Beauty Lies in the Eyes of Beholder – A joke! Right ?

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Sukhdeep Singh

Sukhdeep Singh

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Passionate about playing with words. Sukhdeep is a Post Graduate in Finance. Besides penning down ideas, he is an expert online marketing consultant and a speaker.

There are three connections that we need to look closely before forming any relationship, i.e. physical, emotional, and spiritual. No wonder, sexual chemistry lasts for a few years and then it is all about emotional and spiritual connectivity. So, watch out carefully for your reason behind rejecting someone.

“Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder!” Isn’t it a joke, when it comes to reality? Be it any era, we judge books from its cover and not the content. We prejudge worth of something by its outward appearance. Be it a living thing or non-living thing, should it fail to impress our eyes, we have a tendency of rejecting it without giving a second thought. A particular section at this part continent is so mad about this external appearance concept that they would do anything for the sake of a fake compliment. But, reality is – looks fade & personality stays.

Every day, I came across thousand of articles and advertisements about Personality development and to my wonder, most of them only talks about how you should look, how you should comb your hair, what color of shirt and tie you must wear, why you need to work on table manners, how important is to speak impressive, how to deal situations with positively and so on. Watch out closely; everything is again about how you want people to see you; outward appearance. There are countless cases where boys and girls do face rejections because of their looks, be it a job interview or relationship. A physical abnormality defines a person as whole and something about which he/she is helpless becomes an eclipse; hide all his/her other qualities. No matter, how good head you have on your shoulders, but if you have an ugly appearance ( I am sorry for using this term), people are going to reject you.

If I talk about employment section, nowadays, most of the employers are not after skills, but looks that kill. “Receptionist wanted with good looks (and not personality or telephone. Teachers (female only) required for a coaching institute and not a kindergarten, where most of the students are going to be male.” Can you sense the logic behind it? No offense, but should you see an employer who is more concerned about your looks and not your accomplishments, you will be more of a showcase to that employer and you will not be paid for your skills, but for entertaining his/her clients with your looks. Are you not selling yourself as a commodity? Sometimes I wonder, how these sorts of employers choose qualified candidates on the basis of looks? In simpler terms, half-baked brains are judged by completely rotten brains.

Do you know the cosmetic industry in India is growing at a break-neck pace; registered a business of ₹60 billion and expected to reach ₹170 Billion by the end of this decade (2020). Are we ever going to rectify our definition for beauty?

This plague is not confined to only job appointments. I have been around the world and I have interracial friends too. I had a good discussion about this with my overseas friends as well. To them, looks is the last thing they care about and they reject people because of their behavior, habits, cultural difference, finances and their attitude towards life. But, in our part of the globe, it is completely the other way around. Keeping other things aside, how personal looks will decide, how I am going to treat him/her. Without any surprise, I feel no hesitation in saying that innumerable marriage proposals are dropped at either after the photo-sharing stage or exactly after the first physical meeting. “A beautiful girl is half-married,” they say and for someone with outward appearance flaws, marriage is a dream come true.

Same is the scenario with the love matters. The meaningless celebrations like Valentine’s day, hug day or kiss day are reserved only for good looking couples. Many of us feel uncomfortable when it is about introducing an average looking partner with someone who have great looks. Take an example of Dating or matrimonial websites, profile photos are always on the top. These websites have strict policies for profile photos and they barely care about the genuineness of someone’s academic or professional qualification. Love at first sight,” is a quote that makes me laugh out loudly and always remained a favorite topic cashed by our film and advertisement makers. But, do you think, any such thing really exists? Aren’t we confusing infatuations with love? How can one be in love with someone who is a complete stranger to him/her? “Just because she looks good; makes me fall for her instantly.” Quite obviously, there has to be a physical attraction, but how fair is it to reject someone just because of it? Especially, in India, boys and girls are now becoming more concerned about how they look.

Do you know the cosmetic industry in India is growing at a break-neck pace; registered a business of INR 60 billion and expected to reach INR 170 Billion by the end of this decade (2020). Are we ever going to rectify our definition for beauty? We need to learn that for any sort of relationship, be it professional or personal, appearance can never be a great basis. There are three connections that we need to look for before forming any relationship i.e., physical emotional and spiritual. By physical I mean, sexual chemistry, by emotional I mean emotional connection and by spiritual I mean compatibility of ideologies. No wonder, sexual chemistry lasts for a few years and then it is all about emotional and spiritual connectivity. So, watch out carefully for your reason behind rejecting someone.

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