the phone, then it is going to be a shocking and bad experience. Using this headset, you won’t be able to access the radio.
How To Use
If you are pairing your to your phone for the first time, then it will be very easy. You have to press and hold the power button on the main console until you see the blue and red light blinking on it.
As soon as you see the blue/red light blinking, you have to open the Bluetooth options on your phone through phone settings. Once open, you will see all the Bluetooth devices available in the range. Refer the below-given photo.
You have to touch the Sony WI-C300 and once done, it will connect.
When connected, you will hear “connected” from a headset.
Keep in mind, at one point, you can only connect this headset to one phone. And, if you want to connect with some other phone, you have to reset the headset. To reset, first, switch off the headset by pressing the power button.
Once its off, then you have to press the power button and minus sign until you see the blue/red light blinking.
This will reset your . After this, you have to repeat the process of pairing (described above).
Music Playing Option
To change music playing options, you have to use plus and minus signs.
For the next song, you have to have to press the plus sign until the song is changed and for the previous song, you have to press the minus sign until done.
You can also answer calls using your . To answer or end a call, you have to press the power button.
The call quality is good in this headset, and you can expect a top quality calling experience.
How to change earbuds
As I mentioned above, you will get 4 extra silicon made earbuds in the packing. You can use them according to your needs.
Be very careful, while changing these. When you want to change them, you are not supposed to pull them out, but rotate them in an anti-clock position.
And, when you want to put a new one, all you need to do is, put the earbud on the front of the earplug, and slightly push them inwards.
Overall, my experience with this headset is positive. Although there are a few issues like range and AUX cable, I believe that if you are a die-hard fan of high definition music and Sony, then these two drawbacks are not going to make any difference to your decision of buying this headset.
Eureka Forbes 100 Watt Car Vacuum Cleaner – Used And Reviewed
Regardless of what size your car is, we all want to look it clean and tidy. Undoubtedly, car’s cleanliness is as important as the home, especially when you drive a lot. In this case, you can not use a vacuum cleaner made for home cleaning quite often. However, to make sure that your car’s hygiene is up to the mark, you need a vacuum cleaner that is solely designed for this purpose. With this idea in mind, I recently purchased Eureka Forbes 100 Watt Car Vacuum Cleaner. In this article, I will be reviewing this Portable Forbes Car Clean Vacuum Cleaner.
Why is it necessary to buy a car cleaner
Before reviewing it, I would like to talk a bit about the importance of buying a car cleaner. We all know that the vacuum cleaners we use in our homes are not the one we can use for cars as they are made for intensive cleaning.
A little negligence in its use can cause serious damage to the interior of the car. In addition, there are three other reasons:
- The suction of vacuum cleaners used in homes is very high, which can damage the car.
- Vacuum cleaners used in the home are gigantic in size and it is not possible to keep them in the car, all the time.
- Residential vacuum cleaners need high voltage power and one cannot run it on a car battery for hours.
What I really Liked About Forbes Car Vacuum Cleaner
As always, I had ordered it from Amazon and I have no complaints about the quality of it’s packing. As usual, it was packed in a very good way and the product reached me in absolute conditions.
At first, when I saw it’s packing, I felt like it is an iron.
I never expected a vacuum cleaner in such a compact size.
Branding was nicely done by Forbes Company. In addition to branding, other important information related to the product.
Information like the serial number of the product, and some technical details were nicely printed.
In this box, I got 6 things and all were packed nicely.
In the box, I found a portable vacuum cleaner (with a 3-meter long extension cord), flexible hose pipe, 2-in-1 multipurpose brush, upholstery cleaner, crevice nozzle, warranty card and a guideline manual.
Design and weight
The best thing is that the weight of the vacuum cleaner is 0.85 kilogram, which makes it very portable and mobile; it can be easily taken anywhere.
Powered by the 12V cigarette lighter socket
This forbes car vacuum cleaner is easily powered by the 12V cigarette lighter socket in your car.
You do not need extra power to run it.
You can run it either on ignition or only on a car battery. Even in such a low energy, it produces suction of 100W and it offers a satisfactory cleaning.
Eureka Forbes Car Vacuum Cleaner can prove to be very laborious in cleaning faster and efficiently.
With the help of 3-meter long car charger wire, flexible hose pipe, 2-in-1 multipurpose brush, upholstery cleaner, crevice nozzle, you can clean the car with the best quality.
If you are cleaning car seats, baby car seats, speaker trays, car trunk or dicky, etc., then you can use upholstery cleaner or carpet cleaning brush.
The bristles are very soft. Using them does not harm your vehicle’s expensive car seat.
The best thing about this brush is that it comes with a swivel neck for flexible performance. And, is very easy to remove and replace.
The 2-in-1 multipurpose brush can be used to clean the area around the dashboard, AC duct, speedometer etc.
This brush can be used to clean up the delicate areas (mentioned above).
You can use the same brush to clean the area around ashtray, gearbox, and drink holder near gearbox.
Apart from all this, with the help of the flexible hose pipe and crevice nozzle.
You can easily clean the stubborn corners of the car seat and the areas in between.
Using these two accessories you can easily clean the dirt and dust between the seats, the cushions etc.
As we know, this is a bagless vacuum cleaner, so you don’t need to worry about changing the douche-bags.
To clean it, all you need to do is – release the dust cup.
This can be removed very easily. To remove this, you have to press the white button inwards.
Once done, you need to pull the cap outwards.
As soon as you press it, it will release the dust cap and the bag thereafter (with a purpose to stop the dust going any further).
Although, you don’t need to take this pouch out, yet, in case, you feel like, you can easily take it out.
The handle of Eureka Forbes Car Vacuum Cleaner is of very good quality and offers a good grip.
It fits well in your hand and does not slip at all. It gives a very good grip and offers top-notch cleaning.
The best thing is that if you use Forbes vacuum car cleaner for hours, due to low weight and excellent handle, you will experience any problems and you will be able to clean your car very well.
Things I Disiked About Forbes Car Vacuum Cleaner
Suction is neutralized at some places
I personally feel that at some points the suction of the Eureka Forbes Car Vacuum Cleaner is not so great. In many cases, its suction becomes neutralized. It takes too much effort to clean even small particles of sand or pebbles of soil.
As far as dried spots of milk, juice or other dried food stains are concerned, this vacuum cleaner is ineffective in those cases.
Need a bigger motor for better suction
I believe that to improve the suction of Eureka Forbes Car Vacuum Cleaner, it needs a bigger motor. A 100-watt motor is not capable of producing the required suction, especially if you are using it for a bigger car like XUV.
It is not that its cleaning is not efficient, but due to the small motor, cleaning takes a lot of time and efforts.
My overall experience with Forbes vacuum car cleaner was positive. At the price of , it is very difficult to have a car vacuum cleaner better than this. Although I feel a desperate need of improvement in the suction area, yet I feel if you clean your car on regular basis, then you don’t need any additional suction.
Top Reasons Why Good Employees Quit
I am fed-up here. I am just waiting for completing my second year with this company and then, I am going to quit. I really need a break from this place.
This is perhaps the favorite lunchtime topic of discussion and locating the associated group members is also not very hard; they are everywhere. No one is satisfied, be it a boss or employee. Dear employers, you need to admit that good employees are hard to find and hardest to maintain and very easy to lose. You need to understand why good employees quit.
Dear employers, after working with national and international employers, I have figured out a secret that predicts the success of your ventures. Employee retention is the thing that is going to decide your product’s fate.
Keeping someone on board just because he is with you for long is not going to add anything to your business, especially when they show no improvement in their skills and dedication. At the same time, when you add a new person to the board for the same project, you have to bear the irreversible cost of training and you will have to wait for exact performance. Therefore, I would like to say that if you are an employer, you must learn how to retain your excellent workers.
Trust me employers; if you do not know how to stimulate and provide a good working environment, you are going to lose your best warriors. But, you need to stop this. Avoid these mistakes.
Overburdening them with work
Most commonly, many employers do this mistake. Every employer wants his best men to do the job because they have the best solutions for everything. But, do you know this is not good for your best resources; you are overburdening them with work.
It is wrong policy, to keep your favorite useless employees on rest and overloading the workers who are already performing. No doubt, talented employees love challenges and they can accept a larger volume of work, but they will surely skip you try to steal their leisure time that they want to spent with family and friends.
Overburdening is not good for creativity and quality. And, a creative mind is not going to accept any compromise with his creativity.
Every person likes praise, in one way or another, especially when it comes to rewards for better performance. If you are forcing them to have a compromise about the rewards they deserve or expect, you are surely going to lose them.
Show Some Care
Do you know that many people leave their job because of relationship they share with their boss? You as a manager need to know how to balance professional and personal relationship. Should you disrespect their beliefs or priorities, they are going to resign. You need strong policies and you must make sure that those applies to everyone because in the lunch people going to talk.
Value Your Promise
When employers promise something, but never fulfill; have my words, they are going to skip you. As an employer you must understand you need to respect your promises, otherwise, good employees will write resign the faster you can expect. No one wants to work for a place where everything proves to be a “fake statements.”
In addition, allow your employees to follow their passion. Do not put unnecessary restriction because they are going to limit their productivity and satisfaction at work.
Nobody wants to work in a place that looks like a school where discipline is imposed on students only, not on management.
Is Sex Necessary For A Happy Marriage
People often ask us that their partner (in most cases husbands) ask for sex, every now and then. According to many women, talking about sex or having sex reflect your mental state. Many people have also told us that due to sex (absence or excessive sex demand), their marital life is getting worse