Does it matter if I marry late?

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Sukhdeep Singh

Sukhdeep Singh

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Passionate about playing with words. Sukhdeep is a Post Graduate in Finance. Besides penning down ideas, he is an expert online marketing consultant and a speaker.

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HIGHLIGHTS

  1. Putting off marriage has pros and cons.
  2. You can focus on your career, but miss out on having a child of your own.
  3. In this, we have to learn balance.

Getting married in your late 30s and 40s is becoming more common in our age. Sometimes people decide to postpone marriage because they are not sure about their partners’ commitment levels.

Another group fail to find satisfying relationships that can continue to marriage, but mostly, people put off marriage to focus on their careers.

In a case of late marriage, there are pros and cons that you need to be aware of as this helps take the full weight of your decision into consideration.

Pros of A Late Marriage

Career Growth

Putting marriage off allows an individual to focus on growing their careers. Since they have no commitments towards their partner, they can afford to travel on short notice, take more intensive jobs and work longer hours. This allows you to grow in your career with little or no distractions.

Increased Pool of Money

Since individually, each person focuses on their career this means that together they can have a higher combined income pool and savings which allow a big financial buffer for entering such a demanding institution as marriage. Together, older individuals can begin a comfortable life that is free of the inherent struggles commoner to a younger and more financially burdened couple.

Increased Emotional Intelligence

As we grow in age, we become more mature and experienced in handling relationships. Many studies point out that people who wait till their much older before getting married, are more understanding, have lesser fights and more persuaded by choices than mere feelings or emotions. Studies also report lower divorce rates, as each partner is more aware of their choice rather than just being swayed by infatuation or lust.

Cons of a Late Marriage

Increased Risk of Birth Problems

Couples who get married after the age of 35, may find it difficult to conceive, especially if there is early-onset menopause. With increased maternal age of over 35 years, there is also an increased risk of birth abnormalities like cerebral palsy, Down’s syndrome and other mental retardation problems. Couples in this situation may have no choice but to consider artificial insemination, surrogacy and adoption. This also means that they miss out on having a child of their own.

Career Precedence

In some cases, after putting a lot of work into a career, a person might find it difficult to adjust to married life. He/she may not be willing to make the required sacrifice needed to grow a marriage. Instead, they may not want to give up on their status at their workplace and this could lead to a lot of marriage woes.

Emotional and Mental Anxiety

This is more prevalent amongst women, who after a certain age begin to feel their biological clock ticking and with this, an onslaught of emotional and mental anxiety ensues. Will I ever get married? Will I never have a child? What if I don’t find someone? Thoughts of these kinds can be harmful to a woman’s mental and social health.

Also, people who put off getting married may have to deal with issues of loneliness and a lack of companionship which marriage offers.

Putting off marriage for the sake of a career or because we have commitment issues is okay only for a certain time. We have to strive to deal with our commitment issues and face them head on. Career- focused people must also learn how to balance their work needs with their relationship needs.

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