If you remember from your childhood, the moments when you felt isolated and wanted to stay inside.
Isolation and isolated children are not unusual, but at the same it cannot be overlooked. It can spoil your kid’s personality.
In fact, the truth is that isolation, the feeling of being marginalized in a particular group is very painful. There are two types of such children. Those who are temporarily isolated, but are accepted after a year or two and those who are labeled ‘other’ and are isolated for long periods of time (even more than 2-3 years).
Children who are isolated for more than two years are often perceived as being difficult character and qualities, which makes them seem unaccepted by their peers.
Usually, these children become very introvert or conversely, too extrovert. They either turn very emotional and isolated or almost aggressive, argumentative, competitive or extremely dominant.
These children are isolated because they are incompatible with the groups and colleagues. And, with the passage of time they become increasingly isolated.
An isolated girl or a boy may even refuse to leave the house or go to school. In the teenage years, they can turn into a depressed soul or even have suicidal tendencies.
The boys, if perceived as extremely aggressive by peers, especially around the age of 9-10 years old; can become an antisocial teenager.
Growing up, an aggressive child can be seen as a threat by colleagues and this leads to a further isolation. Meanwhile, the child will develop violent fantasies of revenge or look for a group of teenagers who are into anti-social activities.
A child who is extremely socially isolated – for whatever reason – is 6-8 times more likely to discontinue studies.
What can you do as a parent if you notice that your child is the isolated and excluded by colleagues?
As a parent, it hurts to feel like your child is isolated by colleagues. You need to play a mediator’s role in this scenario between your child and his peers.
The child may even find relief in this home atmosphere – but these feelings can only be seen as a temporary dressing.
Dear parents, you need to learn that he cannot avoid these moments of exclusion and isolation. It is you, who has to help him to learn to ‘work’ in a group of kids of his age.
Try to react as normal as possible to your child’s isolation. Teach him that this is something very normal; every second kid is shy. You need to make him believe that there is nothing unusual in this.
The problem arises when people feel ashamed of their own created isolated world, considering it as something abnormal. As a result, they begin to believe that they are different from others and retreat further into their shells.
As a parent, you need to seek the help of a psychologist who can make a big difference in a child’s shy world. Kids spend a good time at school.
Therefore, it is very important for any teacher that he must not treat that particular child differently. A teacher helps that kid to learn to overcome his isolation.
Teach your child that all shy are very brave because shyness requires more energy and courage to be defeated than their peers.