As parents, sometimes it becomes very difficult to manage a child who is aggressive for no reason. Having a child who hits others, can be very embarrassing. And this behavior is not rare at all, especially at young ages.
Growing up an aggressive can be really difficult. And, it becomes a challenge when this type of behavior becomes frequent. After a certain point, this kind of aggressive behavior become a normal way of reacting at every little inconvenience. Now, at this point, as a parent, you have two options. One is – responding to an equally aggressive behavior by screaming. And, the second option is – trying to sort the issue from its root and teaching him to control his impulses.
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Understand The Causes First
To do so, you first need to understand the causes of aggressive behavior in children. The more the parents understand what is causing him to behave in that way, the more you will be able to find the right, non-aggressive solutions to solve his problems.
Usually, kids try to mimic the aggressive behavior of the other children they play with. All of this is perfectly normal to a certain extent, but that does not mean we must tolerate or ignore the aggressive behavior of our kid. Instead, we need to teach him other more appropriate ways of expressing feelings.
You need to supervise your kid for his negative reactions to frustration, stress, extreme mania, over-stimulation, exhaustion, etc. We need to closely watch the reasons that are compelling him to do. You need to check whether that negative behavior is in response to anger or strong emotion? After understanding the reasons, you need to observe how he behaves in a certain situation.
I am one hundred percent sure that should you try to find our answers to these aforesaid questions, you will surely find the exact cause behind his aggressive behavior.
How To Manage And Prevent Aggressive Behavior
I am not in favor of physical punishment because penalties are going to spoil the whole show. The best way is – logical consequences. Punish your kid logically because this is how he will learn that each action will attract a consequence, be it a good or bad. This will help him in having a right decision in the future, both at the playground and in his life.
At the very first sign of aggression, intervene immediately and take your kid out of that altercation. You are not supposed to pay too much attention to the issue at that time because it is going to encourage the negative behavior.
If you feel that it is becoming very hard for you to remove your kid from the situation, the best thing you can do is remove the opponent. In this way, you will convey the message that your kid can have your attention when he calms himself down. This will also make him learn that it is his responsibility to calm down and act properly.
Lower your voice, do not lift it
As parents, we need to show self-control and must not use harsh or loud words. If we are doing so, we cannot expect our kids to behave in a civilized manner. Screaming with anger is easy, but we must remember that we are setting an example.
At a later stage, you may have to regret on your this attitude.
Teach The Child That Aggression Is A Bad Thing
It is also important to talk to the child about his aggressive behavior. You need to show some patience while explaining to him that hitting, biting, other aggressive behaviors (spitting, for example) are wrong and unjustifiable actions.
Many parents get angry and frustrated when their child behave aggressively. If you have an aggressive child, focus on helping him in a better way. There is no use of comparing or physically punishing your kid. You are the one behind his aggressive behavior.