Should I stay in marriage for the kids?
Should I stay in marriage for the kids?
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Vishakha Rawal

Vishakha Rawal

A Wordsmith Trying to Win People With Her Words

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Marriage is not only a legal union but a sacred and a holy institution. It is a partnership where a Man and a Woman share different responsibilities right from raising kids together to support each other when the old age strikes.

It is a beautiful bond and the relationship is not only about the two people involved in it, it is about all the people associated with them, especially their children! When a child is born, parents are born. Children solidify a marriage and bring more love into it. But, sometimes things go wrong. Shit happens. There comes a time when you ask yourself, should I stay in marriage for the kids?

HIGHLIGHTS

  1. An institution called Marriage.
  2. Children and responsibilities.
  3. How divorce can impact your children.

No doubt, after becoming parents, a shift in priorities is very important. There are people, for whom accepting these changes and challenges are very hard. I have seen many couples losing their cool because of kids. For those parents, these little altercation because of their kids, later become an attack on their freedom and ego; step one towards divorce or separation.

Undoubtedly, there is always a solution to a problem. Talking instead of arguing can solve all big issues. It will be wrong to take any hasty decision with thinking of the repercussions. Losing one parent makes them lose a part of their life. And, psychologically, children of divorced parents, go through a lot of mental trauma.

If the kids are little, it will take away their childhood from them. The most common behavior patterns seen in the children growing up with a single parent are stress, anger, anxiety and a withdrawn state of mind. They also tend to develop selective perspective since they will always have to choose the either of the two parents.

There are many situations that need to be considered before jumping to any conclusion. Once you have kids, your life decisions are not only yours, they revolve around your kids as well which can highly impact them.

Try to sort out things between you and your partner. Still, if it doesn’t work, seek a consultation. Seeking help should be the first step whenever you feel an urge to part ways. There are many experts out there who can help you address your problems gracefully.

Don’t get me wrong and I don’t want to be biased with my opinions. I’m not advocating to stick together in an unwanted marriage just for the sake of your children. Each one of us has rights to live a happy life.

There can be nothing worse for the kids to see their parents fighting all the time. But, if divorce is the only way out, then you must prepare your wards for this separation.

According to the bible, “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. Like arrows in the hands of a warrior are children born in one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. They will not be put to shame when they contend with their opponents in court”.

Got the saying? Well in simple words, an archer always sharpen his arrow and put it in a quiver; similarly, a man should equip his child with valuable life skills to make him smart so that he is ready for the future.

Whatever you do, just make sure you build a warm and healthy environment for your kids while they are growing up so that they can turn into mature and responsible adults.

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