The biggest challenge for parents nowadays is – either they have no time for kids or they are completely free for their kids.
Many child psychology experts believe that overprotected kids never live their life to the fullest. No doubts, parents are now overprotective and the reason behind their this anxiousness is the safety of their kids.
- Over-protection affects the personality development.
- Overprotected children tend to be sensitive and kind.
- Overprotected children are often not respected.
Since last few decades, the number of kidnapping cases for ransom and trafficking has crossed their limits. However, dear parents, this over-protection is making your kid dependent on you and sucking up all the chances that a kid must take to grow.
Reminds me of my time of schooling. When I did primary school, both my mother and father were working. I remember, when I used to reach home, I never saw my parents home to open my door or put my meal.
I have seen a huge difference in today’s parenting and my time’s parenting. I really feel concerned when on the terms of protections, I am asked to wait out of the school gate and pick my ward. Every afternoon I feel like they are not kids, but intelligence bureau employees, working on a secret mission.
Before they reach the main gate, they have to pass through various levels of security. After passing all the cameras, before they reach a final gate, they have to pass through two bouncers who oversees everything; it seems like too much. I personally feel we are obsessed with control.
So, What can be done to reduce the control and keep the child safe? This is the question that we all are seeking answer for. Let us start from the very small things.
Analyzes the behavior that you have and write all the gestures you make. Once done, then rule out the gestures that are not absolutely necessary. Each such behavior must be identified and corrected time.
As a parent, you need to learn to see things positive. Think about good things and avoid staying with negative thoughts.
We are used to expressing love through concern. If we are not worried means we do not care. This is the wrong assumption. There are other ways, much better, to show and express love.
We can show love having respect for their choices, allowing them to choose themselves what they want to eat, what they want to wear, who to play with and so on. Allow your kids to learn the decision making secrets.
Dear parents, never ever put a label on your kid because he is going to live with that label. As soon as you put a label, it actually dictates your behavior. If you say you have a shy child, it will make your kid believe that he is a shy child.
Instead of overprotecting, allow your kid to have interactions with others, but be watchful because you cannot allow your kid to have the type of discussions unfit for them.
Allow your kid to grow to the fullest. The best way to prevent frequent and unnecessary intervention in the child’s life is to stay away.
Do not stand to watch him constantly, do not give advice; let them have a little free time. And, at the same time, you will be able to observe what your kid she really needs.
Also, analyze yourself because it is not only about your kid, but yourself as well. Why do you feel that he is in danger or helpless?
Are you afraid you will not be able to protect your kid. According to psychologists, the main reason behind such thinking is unpleasant encounters; you’ve missed much in childhood and now wants to compensate.
Last, but not the least, the more you do for your children, the less they will do for them. Your consistent interference (over-protectiveness) will make your kid believe that there is someone always there to do things for them.
Perhaps, this the reason they do everything at school, but complain when at home. Allow them to do things that they can handle of their own.